to hate being called 'a star' at work?

[MaureenMLove]

I am a grown up. I do my job for love (and money) I am not doing anything out of the ordinary, I just try to be as fair and helpful as I can be. I think it's called being a team player! It's no big deal.

So, why, in the name of god, do people insist on saying, 'oh thanks, you're a star!' ? They say it over the radio, for the whole sodding school to hear too! One of these days I'm going to have to comment. It's driving me nuts!

I am 40 something years old fgs! I am not one of the students in our school. I am not a bloody star! 6 year olds are stars - 40 somethings are not!

There endeth the rant - as you were!

It's patronising.

It's said by people who consider you to be in a significantly lower stratum of employee-ness

No-one ever says 'thanks you're a star' to their peers do they?

"What's that Ponsonby-Smythe, you can indeed take on this complex multi-handed murder appeal while I am goffing in Mauritius with Rupes? You're a star."

Although...Oh I dunno actually, maybe they do.

As you were

So is it ok in shops?

Scarlett the main protagonist in my case is a typist who does my typing for me so I don't think your theory applies to me.

Mind you she doesn't just call me a star, there is a whole galaxy of stars where I work!

One of my colleagues has been grumbling this week about being called "treasure" in reference to some minor assistance provided last week. It doesn't help that all parties are in their early 30s.

I use that phrase when someone (at work or not) has done something for me that they didn't really have to do. Given that I pretty much am the lower strata I hardly think I'm being patronising, I'll happily throw it at management as well as my peers. Obviously showing gratitude is Bad so henceforth I shall slap them with a wet kipper and tell them they should be honoured to lick boots, never mind help me out in work related situations.

I'm going to have fun tomorrow

That's what I mean! Surely being a star is reserved for the under 10's?

It makes me think I should get a sticker to put on my sticker chart, to earn sweeties at the end of the week!

Really, just 'thanks' is quite enough for me!

ha pimpernel so true!

it's not okay anywhere and thank you is just so much nicer

That's me told . I called someone "a complete star" only yesterday.

a complete star as opposed to half a star? nope desist

do you get called a star too hassled?

No, I just call people stars. I will desist. Blimey - how many people have I patronised over the last few years?

probably quite alot

Ha ha! Got you all thinking now, haven't I.

I am a star ten times over me. I shine so brightly, I'm lucky I don't have 3 kings following me around!

YANBU-patronising and I hate it.

Nothing wrong with "you're a star" between friends. But in the workplace it's a bit over-familiar and sounds unprofessional.

I used to use the phrase 'You're a star!' a lot at work as a way of saying thank you, but stopped after a guy in the reprographics unit said, 'Do. Not. Call. Me. A. Star. Seriously.' It then occurred to me that I mainly use it to people who have service jobs, and it does sound patronising.

I dont like it at all and have never said it to anyone.
If i am on the receiving end of it i reply with "twinkle twinkle, little" which is my way of deflecting it. ( and probably quite irritating to the person i am talking to?)

Would sooner hear ... Thank you/thats a big help/etc.

Yadnbu

I don't mind being a star. I was star of the month recently and got a bottle of Champagne for it .

I would just take it as a compliment.

I think it's nice. Stop overthinking it.

'Do. Not. Call. Me. A. Star. Seriously.'

I think it can come across as rather patronising. How would the head react if you told her she was a star? Not well, I suspect.

YANBU

I agree with Scarlet pimpernel.
A friend of mine works on the till at Morrisons and if they are pleased with you they put your name on something called the Hot Hot Hot board.
Friends exact words were "its like being back at fucking school."

My work gives 'gold stars'. I find it horribly patronising.

One new manager at a place I used to work once referred to me as "quite bright" because I typed up some letters for him very quickly. He actually said to our Managing Director "Yes, she is quite bright isn't she!?"

I felt like the family labrador or something. "Yes she is quite bright isn't she, you'd think she was almost human wouldn't you? Well done girl."

The only responses to being called "quite bright" is either to say "fuck off" or to seethe in silence. I needed my job so I seethed. I'd have preferred him to call me a star any day, although what's wrong with a simple thank you?

I find it very patronising as well. "Oh you are a star"

YABVU, they could be saying you're rubbish!!