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Original poster

To think dogs should be on a lead at a sledging hill?

206 replies

PippiL · 05/02/2012 11:50

Prepared that I might be BU.

The field is probably privately owned. It is The Sledging
Hill in the village. Loads of kids there today.

About 3 dogs, big bouncy ones, off leads chasing sledges, pissing in the snow where kids sledging, and crapping too (generally out of the way, but didn't see it picked up).

My dd is petrified of dogs, and stood about 5 minutes complaining loudly how they should be on a lead. Which was ignored by the owners.

We had to leave.

Aibu?

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PippiL · 05/02/2012 12:22

Nothingold, um, I did say that in the above post. Did you read that?!

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SydSaid · 05/02/2012 12:23

PippiL - it sounds like you stopped reading my post at the YABU - keep reading, and you will see that I don't think it is unreasonable for dogs that are being a hazard to be kept on a lead.

Original poster
PippiL · 05/02/2012 12:24

Sue, I wasn't the loudly complaining one, my dd was! I made the decision to leave when we realised there were dogs off leads there.

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PippiL · 05/02/2012 12:25

Syd, no I did read that, it is a fair point though. :)

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SuePurblybilt · 05/02/2012 12:26

I know but it doesn't really matter who was complaining loudly, does it? I've missed her age but you could have stopped her. Unless she's 17, in which case SIBU Grin.

KurriKurri · 05/02/2012 12:27

I think arguments about whether it is a generally a dog walking area, are a bit spurious. Surely one applies common sense. I have a dog, I would not let her of the lead where a large group of children are playing, - she might get excited and try to join in, especially if it is something unfamiliar like sledges. I also would make sure I cleaned up after her wherever I was. Common courtesy surely not to insist that the whole world shares your love of pets?

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PippiL · 05/02/2012 12:27

Dd is 7. We left so as to stop dd whingeing! Grin

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GrimmaTheNome · 05/02/2012 12:27

I don't like seeing dogs running around in the same vicinity as sledges because the dogs don't understand the dangers and could get hurt. Exactly the same as I don't like seeing inadequately supervised small children in such conditions, or older ones (even adults) who seem oblivious to safety considerations.

And I'm Envy because we have no snow and DD and I love sledging.

SuePurblybilt · 05/02/2012 12:29

Fair enough -it just read a little as if you/she did that Loud Outrage thing that I never think is helpful. But if not then Smile.

BluddyMoFo · 05/02/2012 12:30

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squeakytoy · 05/02/2012 12:31

YANBU, but I do think you need to work on your daughter's fear of dogs too as there are going to be many occasions in her life when she comes into contact with dogs that are not on leads... for example when she goes round to a friends house, or if you have relatives with dogs.

At 7 she is old enough to know not to trust any random dog, but also old enough to understand that not all dogs are to be scared of too.

taxiforme · 05/02/2012 12:32

PS when I said public areas I meant areas used by the public, whether temporarily (like the field today) or a busy beach on a sunny BH (and on cold January day it's deserted). If you get my (snow) drift!!

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PippiL · 05/02/2012 12:32

Sorry grimma!

No I hate that passive aggressive shit too sue! Dd needs to learn, though actually she was just saying she thought they should be on a lead, not really doing it for effect.

My ds is 4 and fine with dogs, he stayed for a bit and had fun with dh.

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PippiL · 05/02/2012 12:34

Squeaky, yes, she was been working on it with dogs she knows. Big fat daft labs are a problem for her. I think she just sees the size and the bounciness and freaks out a bit.

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GrimmaTheNome · 05/02/2012 12:42

I love dogs and am not afraid of them but would be very wary of an uncontrolled 'daft lab' type of dog on a sledging slope. Being scared of something which really could cause an accident isn't a phobia.

taxiforme · 05/02/2012 12:42

Big fat daft lab= my dog.
She is v scared of sledges though and screaming girls.
Not v scared of birthday cakes waiting to be iced on the kitchen counter Angry

musicposy · 05/02/2012 12:42

I think a bit of give and take on both sides is needed here.

Our dogs love chasing the girls down the hill in their sledges. They rush down, having a whale of a time. The younger one likes to go in the sledge. Sadly we have no snow here today

But the minute they started running after other people or other children's sledges, they would be on the lead. Playing with us, that's reasonable. Annoying others, that's not.

And they should always clear up dog poo. I take spare bags and offer them to people who don't, as if they must have forgotten theirs. I've never yet had anyone refuse.

Dogs peeing, you can't do much about that. But most dogs pee at the start of walks or round edges and hedges where it already smells of dog pee, so I'm surprised they were doing it all over the field. Ours have never done that sledging.

Another time, just go and speak to the dog owners. If someone came up to me nicely and said their DD was scared of my dogs, I would always put them on a lead. :)

Kladdkaka · 05/02/2012 12:43

Maybe they were the farmer's dogs with the job of chasing trespassers with sledges off his land.

Principality · 05/02/2012 12:55

YABU

If it is a regular dog walking area why on earth should the dogs and dog walkers, who were minding their own business(not jumping up at you, which is different) be put out so you and your PFB can monopolise the area?Shock
Hmm

And if I had been there I would have pointed out that the polite thing for you to do was directly ask the owners, (who would have been well within their rights to just say no!!) rather than passively agressively bitching loudly! How bloody rude! Angry

GypsyMoth · 05/02/2012 13:00

Yabu

It's not the village 'sledging hill' either! It's a hill.

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PippiL · 05/02/2012 13:07

Principality, read my posts.mit wasn't me complaining. It was my dd, and I left quickly to stop her!

What is pfb, please?

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McHappyPants2012 · 05/02/2012 13:08

yabu, it is normally used for dog walkers.

if this was a normal sunday nobody would be there, dog owners have picked that spot so they can excerise the dogs.

tomorrow when it is full of slush and mucky they will still be there

Northernlurker · 05/02/2012 13:12

Yanbu. I think it's clear that it's an exceptional day. In our local park we sledged at the steep end and all the dogs floundered at the other end.

southeastastra · 05/02/2012 13:14

surely dog walkers could find somewhere else for just one day to let the kids play without worrying about dogs.

some children are scared of dogs and they will not play for fear of them :( it's sad really

mousymouseprice · 05/02/2012 13:16

I find many of these yabu's disgraceful.

whatever happened to respect and consideration? does that go out the window as soon a you accuire a dog? Sad Confused