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to be pissed off at this note left on my car - I want to reply but DH says don't

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/02/2012 21:44

Few weeks ago neighbours left a note on my car saying don't park opposite our house as we have a newborn baby and it makes it difficult. I am not totally sure what they mean as they have 2 cars and 2 side by side spaces on their drive.

Anyway, no big deal to us, we have avoided parking there since. Now today we are parked further down the road and get another note saying they think we reported them to the police for damaging our car and that it wasn't them.

I want to send a note back saying I don have the foggiest what they are on about but DH says leave it as might end going back and forth etc. If we don't reply will they think it was us that reported them? I want to tell them to bog off to be honest.

Any ideas for a suitably polite response?

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/02/2012 22:33

Oh also they are not next door to us, i meant neighbours as in a few doors down...

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CakeMixture · 15/02/2012 22:35

place marking cos I want to know what gappens next :o

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/02/2012 22:37

Goolash, their car was not damaged, neither was ours but the gist of their note was someone has reported them to the police for leaving notes and causing damage, bizarre isn't it.

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forward · 15/02/2012 22:38

I think their point was that because of the newborn they need better access to their car than "ordinary" people. Nonsense of course, but not an unusual worry for new parents - what if we need to get to hospital etc. Or maybe they need to leave more room to the side of their car to get the carseat in, so they have less room to manoeuvre than the previous residents - unless OP talks to them we'll never know!

Exactly Salmotrutta - it depends on what access these people need to their drive - my Dad was advised by the police, that it doesn't matter if a more skillful driver could get a car off his drive, if he can't then no-one's entitled to park opposite it.

runningwilde · 15/02/2012 22:39

Why the hell is it difficult for them if you park opposite?!!!! They sound like total arses and you need to speak to them to see what their fucking problem is to see what is bothering them and to put them right with the car. They have probably left notes over lots of cars and someone has complained to the police. Keep us updated. They are arses.

runningwilde · 15/02/2012 22:41

I would also park opposite again deliberately they don't own the fucking road! Who the fuck do they think they are?!

Arses!

mercibucket · 15/02/2012 22:43

so they've been leaving notes on everyone's cars then? mental health issues?? bet someone did report them. bet they've also left that same second note on everyone's car to try and 'smoke out' the one who dobbed them in. crazies alert

Salmotrutta · 15/02/2012 22:47

I think the Road Traffic laws may be different up here forward (not sure though) but it's my understanding that someone parked opposite your drive up here on a normal-width road would not be contravening any by-laws.

HereIGo · 15/02/2012 22:50

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/02/2012 22:50

Merci - I think you are right, the second note was typed out whilst the first note was handwritten, they must have run off a few copies. Bloody nora, I might not be the on one knocking on their door tomorrow!

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 15/02/2012 22:53

I wish I'd known about this newborn baby rule. We don't have a driveway and I frequently have to park in the next road and schlepp dd1, dd2 and various paraphernalia along two streets. It gets on my tits tbh. I'd leave a note if I could!

MrsJamesMartin · 15/02/2012 22:53

Just go and speak to then.

RhinosDontEatPancakes - why do you leave the notes? You may get annoyed but a taxed car on a public road can park there and bugger off into town if they wish.

Goolash · 15/02/2012 22:54

Ahh right, they're nuts.

StealthPolarBear · 15/02/2012 22:55

Take them a pack of PomBears and a link to Mumsnet
Get this htread deleted first though

ExitPursuedByaBear · 15/02/2012 23:00

Were you parking legally? They sound a bit deranged. Pop round for a chat about parking etiquette.

Salmotrutta · 15/02/2012 23:01

I am none the wiser after google (lots of people asking the question but no-one really knowing the answer!) - BUT you should NOt be reversing out of a drive. You should reverse INTO your drive.
I always reverse in - but I am a competent driver.

perceptionreality · 15/02/2012 23:03

Oh dear, another case of entitled parents with a PFB - why on earth does parenthood do this to some people??

Pandemoniaa · 15/02/2012 23:08

They are clearly bonkers. I'd be inclined to do nothing.

Goolash · 15/02/2012 23:08

On our drive one person has to reverse in, the other reverse out, due to the one way street and lamp post.

VivaLeBeaver · 15/02/2012 23:08

Sounds like they've been leaving notes on a few cars. I'd definetly go round and say it wasn't you who reported them.

There is a bonkers woman round the corner from me who left a nasty note on my car when I parked opposite her drive. She said if I parked there again shed call the police. I parked there every day for the next two weeks, I never had a visit from the police.

I didn't know what the woman looked like, then one day got talking to a woman while dog walking. She was moaning about parking and I wondered if it was her. So I moaned about the bat shit crazy person who'd left a note on my car. She Shuffled off, another neighbour was there and wetting herself laughing and said it had been the crazy note writer!

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/02/2012 23:09

Exit - yes we were legal.

Stranded - I think a fruitshoot is more suitable than pombears for a newborn don't you?

Cheers everyone for the advice, I will update tomorrow.

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flyingspaghettimonster · 15/02/2012 23:10

Anyone else thinking the second note means they originally clipped your car trying to get out, so left a note asking you to move it, and then their guilty conscience meant they thought it must be you who reported them later? Either way, park far, far away and check your car carefully for scratches...

lou33 · 15/02/2012 23:18

I live in a narrow road and 90%of the time there is a car parked opposite my drive which makes it tight getting in and out, and it is usually my neighbour parking one of their cars . They have ample parking space outside their own front door but choose not to, and have even gone so far as to put cones on the road to stop anyone else from using the space.

Another neighbour took "their" spot for a few days and found a note on his van saying he had to move it because they didnt like looking at it from the kitchen . Between their kitchen window and the van there was a 6 ft brick wall, so not entirely sure what it was they didnt like that they couldnt see.

I sometimes daydream about stealing the traffic cones and putting an anonymous note on their car demanding a ransom of some sort.

OldMotherDismass · 15/02/2012 23:20

Our road is very narrow and people used to park opposite our house till we scared them away . When ds1 was a baby it was a pain if people parked opposite, as it meant we couldn't put the car in front of the house and therefore couldn't transfer him easily into the house when sleeping. We do have a drive, but it is detached from the house and much more difficult to get sleeping baby from car to house than simply parking the car at the front. Could it be an issue like this?

Naoko · 15/02/2012 23:20

They sound a bit odd, but I agree talking to them might clear up a lot of it, especially if they have a newborn and are perhaps not thinking entirely straight through stress and/or sleep deprivation. I do silly things when stressed or tired and always end up apologising for it later.

And today I really had to hype myself up to have what I thought would be a really awkward conversation with the builders working next door because they keep moving my bins to get their van in (which wouldn't be a problem if it didn't end up halfway up the road and missing). Actually it turned out they hadn't realised it was a problem, didn't mean to imply they were pissed off with me by moving my bins every time I put them back, and immediately offered to move my bin round back and take it out on bin night until they finish the building works, because their stuff is in the way and i can't do it myself. So it might not be as bad as you think!

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