Really quick poll needed - would you let your 12 year old have full head blonde highlights?

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Umm, what it said in the title

My DD asked me when she was 12. I said no. She offered to pay for them herself. I said no. She whined and said how unfair it was. I still said no.

I gave the ruining hair reason and the 'I'm not funding roots redone' and said if she tried to get her Grandma to take her there would be hell to pay and she would end up walking round looking like this .She changed her mind.

Unfortunately I did let her dye her hair black when she was 14 and both of us have regretted it since. She's just about managed to grow it out.

No

I would let her, I started having highlights 20 odd years ago at about the same age, but my Mother is a hairdresser so wasn`t a big deal

Ha! I don't know if I'm the only one (skim read) but am I the only one who immediately though of my 12yo son rather than my daughter?

It's not balanced though - I think you forwarded it because most people said no!

To answer your other point, if I disagreed she wouldn't be having them no matter how much she asked/sulked BUT beware she doesn't try to do it herself with lemon juice or sun-in or a home kit because then she is very likely to wreck her hair.

NO

Yes. 12 is todays equivelant of 15 about 20 years ago....I cant see any harm in helpng them feel confident if they are aware in that wa.

No from me
(too young to be encouraged that look matter that much and it's far too expensive)

no. and this is in spite of me home dying my hair from about 13.. Give your reasons, they are valid and tell her she has plenty of time to do this as she gets older.

I can't even afford to get mine done anymore!!

Full blown £70 highlights no, but if DD2 wanted subtle fine ones at that age and could sweet talk someone into doing it cheap, I'd probably let her.
She has blond hair that is gradually going darker and I can see her following my DSis example and lightening it slightly.
She's not quite 11 so hopefully she won't think off it for many years, but I don't kid myself that she is a little girl. When it comes to fashion she is far more grown up than I will ever be.

Last year my dd's friend who was 12 at the time was experimenting with dying her hair, I was thinking that it would not be long before dd was asking to experiment herself. Dd came home one day saying her friend was not at school and that she had sent a text to another friend saying her hair had turned green .

Not sure if this was the reason dd didn't follow the trend or that all along she had no interest in dyeing her hair.

No, lots of time in the future.

My DD can have full-head blonde highlights. But the only way she can get them is by spending a lot of time outdoors in the summer doing watersports.
(Wind)surfer dudess

You can see why M&S sell push-up bras to prepubescents. Twelve is the new fifteen.

Yes I would. But only by a professional. I was that age when I first dyed my own hair. The result was not great and didn't suit me. A qualified hairdresser will be able to advise suitable shades.

Check the school won't throw a wobbler! Just to out-dinosaur Troisgarcons DD did not have highlights until 16. She now has a weekend job and will have to pay for her own.

Nope, cant see the point in colouring your hair hair colour. Mind this is helped by the fact that DH has orange hair so can spot non-natural red from around 200 paces. Also DCs have natural highlights as well. T'is only me with boot polish brown hair.

Make her have them done through a cap, she will never want them again.

Ha! My mother I'd really, really tough. I've seen her cry twice: once when my father died, and also when she had the rubber hat/crochet hook thing done.

Yes.

And I'm quite old fashioned as a parent.
But only ever at a salon.

Plus highlights go with the whole 'shop in Tesco in my Uggs & PJs' image. Not good at 12.

Yes if she wanted them, with the proviso that if I was paying they would be a birthday or Christmas present, depending on how much they cost. It's her hair, and the school would have no objection to blonde.