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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think you're a grown man, FINISH YOUR DAMN DINNER!

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NoIfMuttsOrBabies · 04/02/2012 19:51

Im the only girl in my family of brothers, DP is one of 3 boys.

In my experience men finish everything on their plate always.

It doesnt happen too often but I have to bite my tongue when DP doesnt finish the last bits of carrots and potato (or whatever) on his plate.

We're so poor right now it hurts, I plan our budget to the penny (literally) I plan every days meal to make sure we're fed that day, I buy economy, I save the bits not severed up to freeze for another meal, I throw little or nothing away.

DP goes on about how he never eats at work, he burns up loads of energy doing hard graft, hes starving, then leaves this food on his plate.

YES its only a few chunks of carrots, a tiny bit if meat and a table spoon of potato, but ITS ONLY A FEW CHUNKS OF CARROT A TINY BIT OF MEAT AND A TABLE SPOON OF POTATO SO FUCKING SHOVEL IT DOWN AND NOT IN THE BIN!

"But Im full."'

Makes me want to kick you it the fucking eye.

AIBU.

OP posts:
StetsonsAreCool · 04/02/2012 19:52

Serve him smaller portions?

Beamur · 04/02/2012 19:52

YABU.
It's good to stop when you are full, but YANBU to hate waste.

squeakytoy · 04/02/2012 19:53

jeeeze... calm down a bit will ya...

lisaro · 04/02/2012 19:53

Get a grip.

jade80 · 04/02/2012 19:53

So serve the food in dishes in the middle of the table and tell him to only put on his plate what he will eat. Then you can save the leftovers.

squeakytoy · 04/02/2012 19:54

I save the bits not severed up to freeze for another meal

You are actually scaring me.... Grin

ivykaty44 · 04/02/2012 19:54

Put less on his plate and see if it still happens, if so reduce again.

LydiaWickham · 04/02/2012 19:54

YABU - that mentality is why so many people are over weight. When you are full, you should stop eating, be it one forkful or half a plate.

Serve smaller portions (do half portions to start with) and have left overs in bowls for seconds, if he doesn't want it, box it up for left over meals rather than binning it.

MrsMcEnroe · 04/02/2012 19:55

Next time, cook one less carrot, one less potato for the mash, etc.

Job done.

And yes, YABU. He is a gr

usualsuspect · 04/02/2012 19:55

Its good to stop eating when you are full so YABU

TotemPole · 04/02/2012 19:55

YABU, he's full. That extra mouthful can turn you from being full to feeling sick.

frownieface · 04/02/2012 19:56

um stop cooking too much and serve smaller potions, its a good thing that he stops when full Confused

rainbowinthesky · 04/02/2012 19:56

Are you his mum? You seem very scary.

ChaoticAngel · 04/02/2012 19:56

YABU LydiaWickham has said what I was going to say.

Greenshadow · 04/02/2012 19:57

With you on this OP, I hate waste.

But agree that the sensible idea is to give him less to start with and then have the option of seconds.

MrsMcEnroe · 04/02/2012 19:57

oops didn't mean to leave that unfinished.

YABU. He is a grown man, he is allowed to decide for himself how much he wants to eat, and it's not his fault if you are giving him too much food!

"In my experience men finish everything on their plate always"- maybe in your experience but it's a hideous generalisation to imply that all men should always finish everything on their plates. It's not the law, you know!

ragingmull · 04/02/2012 19:57

Wtf?

rainbowinthesky · 04/02/2012 19:58

Do all the women on this thread serve their partners?

NatashaBee · 04/02/2012 19:58

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JustHecate · 04/02/2012 19:59

YABU in one way, I think. It isn't good to force food down when you are full. It makes you feel sick, it can stretch your stomach and mean that you overeat.

However, it isn't good to waste food if it can be avoided. Far better to do away with serving directly onto plates.

I put things into big serving dishes and people help themselves. That way you take a bit, eat it. If you want more, you have another scoop, if you want more, you have another scoop.

This means that any leftover food has not been on people's plates and therefore can be scooped together and stuck in the fridge and reheated.

Original poster
NoIfMuttsOrBabies · 04/02/2012 19:59

We're not over weight. He goes to tesco most evenings to buy snacks, usually he insinuates its not enough although hes not doing that in a rude way. I feel guilty for bitching about my DP now. I just really needed to rant after a particularly skint month, budgeting, worried I cant feed us all, him saying he was starving then not finishing his dinner.

OP posts:
Marilyn1980 · 04/02/2012 19:59

Good suggestion with bowls in the middle of the table to help himself from. Be thankful you don't have my DH. I make a big pot of cottage pie/spagbol/curry with enough to freeze for the following week, and if I don't get to it before he does, he helps himself to seconds, and I'm not stingy with the portions.

travailtotravel · 04/02/2012 20:00

Does he really understand how much you are worried about money and being able to feed your family? That's what this sounds like to me.

I totally get that its a bad example to the DD's etc also but think you are "projecting" your stress. Hope things improve for you soon.

birdsofshoreandsea · 04/02/2012 20:01

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squeakytoy · 04/02/2012 20:01

Why is he going buying snacks when you are so skint? that is not on.

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