to wonder how DH holds down a very serious, grown up job when he is so utterly incompetent

[OhdearNigel]

DH is a detective sergeant. He holds people's liberty in his hand, controls rape investigations and takes control of murder scenes. He has had to give evidence about finding bodies that have been searched for months. He keeps control on dozens of serious investigations at any one time and manages a small team of experienced detectives.

With this in mind, you would imagine that, having told him last week "can you ring your mates and tell them DD's birthday party is postponed until the same time, same place next Sunday" that I would not have just had the following conversation:

DH " Did you phone Steve and Mich and Mike and Lucy, T & V and Brian & Margaret to tell them that the party is tomorrow"

Me "No. I asked you to do that"

DH "I assumed you were doing it"

Me "Why would you think that when they are your friends and you know perfectly well I don't have their phone numbers. And why did you not just tell them when you phoned to tell them it was postponed. Jeez, you really could not organise a piss up in a brewery"

AIBU to wonder how the fuck anyone in senior management trusts my DH to manage a bag of Safer Neighbourhoods stickers, let alone a murder ?

They dont regard home stuff as their domain. It's ours. So they say.

I have looked on the back of my marriage certificate, it must be in really tiny print because I cant see it.

Behind every successful man is an astonished woman

It's a man thing. They're too important to be bothered with domestic stuff that the little woman should be sorting.

JMHO

Haha this thread has made me laugh. i read it to DP and he agrees it's weird but he does it too. He has 3 masters degrees and a senior job but finds day to day things difficult. He is almost savant like in his inability to understand things like bills or booking appointments.

In the greatest hits of DP; he has had us summonsed to court over non payment of council tax (he thought the rules were if you didn't open the letter and therefore didn't know about the bill they couldn't prosecute - er yeah, cos everyone else just wants to pay!!), Put our clothes which had been bagged up to move out for the bin men, driven to the wrong airport.

He was in the US and said he would be home at 2pm sunday. By 5pm he wasn't so i called to see where he was. He answered the phone in Las Vegas and said he wasn't flying till 7 hours later. I said 'i thought you said you'd be home at 2pm today?' He said 'i still will, i'll gain the time back on the time difference' !!!!

And i do love him to bits but just wonder how he manages to function sometimes.

Summary of this thread: 'My DH is incredibly important, MUCH more than yours, has MILLIONS of pounds to manage, knows VERY IMPORTANT people and has a solid gold knob. But he finds domestic appliances confusing and that's why he's married to me. Wot larks!'

.... But then I'm bitter and jealous cos DP only works for a charity and can do washing and wipe his own arse.

Really revolting you got that from here? i got it more as 'isn't it funny how some people find some hard things easy, and some easy things hard'

spuddy I was joking partially about the stealth boasting re: DHs' jobs. Amazing how so many of them are 'very important'

people are fuckwits in general. I always wonder how the world works!

Ps me DH has a science Oxbridge degree, a phd from a redbrick and an important job but is still a fuckwit!

spuddy I agree with you, I thought this was a light-hearted thread (and certainly not a stealth boast).

beanandspud, you are not spuddy's sockpuppet, are you?

Now, that was a joke!!! chill.

DH just said (verbatim ) "The trick there is in the word 'manager'" followed by "there is only so much information can be fitted into a brain"

This is ubergeek extraordinaire who keeps forgetting where his sock drawer is.

Revolting no, definitely not a sock puppet - I think this is the first time we have found ourselves on the same thread!

Revolting - that is partly the joke though.

DH has A Very Important Job (with capital letters!) but cannot find matching socks!