To think that getting a baby who sleeps well is luck of the draw?

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Obviously I understand that there are things you can do to encourage your baby to sleep, but I think that by and large, the type of sleeper you get (generally talking about the first 6 months) is luck.

I was very lucky that my DD slept through from an early age, I don't know why she did, but glad that she did. Napping on the other hand was a fricking nightmare.

However, my MIL and a friend of mine, both of whom had good night sleepers, think it is nothing to do with luck.....

AIBU to think that is a pile of shite

Luck, totally. DS slept through 11-12 hours pretty much from birth and still does at 13mo. We had to wake him to feed at night in the early days or he would have gone without. We have no idea how this happened, we haven't followed any routine or technique.

I breed children that dont sleep.

Actually, I bred one child who doesnt sleep and the other one did sleep until he got an array of health problems.

I believe that yes, it can very much be down to luck.

At the risk of being flamed, our two slept through from 8 weeks old and I am not exaggerating. We have no idea how, maybe they had enough bottles during the day that they didn't wake in the night but we do believe we also had an incredible amount of luck.

Luck early on, definitely, I had sleepy babies both times. But the families I know that have gone on to have long-term sleeping problems have no doubt exacerbated it, such as having to have parents lying in separate rooms with each child all evening til they go to sleep into the school years. That's clearly solvable (no SN involved).

You can't do much about how much babies or children need to sleep, some just need less than others. My dd1 goes to bed very late compared to her peers, I accept that and have gone with it, but I do expect her to stay in her bed. So, its a mixture of the two and I do think some parents make it worse for themselves, I simply couldn't have worked and driven safely every day if I was up every night every couple of hours like some of my friends were into the later toddler years.

def luck, 5 kids here, one has been a great sleeper, one a terrible sleeper and the other 3 fell somewhere in the middle.

we have always had consistent bedtime routine and i am DULL as fuck, boring mummy in the night, no entertainment! they all got there eventually, well dd is 13mths and has good nights and not so good nights, but we co-sleep so its fine.

i have never done controlled crying and they have all got their eventually and slept in their own beds some point between 2-3yrs and slept through the night barring illness.

It is definitely luck. As are most things in life that people try to claim credit for (e.g. having highly paid jobs, nice relationships, etc). Just world hypothesis in action.

I think it can be a lot to do with luck. But co sleeping with all of mine has really made things easier. I have done everything wrong really, fed to sleep etc for ages and they have always been in a cot next to me until they are about 18 months or so - but all mine are good sleepers, my third boy is probably the worst but generally he is a more high maintenance person but still be sleeps through. I think for us the thing has been not to rush them off the breast or out of the bed - they have all been bf for at least a year and a half and probably moved out of the bed at about 10 months to a year and can always come back for a few days if teething or unwell. I have never read a book about it or sought advice we just got on with it and did what felt right for us. It could be luck but expecting number 5 and really really hoping being relaxed about it has something to do with it and my 'luck' does not run out

It is luck for sure, we were very smug when dd1 slept through at 8 weeks and sure it was down to our wonderful routine and parenting skills then three months later she woke up and didn't sleep again until now and she is two and a half!

We have just had dd2 so the sleepless nights have started all over again!

Sheer luck, DS slept through from 7 weeks, having previously only woke up at around 2-3am for a feed. I could count on one hand the amount of nights he's hasn't slept 11/12 hours since and he's only 6.5 months.

Dreading the next baby as I'm gonna pay for that bigtime aren't I??

I think it's luck. DS stated sleeping through at about 8 weeks which coincided with him learning to suck his thumb, so although he doesn't stay asleep all night, he is able to self soothe & go back to sleep rather than needing me or DH to help him resettle. So I think it's all down to him rather than anything we've done. He does have a bedtime routine, but occasionally we don't do the full routine (e.g. if we've been out late he doesn't get a bath) and it doesn't seem to make any difference.

He is now just over 4 months and I am of course, expecting this to change at any point, so I am trying not to be too smug and just making the most of it while it does last.