To make DD go to singing group?

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DD currently has the following afterschool activities:
Hockey (1 hour on a Monday)
Guides (2 hours on a Tuesday)
Singing (1 hour on a Thursday)

she wants to give up singing and i'm not letting her, cue temper tantrums this evening when it was time to go. she's 11, has quit loads of different afterschool activities over the years, doesn't have a different one she wants to go to instead and really wants to just have some more time to laze about watching TV/reading/playing on her Ipod. I think that she enjoys the group when she's there, they are teaching her to sing "properly", she has a decent voice and it's good for her!

AIBU?

YANBU - it is only one hour a week, your DD's schedule doesn't seem overloaded from your description, and of course kids should be allowed to organise their own time, but one hour a week hardly equates with filling up all her spare time.

We make my kids go to an extra-curricular activities they don't always want to go to: they are bilingual, and my husband takes them to a sort of language circle for kids in their other language every Saturday morning, partly because he enjoys meeting his own friends and wants the kids to be exposed to his language with other children, it lasts about 2 hours, and they sing songs and play games and mess about things like that. They don't always want to go, mainly because they get up early on a Saturday and like to watch TV and laze about, but they enjoy it when they are there and they have made lots of friends. As far as I am concerned, it is part of their education, just like school. Maybe it will backfire, but we can't give it up just out of fear of that. I spent most of my childhood going to a Saturday school in my parents' native language, and remember my brother and me dragging our feet on the way there because we didn't always want to go, but I have always been glad they did make me go - it enriched my life in lots of ways that I didn't imagine at the time.