(I've name changed for this) Another wedding AIBU, sorry!
I'm getting married at the end of the month, it's all being arranged very quickly. The original plan was to invite both sets of parents, DP's brother & my sister, and have a very small ceremony/lunch afterwards. DP & I are paying for it ourselves. Now my DM is saying we 'have' to invite my brother, so his DD can be a bridesmaid. (She has also decided she will be paying for lunch too).
Now to me, a wedding is a celebration of love, and I want people there who DP & I love, and who love us. DBro doesn't fit into those categories. Ever since DP & I first got together he has variously stirred, caused trouble, ignored us, spread rumours about us that resulted in our being ostracised from our group of friends, and generally been vile to and about us. However all through this he has been my DParents blue eyed boy, although he has stopped speaking to them for years, in the past, as well.
Also if DNiece is there, DM & DF will ignore everyone else, including my DSis' children, to spend the day fawning over her (voice of bitter experience). I want this to be our day, mine & DP's, SO, WIBU not to invite Dbro & if so, how do I tell him I'm getting wed but that I don't want him there without causing a row?
Long - sorry, well done if you got this far 