To expect not to be attacked on mumsnet?

[prizeelliott]

I've just had a quick neb at this thread but I couldn't ignore Sue's distress at lack of valentine's gift.

just for Sue

Practical. Happy Valentine's Sue

Ah no, it wasn't Bounty, I've just been to look. They seem keen on the lipstick lesbian posts though DP, is that you?
I wonder where it was? Definitely another parenting forum.

Aw, x posted with EachU.
The gift that keeps on receiving. Lovely.

Yes, if you go on AIBU. 'Nuff said, think that's he definitive answer.

Sue

bed --->

You need to be up early to sob at the empty doormat greet the postperson

In my personal situation, which I do not share very readily because I do expect to be bombarded with a certain amount of judgement, I am always very careful before I do decide to share any of it..theres always gonna be a few people with opinions and issues with it, all which they're entitled to and mostly people have their own reasons for that..I'd never expect NOT to be faced with a bit of harshness though..and if I don't feel as if I can handle it then I just keep it to myself and maybe hold off until I feel stronger or in a different frame of mind..It can be a sensitive subject with people which is why mostly I'm careful to whom or where I open up IyswIm..not sure if that answers yr question OP but it does of course depend on the subject being brought up as to whether we can expect not to be "attacked" as you put it. I would say its reasonable to expect a mixture of opinions and feelings and a bit of judgement..people are people at the end of the day and everywhere is full of each and every kind of person, some judge harshly, plenty don't..some are sensitive to certain subjects and mostly for good reason as I said before..Cor I'm starting to parrot myself..must be tired..oops! lol :)

You had exactly the same thread in December and got lots of nice answers, you were not attacked, you sort of nicely told to thank your lucky stars that you have 3 healthy kids and not try and engineer the sex of a child. Its a bit of a bug bear for plenty of people so you are bound to get a mixed response.

You weren't attacked. Lots of people gave you the advice you asked for and a few people nicely told you that you'd posted in a rather insensitive place and that you were probably correct in thinking that you were being self-indulgent. If you think that was an "attack" then probably the Internet as a whole isn't for you.

The infertility board is fairly new. And lots of long term ttcers (myself included) are uncomfortable with the "infertility" label. It feels like we have given up and accepted a lifetime of barrenness. So there are many long term ttcers in conception. And that is the right forum for them. It was also the right forum for the OP's other OP, but her subsequent posts show a complete lack of sensitivity. You wouldn't go on pregnancy and start a thread about birth injuries, would you? And sex selection is a huge taboo in this country (and illegal via IVF) so it is hardly surprising that it provokes a strong response.

I find this "woe is me" thread about a thread a bit pathetic, frankly.

Really??? surely this is the only place you can guaranteed to be attacked about the most mundane of posts?

Expect to be attacked on the internet, no matter where you post! I have not read your thread/posts. Just forget it :)

if you can't participate without face and mn is cruel,well best not ask a bunch of online strangers their opinions.

I thought everyone knew by now that Mumsnet is a nest of vipers. That's why I feel at home here.

Buggerlugs, I hope the post calling the other poster a bitch was deleted at the same time as, or even before, yours telling her off for it.

Ach, good riddance.

OP if you are still here it sounds like you were bang out of order and to post here in such a self-indulgent fashion just shows how, well, self-indulgent you are.