to react like this when my son said....

[betterwhenthesunshines]

..."but you don't work for anything, you just use Daddy's money" over breakfast this morning (in a very condescending way)

I explained that we were a partnership and we both thought it was good to have one parent at home if we could afford that. I also said that if I had continued my career I would be a creative director of a design company by now. To which he replied "well that's not a proper job anyway". He's 10.

I went calmly upstairs and told him to come and talk to me. When he did I explained that for the next week he would be doing the things I did and that he could start by sorting the laundry basket... and while he was doing he could think about how much he was enjoying sorting everyone's dirty pants. :O

But I don't want to give him the idea that it's all drudgery, and that I'm a miserable martyr who is stuck at home, just to have a little more appreciation of the effort that goes into a home. Particularly this week as he knows I have been planning and making props for his school play, co-ordinating costumes, doing make-up team yesterday for 40+ children, also planning house renovation work alongside supporting his sister who has eye problems, homework, dog, cooking, ie usual stuff.

Makes my blood boil! What are you're experiences please?

Yeah thats the spirit BastardDog.
Freeze him into submission. Controlling much?
My ds doesn't want to do anything but play Disney Cars. While I find that boring, I wouldn't lock him out of the house because of it.
But, sure, chess club is worth it, right? Because it's..what? Improving to the mind? Unlike hypothermia.

Locking a child out of their own home is just bizarre.

That is just weird. Sorry but it is. Really weird. Freezing a child into playing chess....

Betterwhen I would be disappointed by such remarks. I know your DS is young but his words are indicative of how a SAH role is not valued at all. I am assuming that it is not his father who has given him this idea... (If it is, I would be absolutely furious but giving benefit of doubt here). Difficult to know how to deal with this - good for all DC to help in the house (and this might encourage him to think about sharing, co-operating with the domestic stuff) so that could perhaps continue. Feel for you, but if you read threads on MN there are a lot of guys around with SAH wives or partners who think that the money belongs to the breadwinner who generously funds the family. It takes partnership to "run" a family and I am constantly surprised and saddened at how little it happens in so many homes.

It's not weird. I agree with b/dog. He wouldn't be getting a key from me either.

Has he got a smartphone? I reckon he's sat on the doorstep rather than going to after-school clubs because he can connect to the house wifi and surf the internet.