Bitchin online - again!

[scuzy]

so some may remember that i outed SIL to family as she was saying some horrible lies about us all online. I was wrong for doing that and should have spoke to her at the time. Since then we have talked and are doing fine. she apoligised as did I. however I have come across her again on the same forum (alot more incognito this time) doing the same thing again. I was not looking for her but searched a forum on a similar topic that she is passionate about and from reading i thought it was her. I did look at all her posts and it is her and couldnt believe she was saying the same things again.

anyways i havent told dp or anyone. should i just ignore it at this stage? carry on like i havent seen them?

genuine advice needed.

yes i am proudnscary as i previously pointed out.

I'm beginning to think your SIL has plenty to vent about given that you seem to spend all your time stalking her online and then shit-stirring in the family.

thanks Spike and Maryz. i know you are right. ok may go do some work. thanks for reading and replying.

If all those details are wrong

If they are different names relationships

If it's a different user name

How the hell did you come to the conclusion that it was your sil?

storminacup she posted one picture of her dog i recognise the dog and her house. that was the confirmation. anyways enough! i'm only making things worse for myself here.

So this woman is telling lies about her husband's family, painting them as really awful people, presumably to get attention - and nobody thinks this is something that requires addressing?

For someone to go to such lengths to maintain a fiction like that, surely indicates that something is wrong with them?

I am taking the OPs story at face value. That the sil is telling lots of people on the net a load of lies, presenting all these people as terrible people doing awful things to her - and I am accepting the OPs assertion that none of this is true.

This leaves the SIL a what? total fantasist? Why? Does she have a problem with them all? Does she hate them? Does she believe what she is saying to be true? Is she an attention seeker, looking to the net for lots of sympathy? Is she a troll on the forums she is on? Is she saying these same things to her friends in rl?

It is not normal to do this. It is not normal to pretend that your lovely MIL is a cow, to say your bil is an alcoholic, to say your sil brought on her own miscarriage ( that one is evil) accusing them of fraud, alleging violence against her children...

I am a bit surprised that the response to the OP on this and the other thread (which I remember) is to mind her own business. [boggle] If massive lies are being constantly told about you - how much more your business can it be?

There is clearly a huge problem here! And it needs sorting out.

So she's creating a somewhat fictional persona on an online forum, presumably to get advice/sympathy? Even though you know it's not true, it doesn't mean that her need for the outlet, and for the responses, is not genuine. She obviously gets something from it to need to continue. I think I'd start feeling a bit sorry for her, rather than angry, if I were you.

The thing is Hecate as someone else pointed out, one persons truth may be another blatant lies.

Op gets on well with her 'lovely'MIL - good for her... I get on well with my MIL but
My MIL will not let my SIL in her house. SIL got some
Peppermint creams for Xmas and I got loads of makeup and
Chocolate and goodies
So for OP to say she is lying because
OP has a 'nice' MIL may not be true from all view points.

The SIL has also changed all details to try to actively stop people from beig recognised, but OP is still not bloody happy. We don't know if t IS LIEs from sils pov...

Well apart from the miscarriage - the cow

If none of the facts are correct, names / ages / genders etc are all different - then how can you be so sure it's your SIL?!

I'm sure we've all read things on here and paused for a second when we thought it seemed just like people we know - I doubt it ever is!

I do suggest you leave it alone though. As you can tell from the responses on here - it will only make you look like a spiteful stalker. Also, it's stressing you out - and there's nothing you can do to stop it anyway. Concentrate in your own life...

Just hang on... if she's telling lies about you, and has changed you to friend etc. how on earth do you know it's you she's speaking about? Obviously there must be some truth in what she's saying for you to be able to recognise yourself!!!!

soupdragon is speaking a whole lot of sense.

I can totally understand why the op would be upset/cross. Considering the internet is such a big place, i have stumbled across users of other forums, telling completley different stories to the other forum.

I'm thinking the op is more annoyed that the sil would start up again so soon and so blatantly, considering she knows op uses the same forum, than the actual content of what has been said.

Never has the phrase "get a life' been more apt.

I am aware that it could be true, but like I said, I am assuming that the OPs account is accurate and that the sil is telling lies. I think the OP would know if her husband was an alcoholic, for example! And the miscarriage? , Now, if we accept that those things are false, it makes it more likely that the other things are too. This person has decided to make up those lies - why would she do that and the rest be true?

The question is - should it be be ignored? I can't agree that something like this should be ignored. Either she's got a massive problem with all of them, or something is the matter with her that means she is compelled to invent vile things in order to gain sympathy.

Surely that is something that is better addressed than swept under the carpet?

You can't solve problems by refusing to confront them.

But if SIL has changed op to a 'friend' and is discussing her friends drink problem...

How
Do we know she is even talking about op and not another actual friends DP? It makes no sense...

Maybe there is some truth and recognisable things that have hit home with op? But we DON'T KNOW

Spike

I'm with Hecate on this. This is a seriously disturbed person. (Taking the OP at face value).

So if shes calling you a friend and changed the genders of the DC then how the actual fuck can you be 100% sure its her??

I'd bet you were looking for her again, though you'll never admit it and I seriously doubt you'll be able to resist further drama and stirring the pot enough to not tell those involved again.

I'm sorry but, grow up.

Spike my
was at her announcing it at wedding! Why would she do that?! Urgh!

I also posted about my nice mil who is horrible to my SIL (deservedly)

I agree with you everyone has different takes on things