Next of Kin

[SquidgyBiscuits]

I've been married to DH for 2 years, and we've been together for 10 years.

His emergency contact at work is his mother, which I found out a short while ago and asked him why. His answer was that it always had been and he just forgot to change it. I went with him to A&E this week over his cracked ribs (snowboarding) and when they asked for his next of kin he again said his mother.

I'm quite hurt by it and have told him so but he says I'm nagging and gets moody whenever I try to talk about it. I thought marriage made us automatic next of kin to each other, but that isn't the case either. There are no underlying issues either between me and DH or his mother, who I get on well with.

AIBU to be hurt?

Thanks for that catsareevil. I always thought that the spouse could be made to pay it.

The spouse would not be responsible, though if there was equity in the estate the credit card company would expect that, and that could include the equity in a house jointly owned by the deceased and spouse.

If cc debts were accrued by the deceased individual,who took out the credit card then the company will pursue their estate eg any monies in will. The surviving individual wouldn't individually be pursued but joint accounts would

Thank you Scottishmummy. The funeral was very distressing but we got through

Re cc debts etc

We are currently dealing with his finances and he has no money and no assets at all.

As he was single at the time of his death and with next to
no money in the estate we have been told that legally his money is to be used to pay for the following in the following order:

Funeral
secured loan
Rent and utilities
Credit card debts

As he didnt even have enough money to pay for his funeral (and god knows how we are going to pay for it) we are not responsible for any of his debts (other than his funeral). If there is no assets and nothing there then they cant have it

look after yourself,eat well,sleep when you can
and take time to heal.dont expect to bounce back