to not answer the door when im bf, despite caller peering in through the window?

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our sitting room is on the front of the house so when i sit bf im in view of the window which is screened from the path by our garden.

several people knock the door and then obviously see me sitting there (probably cant see dd) so come and bang on the window and peer in.
meter reader, vicar, salesman, mil and my parents have all done it this week.
tbh if i dont answer the door its cos i dont want to and i certainly dont want people peering in at me. why should i stop feeding dd who is normally feeding to sleep and she only naps once a day, to answer the door when im not expecting anyone and dont want to.
parents have a key so could let themselves in which is fine, better than peering at me and banging the window. aaagh.

my curtains are always closed.

yanbu, i hate it when people peep in the windows

Oh right, I was a bit confused when you said they have a key so could let themselves in

dd is 14 months so mother and baby sleeping seems a bit like ive got a newborn.

Well, worked out OK for 3 hungry babies. But then I did have the front door locked. It just sorted out the randoms from the friends. And the postman learnt to do a v quiet knock instead of hammering away on the freakishly loud doorbell.

I'm the same as pombear antisocial article I can be.

mom had phoned to say she was coming, but when i didnt answer the door she knocks the windown and peers in, obviously it doenst matter if my mom sees me bf but i have told her to let herself in if im busy feeding, think she just feels awkward.

if i went to a strangers house (salespeople/meter reader) and they didnt answer the door i wouldnt be rude enough to cross their garden and peer through the window and knock the glass, im tempted to stick my fingers up at them (not parents/ils)
not vicar either

Some people just don't think. If I knocked and no-one answered, I wouldn't dream of looking through the window. I'd presume they were out, or busy.

Your lucky your dd still feeds during someone knocking, I've got the phone on silent and the doorbell switched off in our house, and dd's only 11 months. I hate it when we finally have peace on our own for a nice sleepy feed, and she gets disturbed. I'm turning into a right narky cow .

I'm with McHappy... curtains closed all day every day.

I actually answered the door while breastfeeding to postman when DS was just few weeks old, he was incredibly embarrassed but I didn't want to miss out on my parcel! YANBU btw, rude of strangers to peer in your window, think you have to forgive your mum though!

TBH, the only time I would peer in a window would be if someone was expecting me & they didn´t answer the door.

forgive my mom, just wish she hurry up and get in and put the kettle on
when dds were younger i would answer the door with them attached , tesco delevery guy looked a bit shocked but as i say at 14 months dd would be wriggling out my arms to wave and say hello and leave me like a flasher.
maybe thats the answer, bet they wouldnt peer again

I fecking hate 'window peerers'.

'Tis soooooo RUDE!

You need a voile blind. They come in many colours, look nice, don't fade in the sunlight and prevent Mr. and Mrs. N. Paraker from gawping at you.

They don't block out the light from the inside either so you're not sitting in darkness.

Got mine from ebay for about £8.

YANBU

How rude. I put my sitting room in the back of the house instead of the front for this very reason. I don't understand what is wrong with some people...they see you've ignored them and then they peer through the window regardless...

worth a look thanks

I had a thread on this once - I was complaining about my neighbour who always looks in at me. I don't like net curtains. Nobody else does it, just her.

The abuse I got!

I'm glad people were nicer with you, OP. I'd put a note on the door, in your position. "Please don't disturb - baby is sleeping."

Depends on who it is:
If friends then go to the door with baby attached and say "sorry. not a good time".
If postman/meter reader etc go to door, again with baby attached and say "sorry, not a good time".

It's the baby attached thing that makes them take the hint and leave.

If you wanted to put people off peering in, you could wait til your dp is home on annual leave and your dd is napping and every time the door rings, call your dp and quickly start shagging on the living room floor. People would soon learn not to do it.

I'm amazed you've put up with it for this long op!

Voile blinds are indeed the answer.

B &Q and similar sell Fablon, that you can apply to the window and has a frosted glass effect. It sounds a bit naff, but my mum has it in her front windows, in a quite nice plain pattern with little squares on, and it looks very nice. It lets in plenty of light, but stops nosey fuckers looking in! if you get fed up of it, you can just peel it off.

voiles/fablon thanks

Day curtains. Let sunlight through but you can't see through them, unless the room beyond has a light on. Or blinds.

It really is incredibly rude to bang on the window though. If you don't want to answer the door you're not obligated to. Same with phone calls.

i agree but ils think if i am in then they can visit which i find annoying.
i also have a friend who texts and if i dont answer within 10 mins texts again to ask whats wrong then phones then starts texting dp to ask where i am and is everything ok so then dp phones to see if im ok. drives me mad as somtimes im out at swimming or something, dp knows what she is like now and just texts everything fine and it gets to the point i dont want to answer her as she is such a nag

Get some blinds or net curtains. Though have had this problem with my FIL and the half-closed blinds didn't stop him (but a bollocking from DH did!). I know how you feel - you shouldn't have to shut yourself up and feel like you're "hiding" in your own house. People need to respect your privacy.