To send verbal abuse to my friend because she was a cow to me on facebook?

[SoggySocks]

I was having a get-together around at my house tonight and put up a facebook status saying "Can't wait for tonight, lots of chocolate, wine and giggly girls xxx"
Anyway my "friend" posted a comment on it saying "cringe". I replied "??? why cringe?" so she put "giggly girls? how old are your mates, 10?" Anyway to cut a long story short this went back and forth until I said "thanks for making me look a twat on facebook" and she said "giggly girls? you're referring to 30 year old women with children of their own as giggly girls? trust me you don't need me to make you look a twat, how patronising"

Anyway my night went ahead as planned but a few of the girls had seen all this before they arrived and I think it really damaged the night. It certainly damaged my mood and spoilt it for me. I'm supposed to be meeting up with this woman next thursday. AIBU to text her tomorrow saying she really upset me and maybe we shouldn't bother?

Fecking stalker Psam with your long range lenses.

Fuck orf, Tri Sue!

Argh. How embarassing! Twatville.

I think you planned this, Sue.

lolo @ OP

Maybe it was a cringe-worthy post. But that doesn't justify her bitchy response.

at Psammead.

I was rather perplexed!

Arguments on fb are beyond childish imo....

I think I put something similar on my facebook status a while back.... 'looking forward to a night out with my girls'... and someone said...'bit too late for them surely' (thinking I meant my young daughters) ... and I put 'no, my other girls'.

I probably would've have put something like 'giggling girlies' too... and if someone put 'cringe'.. and dependant on who it was, I would've replied.. 'jealous'... or 'cringe away'.. or 'we're going to talk about boobies and periods all night too!'....

It was all be very much tongue in cheek.... Tit for tat.

YAIBU.

I know how easy it is to get whipped up on facebook. But, in this case, you should have laughed it off and took it on the chin. And, your friend is right about the twat thing, sorry.... Just delete and put it down to experience.

I hate it when people wash their dirty laundry on FB. I de-friend people who post the details of their disagreement with Mandy from Zumba or the latest bad behaviour of their partner all over the place.

I did see one ex-school friend posting the details of the custody battle for her children, complete with abusive comments going back and forth from her ex-p, his family, her family, her new partner. It was like a written version of Jeremy Kyle. Vile.

You were U to have an argument on Facebook. Your "friend" was not U to think cringe at your comment, but highly U to post it. She doesn't sound very pleasant. Maybe she was jealous not to be invited. However, you should not have re-acted on facebook, you should have left it and spoken to her face to face about it when you saw her.

You know.........like a grown up.

I don't think "sending verbal abuse" is the way forward. Again, try the grown up approach. Ring her and speak to her.

And then both of you on the naughty step for 12 minutes.

I think your friend has a point, "hearty laughter with self-empowered women" would have been better

'hearty laughter' makes me think of Brian Blessed

"hearty laughter with self-empowered women"

will there be lentil weaving and mooncups?

Surely though your friends on FB are just that. - friends. Therefore if they say that your post is cringe making, it is said in a tongue in cheek manner. If it is a bitchy comment then why is she on your friends list.

It only seems to be on mumsnet that people are friends with people they do not like.

Your status was completely cringe inducing. I just quietly unsubscribe or delete people who say things that induce a full body cringe, there is no need to embarrass you further, you're clearly on top of that without any outside help.

Were you drunk?

'cos that's the only excuse for posting "thanks for making me look like a..." that I can see.

She commented on your post in a snide way. You commented back. If you look like anything at all, it is because of your own actions.

Tch.

giggly grown ups ARE cringeworthy!

But then again, having arguments on fb wall is not very grown up either, so I think at least you are being coherent , OP.

Oh dear lord you both sound pathetic 30 year old's are NOT giggling girls.

I'd bin her tbh. I'm sure we all see something a bit cringeworthy on fb sometimes (my status's included) but if you're a friend you keep it to yourself.

The comment by your friend wasn't very polite, but I would have either ignored and deleted it, or de-fused it by humouring. "LOL yes, 10 year olds tonight :)" or something like that

It really wasnt worth ruining your evening over and I wouldn't send any abuse to her.