eek the double bed is arriving on Sunday ? ds1 and his girlfriend can I just say no ?

[CreamolaFoamless]

Apperently despite my attempts to get ds1's girlfriend to leave and not be a permenant resident of this house , they (ds1 and ds1's girfriend are arranging to bring down her double bed on Sunday

Would it be unreasonable to say ...no right what.....what the jeff you doing ?

I am so lost ...he's 18 ..she's 18 and I really have no idea who to handle this

arrgh spelling

Stand your ground. If you don't want her living in the house say so. If they want to live together they need to rent their own place.

it. is. your. house.

of course it would be unreasonable to say "wooahhh, hang on a bloody minute.. this was never meant to be permanent, and I am very sorry, but this is just not on".

yikes... would NOT be unreasonable... NOT NOT .... lol!!

Which part of No do they not understand? Is it the N or the O?

It's your house and your decision.

I wouldn't allow it because I would be on noise patrol every night and not be able to get to sleep.

Just say no and keep on saying it until they understand.

Good luck!

I wonder why they can't sleep in her lovely double bed in her house?

Maybe because her parents say 'NO'?

FFS! Who's house is it! Say no, and if she looks like stopping over tell her to go! Cheeky slapper!

Someone will be along shortly to explain how you should get cable installed in the same room as the double bed with a subscription to red hot channal x or somat :)

But ignore them they are probably Swedish or just odd Austrians.

< Gratuitous stereotype thrown in on the blind side>

"despite my attempts to get ds1's girlfriend to leave"

What exactly did those attempts entail? Perhaps you need to come flat-out and say "sorry, but you are no longer able to stay here".

i've done that *ecclesvet and bar from saying ' piss off' 'just go to your own home home' and don't think she takes the hint

just 'say no' whilst' being good advice always reminds me of GrangeHill

When are you going to grow a pair?

what is the issue - is it that they are just moving the double in or is it that they are sleeping together?

tbh - and this may be unpopular - but if i had the room for a double, i would let them but i would need a conversation with the pair of them about common courtesy!

in your house they dont get to decide on the furniture!

that said, i wouldnt have a problem with it. as long as she leaves when you have had enough - you just need to say when that is and tell them as much. I would rather my kids (ds is 20 but with no girlfriend, he has AS and is a bit younger than his years) were not shagging in cars down alleyways.

How long has this been going on now again Creamola?

cheeky cow. I wouldn't dare get on like that! Especially not at 18! tell her to sling her hook

errr people shouldn't normally move furniture into your house without your permission never mind actually move in. Tell her to feck the feck off and take her double bed with her unless you need a new bed yourself

oh no .......i know they are sleeping together ..the double bed isn't a problem with errm the sex bits IYSWIM

It's more it's her double bed being shipped in and my sons single bed being shipped out

I know this should be easier but it still makes me feel uncomfortable

Well I'm a number of years away from having teenagers, but this wouldn't sit right with me. Not the shagging, but the surreptitious moving in. Has there been a conversation about it? How about rent??

If you don't want her feet under the table (or her bed installed), you need to be super-explicit NOW.

Maybe controversial but would you be able to buy a bed for that room so you don't have to have her bed in your house and would then avoid any issues over said bed should they split up in the future?

do you know what , I hadn't even thought about that Incapinka

IYes I could could do that ......that thought had never crossed my miind though.

It's weird what you can't see when you are in the middle of it!

Thank you