Today I promised ds he could have sweets as he has not had a ny for weeks, has a new brace so I said to take it out[thats fine], andd save half for tomorrow. They are jelly worms from M&S.
I had asked him yesterday what he wanted, and gone to the shop after work specially as he has been v gd about his brace and in general.
I said put them in a bowl and save other half.. he did this, put remaining on side and dh and dd[18] went over and ate them.. ds saw and said "they're mine"[I had been about toget him to offer round from the bowl] and they both shouted"Don't be so spoilt, mum you are making him totally spoilt, spoilt brat[dh]
He tried to get sweet out of dd hand she laughed and ate it ,shouting and he burst into tears and hit her on her side not hard. They went balistic.
So, obv he should have offered, he shouldn't have hit but they were out of order and it wasn't nice ot fair.
Dh said"they were mine, anyway, I paid for them from the money from account so I can have them, you have to share everything out!"
I realise it is only sweets, but this extends with my dh to other things and i don't think he has boundaries of who has what, and I think dh and dd are ganging up against me. dd also had a rant about what a totally crapmother I am and how ds will never have any friends, etc, etc, in fron t of ds crying now about the shouting and being nasty.