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Original poster

to be really fucking pissed off with the fucking wanking shitting snow

149 replies

OhdearNigel · 05/02/2012 09:22

It is DD's 2nd birthday today. Not only have I had to cancel her birthday party but DH stayed overnight with her at MIL's last night to give me a peaceful evening to finish the party arrangements and it looks possible that they are stuck there. So I might not even see DD at all on her birthday.

So everyone that is going on about how exciting the fucking snow is - yeah, great. it's great WHEN YOUR PLANS AREN'T FUCKED BY IT

[ANGRY] [ANGRY] [ANGRY]

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CurrySpice · 05/02/2012 10:41

Scottishmummy you have come over as a churlish know-it-all on this thread. I can only assume, since you are so supremely right about everything, that that was your intention

OP what a disappointment. The snow is a right royal pita Sad

GypsyMoth · 05/02/2012 10:42

''Wind her up,not likely
She's got there all own her own''

Lol scottishmummy

As an aside, when did women get so lily livered/pathetic/weak? Posts today and last night 'DHdidnt set and light the fire for me' and lots of 'DH didn't clear the snow/go out and grit'!?!

Makes me Hmm women CAN do these things and won't break!!

GypsyMoth · 05/02/2012 10:42

Op.... Webcam? Van you watch her with her presents that way?

TheOneWithTheHair · 05/02/2012 10:43

Scottishmummy did you mean to be so rude?

mrsscoob · 05/02/2012 10:44

YANBU and you have every right to be upset and sweary!

scottishmummy · 05/02/2012 10:45

You're right of course
A postponed party is a catastrophe,life changing and significant.the impact will resonate for years.may need counseling

How very could I not see this for the gut wrenching disappointment,it clearly is

Is that reallly the answer you think fits the situation curry?

eurochick · 05/02/2012 10:46

scottishmummy is sounding rather silly on this thread.

LetsKateWin · 05/02/2012 10:47

If I waited for DH to go and grit, it would never get done Grin.

perplexedpirate · 05/02/2012 10:47

FFS OP, you planned your DDs birthday in advance?! With thought and care?!
I bet you were actually looking forward to it weren't you? Pathetic.
Didn't you do a long range weather forecast when you conceived so you'd know what the weather was going to be like on her 2nd birthday? Hmm

It's very disappointing when your plans are scuppered by something beyond your control. I hope you end up having a nice day anyway.
And have some swears on me: fucking cunting snow!

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OhdearNigel · 05/02/2012 10:47

Ilovetiffany - i have a huge amount of control over other our car 20 miles away Hmm. guess I'm just pathetic and lily livered that I won't walk there and back to dig it out and then dig everyone elses' cars out and grit the roads as well

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sloathy · 05/02/2012 10:49

Yanbu - you've obviously put in a lot of effort and are therefore disappointed. Perfectly understandable.

I feel the same about the snow, swearing included, as I was supposed to travel for an overnight spa break today with my BF who I hardly ever see which would also have been both our first night away/day off since our babies were born last spring. Booked months ago. Can't get car off our road without sliding about.

It's not the end of the world, obviously, but angry disappointment is a perfectly valid emotion!

scottishmummy · 05/02/2012 10:49

Oh more contrition and histrionics required.?
Ok
It's a shitting wanking horse manure of a disaster.a small child is estranged from her mother,trapped in a centrally heated home with her da anything could happen

LetsKateWin · 05/02/2012 10:49

So if something isn't life changing, you shouldn't get disappointed? Confused

Birdsgottafly · 05/02/2012 10:50

I don't think the OP's rant is about the canceled party, but rather the fact that she may not see her child on her 2nd birthday.

The DD will be aware that mummy isn't there,but not quite old enough to know why.

That is a good reason to feel angry and sweary.

Only MN (by some) would it be said that we should not give a shit about seeing our children or family.

DizzyDizzyDinosaur · 05/02/2012 10:51

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OhdearNigel · 05/02/2012 10:52

Yes perplexed, I did. I even ordered invitations off the internet. Pathetic, I know - and I was looking forward to it, sappy, weak and lilly-livered individual that I am.
I didn't realise that was I am supposed to do is ring a few people on the morning of DD's birthday (but only if the weather is suitable) and bung a few bits of tesco value party food on a plate with a couple of bits of basics madeira cake and a candle. Just to avoid the crushing disappointment of cancelling. How could I be so stupid as to plan in advance ? After all, we all know the south east of england is like Norway in February.

Fortunately one of my best friends specialises in post-traumatic stress counselling. I'm better get an appointment. Maybe Scottishmummy would like to come with me as she seems to have been unduly affected by my crushing disappointment

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GypsyMoth · 05/02/2012 10:52

nigel why the histrionics? I said as an ASIDE, it wasn't aimed at you, just a general observation about weak women when it comes to a bit of snow..... There was one last night about not taking a child out in it as it could be very dangerous ( walking, tiny bit of snow)Hmm

Birdsgottafly · 05/02/2012 10:53

In fact if a mother wasn't feeling shouty and sweary at not seeing her two year old on the childs birthday, there is something going wrong, somewhere.

When you put effort into planning something and you are looking forward to it, you feel disappointment when things go wrong, for a variety of reasons, it's called being human.

scottishmummy · 05/02/2012 10:53

Im laughing at the disproportionate over reaction
Her kid is safe,warm,with GP and dad.it's disappointment yes
And that's all it is.minor

Birdsgottafly · 05/02/2012 10:55

Why laugh at all at a mother who feels upset about not being with her child?

perplexedpirate · 05/02/2012 10:57

Laughing at someone when they are upset is pretty horrid behaviour isn't it?
Whether you think their upset is valid or not.

fedupdownhere · 05/02/2012 10:57

I know just how you feel today is my daughter and and grandsons birthdays we where supposed to be going there for a party but its been canceled due to snow they are both very disappointed as am I :( you have my sympathy

BehindLockNumberNine · 05/02/2012 10:57

Oh Nigel, it is a disappointment.

Dd's birthday is in the middle of December.

Two years ago my IL's had taken ds and dd to Lapland to see Father Christmas. Originally it had been booked for early December but the airline / travel co had had to move it to the day before dd's birthday.
It was supposed to be a daytrip (flight at 5am, home at 10pm type of affair)

When they were due to fly home the airline cancelled the flights due to freezing fog and poor visibility at the tiny airport in Northern Finland they were due to fly home from. So all guest were put in a hotel and the flight delayed 24 hours.

I was gutted, had the house all decorated, presents wrapped, cake baked etc.

As it was, dd had a fantastic time having an unexpected extra day in Lapland. It was snowball fights galore! Fil told the airstewardess it was dd's birthday so when they were finally on a flight home the whole airplane sang Happy Birthday.

So whilst dh and I missed seeing her on her birthday and were very disappointed, dd had a fantastic day and still talks about it.

Now I look back fondly on her 'lost' birthday. It was far more interesting for her (and me, glued to some Finnish airport website monitoring freezing fog and possible departure times Hmm) then yet another birthday at home...

Trust me Nigel, enjoy your day at home, (if it were me I would eat the cake Wink) and your dd won't even know so will have a nice party next weekend.

I had to postpone it by a week.

scottishmummy · 05/02/2012 10:57

Read my post,I'm bemused by the hyperbole and ott hand wringing
Her emotive choice of words
It's disproportionate to situation
And the got at nature of how very dare anyone not share the overwhelming pain

Birdsgottafly · 05/02/2012 10:58

The OP has come on here to vent, she is stuck in the house, on her own, after all, which makes everything feel ten times worse.