To think it's odd no picture yet of new baby?

[doradaisy]

One of my close friends had a baby 3 days ago - was ages before we got the obligatory text to say weight/time of birth and then I found out from another friend what name was.

This friend is an avid facebook user and keeps saying she'll put up pic but hasn't yet although I know she's using her Iphone in hospital to comment and 'liking' message/statur updates.

Am delighted for her - why she doesn't want to show off baby is beyond me?!

Of course I probably sound v nosey and dying for info I know what it's like to be mad busy in first few days after giving birth, but does this strike anyone as odd??

Will have to wait for Hello magazine exclusive maybe?!

Maybe the baby is still looking quite squished and hasn't reached its potential cuteness yet.

Tbf, there are some scary looking newborns out there.

She probably wants the family to see baby in person before its splashed all over facebook

YABveryU

Get a grip.

What if the baby has some kind of problem that she doesn't want nosy people to know about? Or what if she just hasn't got around to the hassle of uploading a photo, which is much more hassle than just posting. Also, hospital TV computer things are crap and may not have USB ports.

Is her OH an avid facebook user? My OH hates FB with a passion (says it's for curtain twitchers and people with no social life ) and I am absolutely certain that he would go ballistic if I posted a pic of our newborn on the internet before all close family and friends were introduced to the new addition.

Maybe because it looks like a steak and kidney pudding right now?

Either way, I can't stand people splashing their kids all over the internet.

I remember the embarrassment of my Mum getting the family albums out when my Aunts came to visit, I would have been mortified if we'd had the world wide web back then.

When I had dd2 I was being hounded by people to SHOW her off on face book. I ended up deleting every one that had made a comment

YABU. And weird.

YABveryU

Get a grip.

What if the baby has some kind of problem that she doesn't want nosy people to know about? Or what if she just hasn't got around to the hassle of uploading a photo, which is much more hassle than just posting. Also, hospital TV computer things are crap and may not have USB ports.

Thanks for replies - am sorry if I sound v nosey and inappropriate - just wanted to get a mumsnet opinion - as of course she has every right NOT to put pics up

sorry, computer issues.

YABW

W = weird

I cannot understand the concept of putting pictures of your kids all over the internet.

I assume you can't visit then.

I use facebook lots, I feel I have a right to choose what pics and info about myself I put "out there" forever about myself. I do not feel I have the right to doccument another person's life online, If when my son is older he wants his life from birth on the internet then it will be his choice to upload his old childhood pics. But for now I am very selective and only post a few family pics, much much less than I would put up about myself

YABVU, send your email address and ask for some pics if you want them

If she's such a 'close friend' offer to go and meet the newborn in person instead of questioning her motives on the internet.

True of course yellow but it's not 'all over the internet' just to facebook friends and family surely?

Probably because she can't get a good picture with her smart phone and is waiting until she's able to sit down with her computer, plug her digital camera in find some nice ones and put them up.

Tess I think you can post straight to FB from an Iphone without the need for a USB lead.

Mind you, she might be waiting for a professional photographer to pop the baby in an over sized plant pot and dump a daisy on its head

Bloody hell talk about the Facebook/digital era - why the hell does everyone expect, nay demand, to see newborns straight away like it's their god given right?

YABsooooooU

Oh gosh, am being flamed!

Of course I'm going to visit her but am leaving her a few days to get used to her NB

facebook owns the photo once you've uploaded it, and you don't fully delete anything off there it's all archived, you loose some control over what you put on facebook regardless of no of friends and privacy settings.

YABU. Like others have said, maybe the baby has a problem, maybe she is just too busy gazing at it or maybe there are family members who havent seen it yet.

Mind you I think people are going to start defriending me on FB as DS is all over the place and for a while, every new babygro, bath, facial expression warranted another new picture . Have calmed down a little bit now

Sorry hon, YABU. One girl's "can't wait to show off my baby" i another girl's "aaarg, just give me a moment of privacy". Or as you say partner may have vetoed a photo. Plus - three days!!- give the girl a break, she's probably got the 3 day blues and is sobbing into her cornflakes!!

Not odd at all - I would find it more odd for someone to have pictures etc up immediately. She's probably too busy with the baby to be messing about picking her favourite pictures and uploading them to the internet right now.

Oh good god, can a woman have no time to spend without expectations.

We have a no photo rule until siblings GP etc have seen the baby. It is awful for them that the first time they see the baby is on the internet.