to hate being called 'a star' at work?

[MaureenMLove]

I am a grown up. I do my job for love (and money) I am not doing anything out of the ordinary, I just try to be as fair and helpful as I can be. I think it's called being a team player! It's no big deal.

So, why, in the name of god, do people insist on saying, 'oh thanks, you're a star!' ? They say it over the radio, for the whole sodding school to hear too! One of these days I'm going to have to comment. It's driving me nuts!

I am 40 something years old fgs! I am not one of the students in our school. I am not a bloody star! 6 year olds are stars - 40 somethings are not!

There endeth the rant - as you were!

who really wants to be a 'star' though, reminds me of liza minelli and i wouldn't want to be like her frankly

just thanks is good enough

Maybe that's it. Maybe it's said just because they say it to all the students. It doesn't feel from the heart. Oh hell, I'm digging myself a hole now!

The straw that broke the camels back this evening, was because it's like the plague - it's spreading. New people are saying it, because this one particular teacher says it! This one tonight was on an e-mail.

The request was for me to remember to do something tomorrow. I replied, I'll do my best. She simply replied, 'you're a star.' Didn't warrant it I don't think.

I would love someone to say that to me

Ok how about 'Oh, thanks! You've done your job adequately!'

it's very unprofessional at work, you will have to nip it in the bud quickly!

Oh dear, I probably say that once a week if someone goes out of their way to help with something that's not strictly their job description, like my boss's PA booking a meeting on my behalf if I'm out of the office. Oops.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Actually, it doesn't bother me at all. I get it via work too. I just see it as being something nice and never see any offence in it whatsoever.

I say "you're an angel". Sorry!

I have started saying 'You're welcome' and I hate that expression.

Oh no! I use it at work quite often :(

How about "you successfully exceeded my expectations"? Or does that imply that, maybe, my expectations were really low to start with?

See, when I think back to when it started, I quite liked it. I did think she really appreciated me and I was made up that she thought so. Fast forward 4 years, it just doesn't hold the same heart felt thanks that it used to, because loads of people say it now!

I think its an automatic thing for them to say now, like 'please' and 'thankyou'.

I think a star is a magnificent thing to be compared to!

I feel the same way at my workplace! "You're a star, thanks for coming and for all your hard work". I wonder if they're being sarcastic some days...

I got given a 'well done' sticker by the head last week! Tiny bit patronising, but I was glad she noticed how hard I have been working.

i would prefer 'you're a brick' i think as it sounds extra poncey and more effort than effing 'star'

have you tried calling them star back maureen?

YANBU my old boss used to do this and it is so patronising.

ha at the well done sticker! thats at least a bit different

This saying is rife in my work place, me and my colleague try to out do each other now as to who can get the most over the top comment. Can be very funny at times prob a bit childish We also get letters of thanks that is sent round the dept which sometimes is soooo embarrassing some things don't read well!!!! But on the whole I like a bit of praise people are so intent on moaning about others these day.

It's not that great when you consider she's just made the same compliment to the little shit that has finally, after 2 terms, remembered to bring a pen and his planner into school!

I don't take offence, dispite my OP, I just find it a little patronising I suppose.

I'd rather be a star then a brick or an angel

No, I couldn't possibly bring myself to say it! Next time praise is given over the radio to the whole school, I might say, 'yeah, yeah, I know, twinkle, twinkle'

i used to work with a bloke who asked if we were happy little bunnies

I hate it too!! And in my experience (as yours) it tends to be said when you actually haven't done that much.

If you actually do something worthy of mention people they tend to say other things, such as... Thank you!

Lol, at 'twinkle twinkle'