To insist he smokes outside even though its freezing

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Need some perspecutive as maybe I am overreacting. But DH normally smokes outside our house as I insist DD (1) should not be subjected to his fumes.

I don't like it and I think he stinks and don't always like him holding her beacause of fumes on his clothes. Though now as its very cold he smoked out the window in the kitchen after DD went to bed last night. I went postal but he said I was being a drama queen.

I don't think I am but it's hard to know. AIBU to lose my temper over this?

My DH smokes occasionally and he is more than happy to go outside even in the arctic conditions. He even has special smoking clothes that he has to take off before coming back into the house so as not to contaminate our house.

Good point Sudaname, I'm typing in fingerless gloves, with my many layers on and my hoody hood up because we know that putting the heating on during the day is an expensive, slippery slope. If anyone decided it was a good idea to let our hard-earned heat out of our house gratuitously, they would not be visiting again.

You and your DDs health is more important than him being a bit chilly. So YANBU.

YANBU, and I'm a smoker. I go out into the back garden and shut the door to smoke. If it's too cold for me out there I won't smoke.

Definitely YANBU. Opening the window when it is cold outside will just bring all the smoke back inside, he might as well smoke inside. Something to do with physic and heavy cold air and light warm air...

Squeaky the bad smell is your nose telling you it's harmful! And I'm reasonably sure there was a recent study proving smoke clinging to clothes furniture etc was harmful

I dont like the smell of vanilla, but I am sure that is not harmful...

There have been plenty of studies... that doesnt mean there was any conclusive evidence found. Show me some, and I will bow down to it, but I have read plenty, and seen lots of "could be's" but nothing that actually is definitive.

I personally think the chemicals people use in the house, such as air fresheners, hairspray, and perfume are far more toxic to a set of lungs than the whiff of B & H on an old cardigan.

I don't smoke inside my own house. I like smoking, but I don't want a stinky house! I would smoke standing by the patio door if it's chucking it down with rain, but I do my best to hold the fag right outside so the smoke doesn't come back in, which it does tend to.

Cold isn't a good enough reason to smoke indoors IMO, that's what jumpers and coats are for.

Thinks Squeaky and mojito are those mums I see with a fag dangling out of their mouth as they hold baby

Nah, baby is in a sling, I need the other hand for my pint of stella.

Smoking is completely banned from inside my house. My DH has a fag at the end of the patio, and out of sight of our 3yo DS whatever the weather.

"Personally I think a lot more harm is done by polluting cars, but there you go."

It is for this reason I insist that DH drives OUTSIDE the house

YANBU

YANBU.

Both DH and I smoke, we smoke outside, its cold, that's the way it is. I do have a smoking 'coat' and we were going to get a patio heater type thing but we're not outside long enough.

Sometimes we're tempted to have a sneaky one in the kitchen but if you stand too close to our back door on the outside you can smell the smoke all through the house... so we don't.

Oh yes, we drive outside too, definitely!

No, you are not being unreasonable! I preferred to go outside anyway so no one else is breathing it in

Yanbu.

He should smoke outside. I do.

He can get as defensive as he likes, it's also your right to not have to have your house stinking of fags.

Also - he grew up in a chain-smoking house. And he smokes. Keeping smoking outside the house, where other people have to live and breathe, helps send the message to your DD that smoking isn't an acceptable thing to do, that it's bad for you and antisocial.

Smokers stink. It's retch-worthy talking face to face with a smoker after a fag - the stench coming out of their mouths is unbelievable.

My mum smoked when I was a child. I hated it. She stank, to me - she wasn't a massively heavy smoker but definitely smelled of it, and smoked in the house all the time (hey, it was the 70s!) Physically it made me recoil from her, I remember it clearly. We don't have the greatest relationship and I remember a few years ago her saying to me accusingly 'Well when YOU were little you never wanted to hug me, you were NEVER an affectionate child'.

It was on the tip of my tongue to tell her that yes I remembered being 6, 7, 8, ducking away from her quite clearly, I couldn't bear to smell her breath up close, but didn't - too hurtful and nasty a thing to say I thought. But true.

Smokers with young children, take note!

YADNBU.

Just had a meeting with someone who had clearly been smoking....I had almost forgotten how horrible the smell is....

It was a good job Im not still pregnant or I would be having to avoid working with her.

YANBU. DH always goes outside to smoke, no matter how cold it is!

YANBU of course not! When I met my now DH, I lived alone in a flat with a balcony and occassionally smoked...my DH did not and does not...I stoped smoking indoors as it's selfish if a regular visitor is using the room.

There is a baby....he HAS to go out. He needs a coat ready and waiting or he could shell out for a patio heater.

YANBU it is actually quite pleasant getting all wrapped up and going outside for a fag. Ditto when it is raining assuming there is shelter!

nope, if he is stupid enough to smoke, a bit of cold wont harm him

i dont want the chemicals and fumes polluting my home and family, so smokers can go outside with the doors and windows firmly closed (to keep the lovely heat in :))

If he wants to smoke, he can smoke outside, why would anybody want to subject their child to a smokey home? Her lungs are more important. An open window will freeze the house and some smoke will still get in and stink the place out as well. Why should you experience discomfort for his bad habits? His choice, let him do the suffering.

Smokers stink. It's retch-worthy talking face to face with a smoker after a fag

agree, i put my hand over my nose discreetly because it is so vile and sometimes you can be in your own little world in the supermarket and someone goes by absolutely minging with the stench and it is really all invading

Even when we smoked neither if us would smoke indoors, it didn't cross our minds to. Minging.

YANBU. Smoke = go outside, rain, shine or snow. He wouldn't be allowed to do it in a a restaurant kitchen!

I cant wait to start smoking again.

YANBU. He is. Smoking at all, even if outside, causes demonstrable damage as the toxins lurk on clothing and more importantly, on the breath of the smoker, for hours after each cigarette. Breathing near anyone else therefore shares the toxic effects with them afterwards. No smokers have contact with my children (where I can reasonably prevent it), and certainly noone smokes in my house.