To be really annoyed about wedding invite

[SooticaTheWitchesCat]

My cousin is getting married this year and I know they have said no children, which is up to them but when I received the invitation it was sent to my parents and just had my mum, dad and myself on it, no mention of my husband.

Now I know my cousin's partner doesn't know my husband, I have only met her once, but I really can find no excuse for not asking. My cousin certainly knows who he is!

I am so annoyed!

I can understand the no children, although it isn't something I could do but not to get an invite for my husband has just made me fume. I haven't even told him as I know he would be upset.

So AIBU to be so annoyed? I am not even going to reply, my parents can send the reply as they got the invite.

See, I'd be pissed off about that because it's just RUDE and clearly goes against The Rules (if they're tight, then why not just avoid inviting cousins full-stop?). But ... I'd also jump at the opportunity to go to a wedding without DH because he never dances, and if he stayed at home with the DC, I could get mildly drunk, dance like a twat and pretend to be 25 again.

So I'd give it a whirl.

My DH and I chose a venue that was very personal and special to us. Unfortunately this venue could only accommodate a small number of daytime guests.

A few of my friends had only been dating their partners for a short time so I explained the situation to them but told them their partners were very welcome to join us for the evening do; live band, dancing, buffet.

I think their partners were quite relieved to get out of the boring ceremony bit to be honest.

Wedding guest lists are up to the couple tying the knot so shouldn't be taken for granted. However, it is often the way the invites are extended that causes offence. IMO.

aqua try reading this bit again.

"Now I know my cousin's partner doesn't know my husband, I have only met her once, but I really can find no excuse for not asking. My cousin certainly knows who he is!"

Ettiquette rules state that husband and wife are a social unit therefore they should both be invited.

Leaving that aside I personally think it's okay to only invite one half of a couple if you're inviting them as a group of uni friends/work colleagues. In your case they've invited your parents and added you onto the invitation as they would a child

Still an invitation is just that...you don't have to go. Decline politely, or rather get your parents to decline politely, as it's them who have received the invitation.

YABU, it's their wedding they could say on the invite, bring a dancing monkey and a bag of bon bons. If you don't like it then don't go.

My cousin did this - though adressed the invite to me not my parents. I'd been living with ex-dp for 3 years. I sent back a note saying we'd both be coming - and we did. I'm really embarrassed at my rudeness now, but still think it was really odd not to invite us both, especially as the wedding was 6 hours drive away ( and I don't drive).

People are odd but I'd go if you like your cousin and don't mind being away from your family for a day. It's a chance to see relatives. If it's difficult though, politely decline.

Do you think that the brides parents have made a mistake and think you are a younger relative living at home with your parents? Not a child, as they said no children, but an older teen or younger adult? If they haven't met you and your cousin hasn't been clear ("...and I'd like to invite my aunt X and uncle Y and their daughter Z...").

I wouldn't make a fuss, but if this were me I would send a card back either accepting or declining that was separate to whatever reply my parents sent, with my address on it so they realised I wasn't living with them.

That is disgustingly rude, if money is tight they should have just invited your parents. Nobody normal invites one half of a couple to anything, you just don't.