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Original poster

Neighbour is beginning to annoy me .

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droves · 09/01/2012 17:33

we moved away from neighbours from hell. It's a relief. I love our new house.

We have a garden , it's larger than the neighbours , but parallel to theirs .

Before we moved in the knocked down the fence so they could fit a giangantic trampoline in the back garden. It sort of took a few inches of my garden.

Had told neighbour that we will be replacing the fence in summer.

At new year party , neighbour pops in . And tells people we have a shared garden . Wtf ?. Now her crappy double swing set it half way into mine and blocking acces into my shed.

I've moved it back into her garden several times. Not only is it really annoying I have to walk around the damn thing to get into my shed , she has started talking about what we will do about our shared garden.

It's not a shared garden. It's two gardens that happen to have a fence missing because she broke it.

And her dog shits all over .

So I'm planning to get the fence rebuilt and have the garden landscaped and decked by may .I will not tell her , but just do it . Aibu ?

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JKSLtd · 09/01/2012 20:44

I'm pretty sure you shouldn't have to be saving up for the fence, your landlord should be in charge of this - DH has been a landlord and he says it should be the landlord's problem.

confusedpixie · 09/01/2012 20:46

Your neighbour sounds mental. Is there any way you can block off your driveway from her too?

flyingspaghettimonster · 09/01/2012 20:47

Wow, you are very tollerant - I think I'd have bought an electric fence by now! Can you not get some sort of horrid-to-dogs smelling thing to spray down the garden divide to stop her dog crossing into your property?

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droves · 09/01/2012 20:49

Will ask my friend to look at the rental agreement ( lawyer) .

Maybe there's something there ,she can advise what to do with that.

I don't want to move ..I love this house , kids love this house .

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NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 09/01/2012 20:49

If you are renting and the landlord won't take action or replace the fence then you may as well just stick to the chicken wire fence.

No point spending good money on a fence for a garden that doesn't belong to you, that might be knocked down by the thieving weirdo next door whenever she next decides to steal something from your 'shared' garden.

You must put all this in writing to your landlord and lettings agent, so you don't get the blame for the missing shed or accused of 'stealing' the new one when you move.

ArtVandelay · 09/01/2012 20:50

Dog poo and DCs don't mix. I'd be onto the council dog warden about the health risk / nuisance if nothing else.

We once had a yard that was accessed through another neighbours yard - old terrace with a passage. This was at University. These neighbours had this giant German shepherd that tried to attack and shat everywhere. It was awful. I got the landlord to put a gate on our yard and we gave the neighbours an earful every time Prince wouldn't let us in the yard or we couldn't walk through because of the shit.

It made for frosty relations but I have to say they didn't do much more than give us dirty looks and we got through 2 years without being bitten or walking shit into the house.

mumzy · 09/01/2012 20:54

I'd sort it out ASAP cheeky neighbours need boundaries! Get a wire fence up straightaway and plant cheap climbing flowers in spring nasturtiums, sweet peas, morning glories to block your mad neighbours out

SugarPasteVelociraptor · 09/01/2012 20:55

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droves · 09/01/2012 21:00

Driveway has metaPosts already concreated into the ground down the side of the mutual path.
Will be putting fence and gates there also .

Think I should also get CCTV ?

(beginning to think I'm cursed with neighbours)

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WelshMoth · 09/01/2012 21:02

I think she's milking your 'niceness' OP and is relying on you not wanting to rock the boat and then taking the piss in the meantime.

Tell her you've carried dog poo into your home. Tell her the kids stepped in it too many times to count. Tell her it has to stop.

Would your landlord pull his finger out and do something should you tell him that it's seriously making you re consider your tenancy?

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droves · 09/01/2012 21:04

I'm liking the idea of chicken wire fence and climbing flowers .

Catpuss's links will be used ( thanks) .

Flowers seem friendly way of saying " fuck off back to your own side" .

Grin
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CatpussRoastingByAnOpenFire · 09/01/2012 21:08

You could always invest in electric fencing. Mains fencing packs a great punch! Unfortunately, its illegal on a boundary, but she doesnt sound bright enough to work it out! Grin

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droves · 09/01/2012 21:10

Grin @ catpuss . Pmsl .

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Sandalwood · 09/01/2012 21:25

Do you have the same landlord?

AnnaBegins · 09/01/2012 21:31

If you are in the midlands, try www.grangewoodfencing.com , for 16ft of fence you'd only need 3 panels (6ft long each), you can get cheap (contractor) panels for £18 each, then you only need 4 fence posts (timber is cheaper, but concrete easier). Also, if you ask nicely, someone there will usually be keen to put up the fence for you for a small fee Grin (my mate works there).

Diamondback · 09/01/2012 21:32

Tell the landlord, in crystal clear terms that she stole his shed, she ripped down his fence and that if he doesn't take steps to (a) secure the property and (b) take legal action against this woman (at least a stiffly worded letter from a solicitor), that she is trying to stake a claim to his garden and the property is at risk from further criminal damage. This isn't your problem, it's your landlord's and you need to put a rocket under him!

Also, if your landlord deals with it, you can 'hide' behind him and claim to your neighbour that he noticed the missing fence and shed on an inspection and her legal troubles are nothing to do with you...

SugarPasteVelociraptor · 09/01/2012 21:36

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droves · 09/01/2012 21:41

We both have the same landlord.

So the shed hasn't really been stolen , but moved .

I think the previous tenents bought the shed . I'm not really bothered about the shed , just mentioned it as I thought it was a nutty thing to do .

I live next door to a shedamanic .

Dh says the shed was here when we viewed the house, I don't remember , but then again I was too busy thinking about curtain and colours .

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droves · 09/01/2012 21:42

Roaring at sugar !

I'd love to try that with the Thanks , but I'm not that techy .

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zipzap · 09/01/2012 21:43

I would have thought that if they showed you a house with a secure boundary to protect your kids from escaping / next door's dogs etc and with a useful shed in the garden then they have gone by the time you arrive they have misrepresented the property if those things were one if the reasons for choosing the property.

And if the original fence fell down was pushed by mad neighbour and the ll took so long to sort it out the previous tenants resorted to doing it themselves then surely they still have a duty to maintain the fence or at least ensure there is a secure boundary for you and a shed for you.

Do you think your previous occupants encouraged mad neighbour when they left to 'tell new person it's shared and she won't know any better and have the shed while you're at it' or were they escaping from her too or did she just spot them moving out and seize the opportunity to do this do you reckon?

Definitely worth working on the landlords a bit more. And even if it's just a wire up down the middle of the gardens to split them, something needs to be done. Along with a nice chat with the neighbour to explain why the boundary needs to be up between your individual non-shared gardens. Could you invite her and her family to a 'closing the gap' party in the garden this weekend (it's cold, wouldn't have to be a big thing!!) but then it might help to celebrate and formalise the fact they are now going to be separate again. Take pix and video so she can't claim that she didn't know the gap was being closed.

Good luck - sounds like you'll need it...

SugarPasteVelociraptor · 09/01/2012 21:44

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giyadas · 09/01/2012 21:48

It takes a bit of effort, but a line of these should do the trick

Sandalwood · 09/01/2012 21:51

Oh no. I don't think it's good you have the same landlord.
Maybe the neighbour knows something you don't.

You need to keep in contact with the LL about it all: the replacement you'll be putting up, and that the secure garden was a reason you took on the lease.

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droves · 09/01/2012 21:52

Giyadas ! That's brilliant , love it .

It's the mans expression that gets me < splutters over computer>.

You just know he knows it's for him.

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Chynah · 09/01/2012 21:52

You're renting - you don't own it so just move - problem solved! Why you were even thinking of spending money on fencing , decking and landscaping for a rented property (specially one with an unsympathetic sounding landlord) is beyond me - Get out while you can!!