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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

RE: giving lifts?

131 replies

Davyveel · 11/01/2012 17:55

One of the senior teachers when I was at school recently died - i went to a small girl bording school and was 'invited' along with all other previous head girls (who were head girls when she was teaching) to go.

I decide that I would drive - it is easier to get there by car, means I have more flexibility and means that after funeral I can go visit some family who live relatively close to old school.

One of the women i went to school with goes to the same gym and was also head girl (3 yrs above me)

About a day after funeral was announced (it is this Saturday). I was at Gym waiting for DH and she came out. We got talking and asked each other how and when we were getting there.

I am going up this friday about 10 and so can have a rest (I am pregnant 8 mnth pregnant) before going to the old girls and staff and boards thing on the friday late afternoon/night (the schools remembrance for this teacher).

She said she was going by train and then asked if it was possible to give her a lift.
I said that i wouldn't be driving back as going to see family but of course i could give her a lift up.

She said that was fine and would be great, i said i would pick her up at 10 on friday. She said great and we left it.

Yesterday i got a text asking that as something had come up on Friday would it be possible to pick her up at half 10 instead?
Half hour i am not that bothered about so I said no problem.

She texted me today saying that would I mind picking her up after lunch instead about 1 o'clock?

When I said I could give her a lift I did tell her that i was leaving that early so could rest before evening thing (which I know will go on for a while)

AIBU to say to her that I plan to leave in the morning and unfortunately I am unable to give her a lift at that time ? When it is this Friday?

OP posts:
Sarraburd · 14/01/2012 12:51

Adding "I hope you understand" to repertoire (although agree she was too pushy even to merit that).

Please, please OP come back and give a blow by blow account of her behaviour last night - bound to be some gems!

needanewname · 14/01/2012 21:09

How was today op?

Earthymama · 14/01/2012 23:43

Bump

RuleBritannia · 15/01/2012 07:31

Please, OP, please let us know what happened.

MarquiseOfMelburnia · 15/01/2012 11:25

Marking place shamelessly Grin

SilentBoob · 15/01/2012 11:30

What a brilliant thread.

TubbyDuffs · 15/01/2012 11:46

Maybe cheeky mare confronted OP about posting on MN! Come on update please!

shinyblackgrape · 15/01/2012 12:12

Yes - bump! I've been lurking but need to post in case I miss anything. even DH has been wondering what happened next!

ChaoticAngel · 15/01/2012 12:16

Give the OP chance. The funeral was only yesterday and the OP mentioned visiting family afterwards, so she may have only got back late last night, or even be returning today.

CumpyGrunt · 15/01/2012 13:52

I love this thread.

Please come back & update soon OP.

fuzzpig · 15/01/2012 14:01

Ooh didn't see this first time round. The catholic guilt may follow you around OP but it doesn't seem to follow this woman Hmm what a bare faced cheek! Hope you had a nice rest and that the funeral wasn't too upsetting for you x

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 15/01/2012 18:19

bumping again...

Poweredby200mgofCaffeineaday · 15/01/2012 20:00

Only just seen this and it's unbelievable! Hope Davy updates too... but she did say she had other plans down there so may not be back yet or only just back...

RuleBritannia · 16/01/2012 10:22

Davyveel

We want to know! We want to know! We want to know! We want to know! We want to know! We want to know!

CheshireDing · 17/01/2012 09:57

Ditto.

Did you give her a lift? Was she horrid and kept turning the stereo over?

Did she keep making you do coffee stops?

So many questions, we need answers :)

DublinMammy · 18/01/2012 17:22

Davy, please update us!!!!

Whatmeworry · 18/01/2012 18:33

We want to know! We want to know! We want to know! We want to know! We want to know! We want to know!

Yes Oh Yes

cookcleanerchaufferetc · 18/01/2012 18:47

Gutted, thought there was an update .....

Shutupanddrive · 18/01/2012 19:13

Bump!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 18/01/2012 19:33

Davey!!!! Come on!!!!

Davyveelaskspleaseremovebaby · 18/01/2012 19:47

Sorry if I kept you all waiting.

Funeral was fine - very big

Well I left at 10.
My phoned beeped at about half 12 'Hi Davy, I was wondering if you have left -town- yet?'

I didn't bother replying.

Got there, had a rest, got ready and went to evening do.
Saw some people I hadn't seen since I was in school which was nice.

Anyway she walks in about 2 hrs late and about half an hour later she ends up standing with the small group I am with.
She apologises for being late, by looking at me while saying 'my lift fell through and then the train was late'
The other 2 in group look all sorry for her 'oh that is terrible, but at least you got here'
My SIL (who was above me in school) just raises her eyebrows at this woman (I had told her all about it)

Anyway we carry on the night. Later on I was by the bar getting a drink and she came up behind me. I ask her if she was okay and said I hoped her journey up was okay.
She gives me 'evils' and says that it was horrible, and asked if I got her text.
I said I did, but was driving at the time so couldn't.

She then turned on her heel too walk away before saying very sarcastically 'I hope you had a nice rest'

I replied (far too sweetly) that I did, and thanks for being concerned.

She stalked off and we stayed away from each other for the rest of the time.
SIL found it hilarious. I felt like I was actually back in 3 rd year. But the rest of weekend wasn't to bad. And seeing family after was nice.

I think we can safely assume that we wont be being gym-buddies anymore.

I thank you all for your help.

needanewname · 18/01/2012 20:01

Hahaha. Good for you. Its her own fault. She knew when you were leaving.

If I were you , I would have text back saying sorry no, as you know I had to leave earlier than you, have a safe journey see you later.

I also would have said something about the lift falling through so that she then can't bad mouth you.

But there you go - her problem not yours.

Glad all went well and you got your rest and to see the family.

WOudl love updates on how she is when you see her next!

CumpyGrunt · 18/01/2012 20:26

Oh Good for you Grin

Her face must have been a picture.

DublinMammy · 18/01/2012 20:28

What a BITCH!!!!! Bet you're glad you didn't go out of your way to oblige her now Davy?

Well done you.

thatboysmum · 18/01/2012 20:31

She really did take the piss didn't she!
Oh well, not really the sort of person you need in your life anyway, good for you handling it the way you did and glad to hear the rest of your weekend was ok.