Really quick poll needed - would you let your 12 year old have full head blonde highlights?

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Umm, what it said in the title

Yes

My dd had them done for her 12th birthday.

She had dark blonde hair and had a full head in 3 different shades and it looked lovely - not too light and looked really natural.

No way. I've been a slave to highlights since I was 16. I'm 35 now and have spent the last year and a half growing them out because I was tired of the expense and the regular appointments and the panicky feeling when my roots started to grow in. If I had saved all the money I've spent on my hair over the years...well, I'm sure you get the picture. I wouldn't let my daughter do it for those reasons.

I've actually realized now that my natural hair is quite a nice colour so I'm enjoying it before the greys come in!

MAybe 14 or 15, but it would also definitely depend on her hair colour now.

I had highlights at 12 so yes I would. I'd rather that than her messing around with home colour which has more chance of looking shit.

I hope she is still a child and does not give two hoots about such things.

No. My DD is 14. Agree wih larks35 - they are so beautiful as they are. I was upset when my DD shaved her legs for the first time. They are so perfect as children and then they want to change it all. ( I know they have to grow up eventually....)

Wouldn't pay, ( but do pay for a good cut so not a meanie!), and not too keen on the chemical aspect, ( but have been colouring mine for decades!)

( chipping - I'm on the dinosaur bench with you)

Okay - another question: if you disagreed, would you either A, tell her no. Or B, let her do it anyway rather than piss her off and be mean?

I was in primary school when I started with the sun-in (so was about 9/10), then I went onto home hair dye at about 11/12 then from about 14 went to the hairdressers every so often. My mum paid for all of it until I put my foot down and said I wanted to be brown. I was born with really blonde hair that started to go dark when I was about 9/10. I think my mum was upset I wasnt a blonde little girl anymore so did something about it. I hated the roots and would rather have never done it

I haven't thought about what age for my DDs as yet, but as DD1 is 4 and DD2 is 4 months Ive got a while yet, but will probably allow it if they paid for it and any upkeep. If they pay for it once and get roots then lesson learned as far as Im concerned.

At 12 I would just say no.

Full head no, upkeep and cost likely to be very expensive. Regrowth will look bad unless she is naturally v fair.
Would agree to half head though or just t-section?
perhaps asking her to work towards paying it - help round the house.
If her hair is very dark, it is likely to damage her hair as need strong bleach to lift colour.

I had my hair highlighted when I was 15 but mostly only half head. My hair is dark blonde naturally.

Think 12 is a little young to be colouring hair. They are still children

Okay - another question: if you disagreed, would you either A, tell her no. Or B, let her do it anyway rather than piss her off and be mean?

As the parent if I disagreed I would say no.

I would say no.

Our dd is 13.5 and the answer. Would be no. I think she knows not to ask but she does like the wash in wash out sachets. She had her ears pierced at 12 which was a very big step and we have been Veeting her armpits since she was 11. Would consider it at 15 but she is a natiral blonde anyway but going darker now. Once you start I think it's difficult to stop and my highlights cost me about 400 a year so it's a big commitment.

Yes I would allow her, as long as they are really subtle so the regrowth wont be a problem if not done immediately. Some really subtle highlights are good to enhance naturally lovely hair.

I would say No. 'woman' up fgs

I get my hair highlighted at 140 every 12 weeks, it really won't look that good doing it the once.

And it's such an 'adult' thing to do she will be asking for a nose/belly button piercing next.

How about you compromise and get a semi permanent one to be done the first day of half term?

12 heeeelll no

wouldn't encourage dying hair until she needed to i.e going grey. even thenn if grey didnt bother her i wouldnt encourage it, dye isnt good long term on health or the wallet.

i would let her get a new hair cut, but not a dye job

No. My DD2 is 12 and no way. Firstly, I don't want the whole world thinking she is cheap and common, secondly, I think she's too young to put all those chemicals on her head. I would just say "No, you're too young. When you're 16 and can earn your own money then you can do it."

My eldest is 16, by the way, and if she wanted to, well that would be her decision and I would respect that (even though I think her hair is lovely as it is). But she is earning some of her own money and she doesn't still have half a foot in childhood.

Rules in our house - once you are 16 and in the sixth form you can use semi permanent hair dyes/henna and I may even help to put it on if you ask nicely. Once you are 18 you can do what you like but on a student budget that is probably quite limited and if you want me to help you dye your hair pink before you go back for a new term at uni please give me more than 10 minutes notice (DDs of 20 and 18)

Highlights are for grown up ladies who can't get away with a £4.99 pack of hair dye from the supermarket

To be honest mine were little girls at 12 and probably didn't know what highlights were.

Thanks ladies, have forwarded to the little lady in question so as to give a balanced response.

Definite no from me. I would do anything in my power to discourage my DD from thinking her looks were important. Our DD's need a really strong message from us in order to counteract the relentless focus on superficial appearance rammed down their throats by the media and cosmetics industry.