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To think it's odd no picture yet of new baby?

70 replies

doradaisy · 15/02/2012 18:21

One of my close friends had a baby 3 days ago - was ages before we got the obligatory text to say weight/time of birth and then I found out from another friend what name was.

This friend is an avid facebook user and keeps saying she'll put up pic but hasn't yet although I know she's using her Iphone in hospital to comment and 'liking' message/statur updates.

Am delighted for her - why she doesn't want to show off baby is beyond me?!

Of course I probably sound v nosey and dying for info I know what it's like to be mad busy in first few days after giving birth, but does this strike anyone as odd??

Will have to wait for Hello magazine exclusive maybe?! Grin

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QuietOhSoQuiet · 15/02/2012 18:55

YABVU,she has just had a baby ffs,if fb hd been around when mine were born I doubt I would of had the energy or enthusiasm to put a picture on there or is that just me that was pooped after spawning children :o

catgirl1976 · 15/02/2012 18:58

I put the first pick up withni 1 hour of giving birth quiet Blush

mind you then I did my work emails from my phone

DS was asleep, DH had gone home too sleep it was 5am and everyone else was asleep so there wasnt much else to do

Archemedes · 15/02/2012 19:02

newborns are a bit 'scrunched' looking maybe shes waiting

puds11 · 15/02/2012 19:04

maybe she has more important things to do!!!!

ABigGirlDoneItAndRanAway · 15/02/2012 19:09

I kind of get where you are coming from, OP. It is a bit strange for someone who lives their life on facebook not to have put a picture up yet, I have friends/relatives who have had pictures up more or less immediately after the birth but then that was obviously their choice, it's totally up to your friend if she doesn't want to for whatever reason.

mummymccar · 15/02/2012 19:11

I'm due next week and have an agreement with my family that I won't post any pictures up on Facebook until the family have all seen baby in person. Why should an acquaintance see my baby before grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc? You may be a close friend but I'm betting that not everybody on her friend list is. YABU.

Anniegetyourgun · 15/02/2012 19:12

Frankly I'd think someone whose first thought was Facebook when they'd just had a baby had their priorities a bit confused. Maybe she's just discovered something a whole lot more interesting. (And exhausting, but that's another story.)

ReduceRecycleRegift · 15/02/2012 19:15

That's a bit judgey too Annie don't ya think!

I went on FB from the post natal ward, not to upload, but I was in there for days and it is a horrible alien environment so it was nice to connect with something normal and outside in the long wait between visiting times! I found it horrible when the bell rang for the last visiting session of the day

Nothing wrong with my priorities, new babies sleep loads and new mums do what they need to do to keep sane!

Lueji · 15/02/2012 19:16

There's a difference in FB usage before birth and after birth.
BB: bored of waiting for baby
AB: no time to login except to ask important questions on the baby section of MN.

I find it odd when people put photos of their newborns the day after they are born.

Anniegetyourgun · 15/02/2012 19:17

Yes it is judgey. Sue me. I loathe Facebook. It is the work of the devil.

bonkersLFDT20 · 15/02/2012 19:19

Didn't put a pic of my newborn son on FB until my dear Mum (not on FB) had seen him in person.

handbagCrab · 15/02/2012 19:22

I didn't put a pic of ds on fb until we got home, 4 days after he was born! Imagine that! Didn't realise everyone was sat desperately pressing F5, thinking I didn't want them to see him. He came out perfect btw but I had a horrendous time and didn't want reminders of hospital splattered over my timeline.

lucidlady · 15/02/2012 19:23

I'm on FB constantly but haven't put up any photos of DD. I don't really want pictures of her "out there" if that makes sense - she's my baby not public property

ArtVandelay · 15/02/2012 19:25

DS didn't appear on Facebook until he was over a year old. I had a strong but unameable fear/conviction that I shouldn't do it and noone else was allowed to either. I still limit who can see his pictures via custom privacy. In fact I didn't even announce I'd had a baby when I think about it Grin

ArtVandelay · 15/02/2012 19:26

lucid - exactly, not public property

startail · 15/02/2012 19:26

I have a very good picture of DD1 in a plant pot. Totally unplanned we happened on a lady doing cheap photos in Boots.
DD took an instant shine to her and they were all lovely.

I don't do FB, but if I did I'd wait until I had a nice picture and time to do a proper birth announcement. People don't want lots of grotty pictures of other people's babies.

PuffPants · 15/02/2012 19:27

God OP, leave her alone. You sound like you'd be the first to snigger behind her back if the baby isn't a peachy skinned angel yet.

Tbh I don't like your tone - perhaps your "friend" thinks the same and has privately emailed a snap to her real friends.

Pinot · 15/02/2012 19:29

She should be gazing at her newborn, or being horrified by her engorging breasts, not dealing with twaddle on FB.

YABU :)

ledkr · 15/02/2012 19:33

yes how odd that 3 days after giving birth she hasnt uploaded some pics on face book Confused

ratspeaker · 15/02/2012 19:35

Maybe she's ill
maybe baby is ill
maybe phone got dropped in birthing pool
maybe phone was stolen
Maybe she's trying to establish breastfeeding with a fussy babe
Maybe she wants family and close friends to see baby before its all over the internet

Not all newborns sleep loads

MissSayuri · 15/02/2012 19:49

The worst is when you get a photo in your timeline of a new mum and baby and there are drips and blood matted hair everywhere. Who wants to see that? Not me.

swanker · 15/02/2012 21:18

YABVU, and are quite rightly being flamed.

Maybe the baby has a cleft palate or DS, and she doesn't want to have to field intrusive questions over something as crass as a social media tool?

Hmm
TheOnlyTrollOnTheForum · 15/02/2012 21:20

You are being pretty unreasonable, why don't you go visit her and see the baby instead?

FourEyesGood · 15/02/2012 21:20

Three days? When I read the title I thought maybe it would be, say, two weeks - and even then I would have said YWBU.

McHappyPants2012 · 15/02/2012 21:22

Yabu, I was on Facebook day in day out before I had the baby....... But after she was born I cba and I think it took 2 months to put up a pic