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AIBU?

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To think that DH was being a weirdo about what happened last night?

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 11:49

Ok....Woo warning...I was in bed with DD2 aged 3 last night...in Mine and Dhs room....he's broken his hip and sometimes sleeps on the futon in the spare room as he feels safer....(I'm a bit kicky)

SO....I was paranoid about not waking up to get DD1 off to school on time so had a restless night...when you keep wakng up in the small hours...

It must have been around 4.00am when heard CREEEEEEK like our door opening...it was very close...IN the room this creak...it was half dark and I thought "Oh the wind has pushed open the door" then DD went very stiff and said "What's that?"

So without opening my eyes I said "Just the wind" there was a pause and she said "I'm frightened" and I mumbled something like "No...it's fine...its just the wind opening the door"

And she said

"But someone black has walked into the room"

And I thought "EEK" so I said "Just Daddy checking on us!" but kept my eyes tight shut.

After a bit we both fell asleep again.

I told DH when we all gpt up and he shouted at me! He said I was stupid for not opening my eyes...and that I imagined it all anyway.

I never. I was awake. I know I was. Weird thing was that DH said our door was tight shut anyway....AND it doesn't creak! I tested it...tested them all tbh but I know what I heard. AIBU to think DH was scared of our creaky ghost...? And also to ask you all to explain away the "someone black" who walked in?

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antsypants · 10/01/2012 22:40

I've always had the full on heebies due to a story that my nan told me about an experience she had when she was younger...

When she was 10 and her older sister 14, they shared a bed (during the war evacuations) in an attic, they were both asleep in bed, and had argued that night as my nan wanted to sleep on the outside. Anyway, during the night my nan woke up to see a man standing in the room, she shut her eyes terrified and heard him walking over, she was paralysed with fright, and then he slapped her across the face... She wanted to try her voice so she called out and the man ran away... Her dad did a search but they couldn't find anyone... My aunt was awake the whole time but too scared to say anything... Later that evening my great gran heard footsteps going down the stairs and the next day the police found footprints in an alcove next to the girls room, so despite the search... The man had been there all night waiting for people to go back to sleep.

That has creeped me out my whole life and if I hear noises I freeze, I mean paralysing fear, I would stand in front of Godzilla to protect my daughter, but in that area, if anyone ever did enter my home, it is the one thing I would not be confident of my reaction on!

Flisspaps · 10/01/2012 22:46

I think it was your DH sleepwalking, so he has no memory of it. Your reaction was completely normal.

aldiwhore · 10/01/2012 22:51

Bando I'm not a commando, a ninja or a liar.

I'm a crazy naked lady armed with a shoe who jumps out of bed at the slightest noise screaming RARGH! Its the element of surprise don't you know?

Our cat chooses to sleep downstairs.

Not sure what I'd do after Rargh... its never come to that, so it must work.

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 22:51

My God ants that's horrible! How traumatic! And what a weirdo!

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ILovePonyo · 10/01/2012 22:55

Some of these stories are creepy....

I have only experienced sleep paralysis once - I swear I was awake lying on my back but could not move for the life of me, it felt like someone was coming into the room but I could not see them - I felt terrified. I must have gone back to sleep but remember it very well - and yanbu or keeping your eyes shut, I would have done the same!

Lets hope it was a one off for you and your dd and never happens again!

antsypants · 10/01/2012 22:55

I know bands, my nan was never able to sleep alone. The worst thing was, there was an army base over the road, and my aunt used to get propositioned all the time by the 'yanks the police thought someone might have resented her.

They moved to another boarding house in the same village and two weeks later someone tried the open the bedroom door in the dead of night, but they had locked it that time.

Crazy, it was during blackouts as well so not a patch of light.

ILovePonyo · 10/01/2012 22:56

for keeping your eyes shut

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 22:57

I've overthought what I would do aldi I used to sleep with a bat by the bed..then I changed it to a knife under the pillow...this was when DH was working away....I had all my reactions sorted...if someone came in the house I WOULD hear them I thought and I would lie in bed waiting an then as they came near the door I would leap on them and stab them.

I know however that the reality is very different. I have been in a situation where a friend and I aged 18 were abducted sort of...we were locked in the loos at a pub (very remote pub) by a gang of men who then turned the lights out and shouted what they were going to do to us. There were no women in the pub...just about ten men and us.

Instead of screaming I whispered to my friend to be silent...and to remain so...it worked...it unnerved them, I thnk to this day that had we screamed then it would have turned nasty and a mob mentality would have ensued.

We waited in the dark for ages without saying a word and then the landlord (horrble pervert) opened the door and we went THROUGH him even though he tried to fill and block the door...we came out and the pub was silent...it freaked them out you see. Our reaction was not what was expected. They looked sorry and embarrased.

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 22:58

ants there was a lot of ill feeling towards women and girls who dated Americans stationed here...a lot of nasty name calling and as you say...resentment.

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QuintessentiallyShallow · 10/01/2012 22:59

Poor you. Sounds creepy.

That seems almost as scary as waking up to find the ghost of Napoleon standing there looking at me, after a trip to Paris and Les Invalides. I did not sleep a wink until dawn, when Napoleon in the light of day slowly turned himself into an exercise bike with a spare duvet and a pillow on top....

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 23:01

Quint Napoleon!

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ILovePonyo · 10/01/2012 23:10

Band that sounds really scary. It's interesting what happens when you let your instinct take over, I got chased down the road recently by someone threatening me, I wanted to confront him but my gut feeling was ignore. I did and 'hid' in a shop , he'd gone when I came out. I'm glad I listened to my gut instinct rather than what my head was telling me iyswim, could have been worse. As could your situation, like I said sounds terrifying

antsypants · 10/01/2012 23:13

Band that sounds awful, I hate that idea of mob mentality... I would have been violent and angry in that situation, well done for protecting yourself and your friend.

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 23:23

It wasn't that scary actually...due to somehow knowing what to do...that was when I was 18 and was invincible! Now I have DH however I am painfully aware that people in general are prone to weakness in some way or other...I was FAR more scared the other night!

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 23:24

now I have DH was meant to be "now I have DC!" Freudian slip much???

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 23:25

pony nowadays I am also of the hide in a shop type!

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antsypants · 10/01/2012 23:25

It's horrible to feel helpless with fear and shameful to admit when you are a mum an supposed to be the lioness cliche... I am human, that didn't change because I birthed a child.

ILovePonyo · 10/01/2012 23:47

bandO, I'm glad I didnt have dd with me that day

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