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to be pissed off at this note left on my car - I want to reply but DH says don't

209 replies

CalmaLlamaDown · 15/02/2012 21:44

Few weeks ago neighbours left a note on my car saying don't park opposite our house as we have a newborn baby and it makes it difficult. I am not totally sure what they mean as they have 2 cars and 2 side by side spaces on their drive.

Anyway, no big deal to us, we have avoided parking there since. Now today we are parked further down the road and get another note saying they think we reported them to the police for damaging our car and that it wasn't them.

I want to send a note back saying I don have the foggiest what they are on about but DH says leave it as might end going back and forth etc. If we don't reply will they think it was us that reported them? I want to tell them to bog off to be honest.

Any ideas for a suitably polite response?

OP posts:
randommoment · 16/02/2012 22:50

Llama where are you???? You can't leave us dangling like this!

Threeprinces · 16/02/2012 23:10

Maxybrown re "Please don't park here - disabled access needed" signs, they are not legally binding but they are what you have to have up for 6months or a year (can't remember how long) before the council will paint a disabled bay outside your house. My SIL had to do it and had to state that it hadn't made any difference to her being able to park near her house with her severely disabled DD. After the appropriate amount of time the council then painted a space outside their house.

OP - I too want to know what happened, update us please!

randommoment · 16/02/2012 23:16

If a sign just says 'no parking' (like the one in the window of a cottage near here) I ignore it, if it says something like 'please don't park here, disabled access needed' I'll respect it.

breatheslowly · 17/02/2012 09:46

I think that popping round, being friendly and maybe taking something will model good behaviour, as you would with a child.

maxybrown · 17/02/2012 10:04

Thanks threeprinces! I had just wondered the other day when we saw itd ust as Ihad never seen one before on a main rd like that! Interesting Smile

Merran · 17/02/2012 11:56

So? (marking place again)

Maybe the OP has been kidnaped by loony neighbours?

thebody · 17/02/2012 13:33

Sound nutty, knock and chat but don't go in the house by yourself!!

Also anyone can park in any unrestricted area of road, our neighbours often park outside our house, leaving their drive free!!would live to stick a note on their car telling to fuck off off but restrain myself.

Pendeen · 17/02/2012 13:59

lurkinginthebackground

" The lunatics on the corner had their drive widened to fit several cars on, they also erected a 6 foot wall. It all looks very nice except it means that noone can see whilst pulling out or into our cul de sac. "

How long ago was this? This work would require planning consent to do that. Such consent is almost always refused (for very ovious reasons).

GoingForGoalWeight · 17/02/2012 14:15

Is OP under the new patio? :(

ragged · 17/02/2012 16:19

(sorry, am a saddo who loves loony people threads)

NettoSuperstar · 17/02/2012 16:28

My bonkers downstairs neighbour has visitors who regularly block my car in/out.
The only reason I have not complained to the HA is because they are a well known violent not friendly family.
I do, however, get all passive aggressive and park my car where they do.
The only thing my car is blocking is my own drive, but they have to park over the road where they should be in the first place.

limitedperiodonly · 17/02/2012 19:07

ragged I love loony neighbour stories having many of my own.

DH thinks we're cursed whereas I read threads like this and think we're in good company.

GoingForGoalWeight · 17/02/2012 20:10

Helloooooooo.......

oldraver · 17/02/2012 20:28

Years ago I had to park in the next street when visiting a friend... she wa saghast when I told her where I'd parked as the woman was crazy about people parking outside her house. And yes as I went back to my car to get some stuff she came out and gave me the third degree about how long I was going to be there.

Now, she had a drive, no one was blocking it, it was a street not overly full but was used for parking... her reasoning was 'she didnt want to look out of her window at my car' just like the poster upthread.. it wasnt like it was a rust bucket or anything though except its quite bright yellow.

When I came back i found some sticky stuff all over the windscreen and side window Angry

ifeelloved · 17/02/2012 20:40

Now I get annoyed when our next door neighbours family park outside our house (quite often blocking the drive). They seem to think that this is the only family that gets visitors.

However I know I am being extremely unreasonable and would never say a word (apart from when they block our drive) except to DH who then laughs at me. It is my problem and I need to get over it as its a public highway.

If anyone ever had a go at me for parking outside their house I would pay no attention what so ever and think they were madder than me Grin

Don't write notes, talk to them FFS!

GoingForGoalWeight · 17/02/2012 20:42

oldraver i mean who the actual fuck does she think she is? Angry on your behalf and at the parking nutcases.

MateyMooo · 17/02/2012 20:49

they dont actually own the road do they?
ignore the notes
treat them with a friendly wave if you see them

put it down to baby brain.

Everyone is allowed to park on the highway as long as the vehicle is taxed etc, and ensuring the Highway Code is followed.

?DO NOT PARK in front of an entrance to a property? - Highway Code point 217

notice it doesnt say - opposite an entrance to a property

No one has an automatic right to park outside their own homes if parking on the street, but manners often say otherwise and neighbours often respect each others unwritten or even unspoken agreements to respect parking areas.

Snakeonaplane · 17/02/2012 20:55

Marking place for update.

Our neighbours parked their car right outside our house and went away for 3 weeks, I moaned everyday to dh about getting the dc out of the car etc. One day after they came back, I was at work and she called in and said to dh "did you leave this note on my car" it was a rant about her inconsiderate parking that had been left anonymously, dh says "I didn't but my wife might have" thanks dh, I bloody didn't I'm much more direct than that. I guess she'd pissed the other neighbours off. I had to go around to talk to her but she never believed me that it wasn't me, apparently she was friends with all the other neighbours Angry.

rosie0000 · 17/02/2012 20:56

I was accosted one day by an irate man who proceeded to have a go at me (in front of my 2yr old) about parking opposite his drive, as he was having difficulty getting his Jag out. I pointed out it was a public road, therefore I could park wherever I damn well pleased and if he was having trouble driving such a big car, maybe he should get a smaller one- like a mini.

harrietlichman · 17/02/2012 21:01

Also marking place - I hope OP is coming back, I have read the whole thread trying to find out what happened (must get out more...)

lisbethsopposite · 17/02/2012 21:14

Marking my place

oldraver · 17/02/2012 21:44

Going I didnt notice until I drove off as well. My friend was really worried parking outside would antagonise her and said I should move but I couldn't be arsed.

This was in Marlborough... and luckily I've never had the need to go back

I live in a road that very rarely has any cars parked on it, just the next door but one. Lived here for 13 years and no trouble until a few years ago when someone new moved in next door.. who started to come out and tell off any visitors parked outside his house. (our seven houses at the end are off a drive so no parking for visitors). I'm sure he wound up next door but 1 who had never been a bother but suddenly started to take his other car off his drive and block you in by parking right up to your bumpers. Then across the road started to leave notes on any car outside her house with the excuse ...
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Please dont park here you are blocking the fire hydrant excess..... funnily she doesn't seem bothered when her son parks his van there.

runforthesun · 17/02/2012 21:58

Marking space .. what is it with parking and neighbours ? We moved to current house as it had a driveway and thought all parking problems would be over, oh no, no fecker uses the drive, then they wonder why there is nowhere for their visitors to park !! and breathe.

CaptainKirk · 17/02/2012 22:08

We had a note exchanging episode with our neighbour over parking shortly after we moved in. First she put a note on our car, then I wrote a nasty one back that my wife made me re-write to be more diplomatic, and then she came over and talked to us about it. 8 years on we are great friends, their kids play with ours, etc. There's a lot to be said for just going and speaking about it!

springydaffs · 18/02/2012 03:23

I just don't get this tbh. I agree that leaving a note is a bit.. tense but i'ts perfectly ok imo to let a neighbour know that their parking is incovenient. I would say that though because I asked my neighbour if they'd mind not parking directly opposite my drive and I was amazed at the response - really, astonished: she got really funny! We have coffee together and I was just so surprised at her response - it was a perfectly ordinary thing to ask: I back into my drive because I have a horror of backing out and running over a child. Yes, I can get in (and out) with a 65-point turn but it would all be much simpler if people didn't park opposite my drive!I'm not saying they are disgusting pigs to park opposite my drive, I'm just saying hey, would it be ok if you moved your car along a bit. Totally ordinary exchange imo.

I am AMAZED at the people suggesting you are horrible to them! They are your neighbours ffs - you do everything you can to get on, surely?