To be having the wrong reaction to sad, teething baby?

[Molehillmountain]

So...dd2 is six months and teething. Went to bed seven, woke three times between then an eleven. Slept til one awake til three. Woke once more then up at five forty along with Mu other two dc. Now feeding her and praying she'll sleep. But as she was fussing just now, I was cross with the fact she wasn't asleep rather than sorry for her and full of compassion. Aibu? Or aib abnormal really? I feel horrible. Not the first time I've felt like it.

You're tired. Emotions run differently when you're tired. Don't be so hard on yourself!

YANBU you are just being tired, none of us are at our best when sleep deprived.
Theres also a big difference between thinking "go to sleep you bloody monster" and actually doing something to harm a baby, don't fret.

Yanbu. Everyone has their limits.

Teething is hard going. It's not like a day or two of obvious sickness, teething drags on and makes them really crabby and it rubs off on everyone .

I feel your pain. Yanbu.

If it is a fleeting 'go to sleep you monster' that is fine. If it is a constant feeling then yes, you are being U and need to address it.

It's completely understandable and I'm sure when baby is awake you will give lots of kisses and hugs. A random thought is not the end of the world.

We are in teething hell at the moment also so I sympathise. We are having food problem and my gorgeous DS (8 months) is regularly being called a 'little blighter' at meal times which I feel awful about. I know that hopefully this time will end soon.

Good luck with it all.

My dd is cutting her sixth tooth and I can TOTALLY relate. She slept wth me between 3 and 6am after I tired of half hourly soothing. I say slept. At one stage she started clapping. Ffs. She is teething, she is in pain. She is still a little monster sometimes though!

The trouble is, I am exhausted today and my patience is fraught. Breakfast was a disaster as she refused all food and I could feel my temper rising. So I stood at the sink, swigged some coffee then turned and smothered her in kisses. It is going to be one of those LONG days. Let's survive it together.

Yes, lets! I do try to compensate for it in my chirpier moments but I get a bit selfish and self preserving at night. So I do want her pain to end, for both of us, well all if us if you include the rest of family, but my first thought is "I need sleep". But if I really were selfish I guess I wouldn't be cuddling her and co sleeping through it. When my entire family joined me this morning at five forty this am, I think I said out loud "oh, wow, everyone" in a not altogether joyous tone. But nearly ten o clock is already closer to bedtime and tonight is another night! We're in this together

YANBU, i can be horrible to my baby when he does not sleep! feel so guilty aftewrads

I'll join the misery....DD is 17 months and teething plus ill. She was up between 2.00m and 4.15am so I am exhausted. I am no patience at the best of times and am swinging between sympathy for her and sheer frustration and anger at my tiredness and the fact she will not stop complaining.

I was muttering 'oh just bloody sleep' 'FFS sleep' under my breath at 3am this morning while DP was in the next room trying to sooth her. So I'm pretty bad in the swearing at baby stakes even if I only do it in different rooms of the house.

OP YANBU. I am a far worse offender than you - and only have 1!

My 1yr old got his first two teeth at 5 months, no problems, no whingeing, no crying, no waking up through the night, easy!

Fast forward to two weeks ago, arrrrgggghhhhh, two more teeth on the way, he is not a happy camper and does he like to let me know.

Has anyone tried the powder/granules? Ive heard theyre good, but Im not sure I want to tip a packet of powder in his mouth.

Just back from shops-almond croissant eaten and teething gel ready to use. Croissant for me of course-dd's three teeth remain untested . Going to try really hard to say nice things to everyone for the rest of day-mini treat for every hour I manage! We're in it together everyone. Hope your little ones have happy days. Mine both asleep (and one at school!) so hopefully this hour I'll manage okay!!

Powders not much use here despite many ppl raving about them - can't hurt to try though. Calprofen is best IMHO (we are on the last 4 teeth here so I have some experience) - better than calpol as it reduces swelling. DD sleeping here...it will be her only nap of the day so I am relishing the peace and ignoring the housework.

Molehillmountain - I like your mini treat idea but I am already in debt as I haven't been nice to anyone yet and I just ate 2 choc biscuits....

well i hope its a normal, done the same thing with dd

even when dd had trapped wind i might have even told her just to bloody fart

i have found these really helpful, you can put the teething gel onto them
www.tommeetippee.co.uk/product/stage_1_easy_reach_teethers_1/

YANBU. My DD is 17 months was up several times last night. I lost count. She has a cold and a cough so finding it difficult to breath through her nose and keeps waking up and wanting to be BF back to sleep. I think she woke up every few minutes between 5-6.30am. And a couple of times before that too. In the end I shouted at her to GO TO SLEEP! and punched the bed next to her (we colseep)in anger. But then I cuddled her and fed her back to sleep. I felt so guilty this morning. To my defence this has been going on for a few days now and I am knackered to say the least.

choceyes I am selfishly glad to hear it is not just my 17 monther who wakes at night still for whatever reason - my entire NCT group sleep through, without fail and have done for months. DD can sleep through but doesn't at least 2-3 times a week if not more. She also Bfs like a demon when waking at night..

it's good to get out for a walk or generally out of the house when you're feeling like that. Will distract wee baby and clear your head a bit.

Zimm-but just think what might have happened without the treat. It's medicinal I tell you!

Blackout - they look great. Just put gel in dd's mouth and some of it might have reached her gums! She seemed to like it though.

You know you can give the poor love calpol as a pain killer? After all if you were in pain you'd take a paracetamol or similar. Hope dd feels better soon.

Ihatepeas-frustratingly, she won't take calpol as the gag reflex makes her bring back everything that touches the back of her throat. Thinking of trying some drop by drop this evening to see if we can trick her into it. It's so what she (and all of us) need and I never realised how much it helped with the other two. I guess I could dip a teether in calpol too?

I put some calpol on my finger and rubbed DD's wee gums when she was tiny. She cut her first teeth really early and couldnt swallow calpol either.

This is almost live feed mumsnet-just got dd to suck very nearly a proper dose of calpol off a weaning spoon! I feel hopeful thanks for the nudge peas and jenny

she will feel much better very very soon!