to not answer the door when im bf, despite caller peering in through the window?

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our sitting room is on the front of the house so when i sit bf im in view of the window which is screened from the path by our garden.

several people knock the door and then obviously see me sitting there (probably cant see dd) so come and bang on the window and peer in.
meter reader, vicar, salesman, mil and my parents have all done it this week.
tbh if i dont answer the door its cos i dont want to and i certainly dont want people peering in at me. why should i stop feeding dd who is normally feeding to sleep and she only naps once a day, to answer the door when im not expecting anyone and dont want to.
parents have a key so could let themselves in which is fine, better than peering at me and banging the window. aaagh.

Have you heard of curtains? Marvellous invention. Nobody can see through them.

Have you not got another room not viewable you could bf in ? That surely would make sense to be honest.

stop sitting in view of the window.

seems a bit weird in the day but might start shutting them.

Not at all unreasonable. I only ever answer the door if I know who it is and want to speak to them. Strangers, salespeople, and random passers by type people get ignored. I tend not to answer the landline phone either, I let it ring then do 1471 and see if it was someone I want to/need to speak with and phone them back, and on my mobile, if I don't know the number I don't answer it (and sometimes if I do know the number).
Just because someone is there doesn't mean they want to talk to whoever is knocking/calling. Practice an imperious fuck off Go Away wave to do when they peer in

I'm the same as you - if someone wanted to look through the window at me bf, they could. If I'm expecting someone, I leave the front door locked, and they usually eventually let themselves in. If I'm not expecting someone, but want to see them, I usually hoik myself and bfing dd (all 18lbs of her!) to the door. If I can see it's someone I don't want to see, I ignore. YANBU for doing whatever you want when you want, in your own home.

Mind you, I have never had anyone peering in, and never had a visit from the vicar. If peering and vicars were problems, as Siamo says, I'd get curtains.

Stop sitting in the window?

How old is your DD - can you answer the door while feeding?

Get a sigh and hold it aloft when they peer in.

'I've got a baby on my tit..now do one!'

Obviously, I leave the front door unlocked for people I want to see! (And I previewed my post too...)

Stick a sign up on the door:

"Dear visitor

Please stop peering in through my window like a nosy fucker if I don't answer the door, I am probably feeding my lovely DD. Yes, I can see you and I know you can see me, but I am busy.

Now bog off.

FF x"

Or perhaps something a little less aggressive, but certainly I don't see why you should have to sit in another room or chair or in darkness in your own home

in the summer i sat in the conservatory which is at the back but its too cold now and costs too much to heat in winter. rest is all open plan and visible through window if someone walks past the door and along the garden to peer in.

tempted to go upstairs but im not comfortable feeding on the bed and had to get rid of nursing chair when we had dd2 for space i bedroom.

I only answer the door if I want to, but I´m lucky enough to not have a window that people can look through & see me!

Couldn't you sit somewhere else?

You could unlatch? Works for me! Just remember to pull your top down

Or get some blinds.

Maybe they think your doorbell is broken?

love the sign idea , (especially for mil).
dd is 14 months and a bit heavy to lug to the door and she would then probably turn to smile and say hiya thus exposing my boob to vicar/salesman
i leave the door open when expecting someone and friends knock and come in.
gald some people think im not unreasonable to feed in my sitting room in my own home without being peered at.
its the look on their faces (think mil again) like a dopy smile and pointing to the door like i dont know what the knocking is ffs.

I would be tempted to use a certain hand gesture which should get the message across just fine

WE put up a sign on the door saying "Mother and Baby Sleeping/Feeding/unavailable to visitors".

Worked fine.

Then people who were VERY KINDLY calling round to check if I/we needed anything weren't offended.

Why has your Mum got a key but your MIL hasn't?

can unlatch if its important but dd2s feeds already fit round school runs etc and if she is feeding to sleep then id rather let her nod off and get some time to do stuff with her in her cot than distaurb her.

:) at PomBear
I also only answer the door if I am expecting someone as I hate feeling put on the spot by unexpected visitors to the house, especially if they are sales people etc. Same goes for the phone. I call screen at home and always have my mobile on silent, unless I'm expecting a phone call. I hate feeling obliged to speak to someone when I'm not in the mood for conversation. :o
My friends and family text me to arrange a time to chat and I do the same. People peering through my windows would wind me up too. I'd go with whoever said put a sign on the window.

I wouldn't put a sign up saying "Mother and baby sleeping"

It might as well read "We're alone and vulnerable, please feel free to burgle us"

yANBU. And sit where you like.

mom has key as they look after house for us when we are away and its a spare key. she doesnt just come round whenever she wants and let herself in.
ils dont ever look after the house, and would come round everyday given half the chance but dont as im often out,