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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think that DH was being a weirdo about what happened last night?

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 11:49

Ok....Woo warning...I was in bed with DD2 aged 3 last night...in Mine and Dhs room....he's broken his hip and sometimes sleeps on the futon in the spare room as he feels safer....(I'm a bit kicky)

SO....I was paranoid about not waking up to get DD1 off to school on time so had a restless night...when you keep wakng up in the small hours...

It must have been around 4.00am when heard CREEEEEEK like our door opening...it was very close...IN the room this creak...it was half dark and I thought "Oh the wind has pushed open the door" then DD went very stiff and said "What's that?"

So without opening my eyes I said "Just the wind" there was a pause and she said "I'm frightened" and I mumbled something like "No...it's fine...its just the wind opening the door"

And she said

"But someone black has walked into the room"

And I thought "EEK" so I said "Just Daddy checking on us!" but kept my eyes tight shut.

After a bit we both fell asleep again.

I told DH when we all gpt up and he shouted at me! He said I was stupid for not opening my eyes...and that I imagined it all anyway.

I never. I was awake. I know I was. Weird thing was that DH said our door was tight shut anyway....AND it doesn't creak! I tested it...tested them all tbh but I know what I heard. AIBU to think DH was scared of our creaky ghost...? And also to ask you all to explain away the "someone black" who walked in?

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NoMoreInsomnia12 · 09/01/2012 14:30

I'm a bit at people criticising the OP for her reaction. People have all kinds of reactions to fear. Especially at 4am in the morning when you are half asleep.

kreechergotstuckupthechimney · 09/01/2012 14:32

OK, being benevolent, I'll retract my and not replace it with anything.
Better?

minimisschief · 09/01/2012 14:34

he probably shouted at you because of the possibility of an intruder being in your house while you were asleep and potentially robbing/raping/killing you all in your beds and your reaction was to keep your eyes closed and ignore a possible danger.

would be my guess...

minimisschief · 09/01/2012 14:41

oh and saying i would have had to pass them to turn the light on is dumb sounds just about as dumb as closing your eyes and hoping its just your imagination.

shinyrobot · 09/01/2012 14:42

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NoMoreInsomnia12 · 09/01/2012 14:59

"Flight" is as natural a reaction to fear as is "fight".

festi · 09/01/2012 15:02

Bandomothers, it was pretty terrible at the time but I worked at both places for 15 years all in all, so probably didnt affect my work too much, .

I actually fear the electrocution ones more, although they are not visual just physical, I fear falling asleep sometimes as they are more paralysing harder to wake from and they make me ache and so tired the next day. I asked dds dad when we where together if i convulse or anything as I thought maybe I was having seizures and asked my gp, what he thought, he felt it was sleep paralysis as exp was not aware of convulsing or anything like that.

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 19:57

I think you're either all Commandos, Ninja Warriors or liars by the way! Apart from a select few who are honest.

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abbierhodes · 09/01/2012 20:34

I think it was your DH. Especially as you said it was him (maybe you knew on a subconscious level) and he thinks it might have been him.

sunglasses · 10/01/2012 21:00

I had an experience once when I shared a house with a friend. Woke up in the middle of the night and saw her walk very slowly into my room. Assumed she was sleepwalking. Sat up to see if she was ok. Had a weird moment when I felt like I was looking at her and then she didn't look like her or wasn't really properly there! Terrified and so lay back down. watched her move very slowly out of the door and then sat up to check she was ok... door tight shut!!! thought I heard her going downstairs then heard a noise like something being knocked over in the back yard. Really confused and frightened. Too afraid to check it out and eventually went to sleep. In the morning asked my friend if she had been sleep walking saying I was sure it was her, she was wearing her white bathrobe... no it can't have been me she said, I don't think I have ever sleepwalked and my white bathrobe is in the washing machine! Ok rational mind kicking in, must have imagined it... except outside her bike had been knocked over in the night and was lying on its side in the back yard..... Woooooo!!
It was probably a night terror but bloody scary and very real. Still scares me to think of it now.

PastGrace · 10/01/2012 21:09

I was on a school trip to Egypt (staying in a dodgy little hotel, sharing a room with two of my friends) and on the first night woke up in the middle of the night to a lady standing in front of our mirror singing. One of my friends gets really arsey if you wake her up in the night so I lay there, terrified, thinking someone had broken into our room. Eventually I fell asleep again to the singing, motionless lady staring in the mirror.

In the morning, I realised there was no lady (obviously). It was the floor lamp (less obviously). The singing was the radio alarm that someone had clearly set to be up in time for an early flight. I'm blaming jet lag...

Flubba · 10/01/2012 21:17

This thread has made me laugh lots! Not sure that was the intention, but it has anyway :o

I once sleepwalked naked around my uni (shared) house, and knocked madly on a friend's door (luckily my female friend as opposed to the two randy blokes we also lived with) shouting and yelling . She sweetly covered me up and led me back to bed. Doing that naked at 21 was probably quite funny. If I were to do it now a couple of years [cough cough] years on and three kids later? Now THAT would be scary! :o :o

M0naLisa · 10/01/2012 21:22

I wouldnt have opened my eyes either i dont think.

ravenAK · 10/01/2012 21:42

I think you were dreaming, as was dd.

She was having a vivid dream (dark shape in room). There was some sort of 'creak' noise (dh shifting position on creaky futon? how close are the two rooms?).

It half-woke her enough to stiffen & talk in her sleep, waking you a bit, as you were sleeping lightly for fear of over sleeping.

Your sleepy brain came up with & delivered a rational explanation ie. it was dh, & then you both 'fell asleep' again because you weren't properly awake to start with.

I do this quite a lot, especially if I'm sleeping restlessly - I have lucid(ish) convos with dh which I either don't remember until reminded ('wtf were you banging on about last night?!' sort of reminders), or I remember quite clearly, but I think I was awake whereas dh will say I mumbled incoherently & started snoring again as soon as I'd woken him up.

littlepie · 10/01/2012 21:46

Oh I wish I hadn't read this before bedtime!

mycatsaysach · 10/01/2012 21:48

op could it have been one of your cats trying to get in - ours make a right racket at night

Mrswhiskerson · 10/01/2012 21:48

Sleep paralysis is the cause of hallucinations which can seem very real and it normally occurs when a person is over tired.
I suffer with it and what I see isvery to me at the time
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Is your dh normally scared of supernatural things? His response could be out of fear.

Mrswhiskerson · 10/01/2012 21:53

I have experienced fear like no other when I though my home was being broken Into , it was my brother back early from a holiday and I sat in my bed literally frozen with fear.
It is easy to say what you would have done but until you experiance it for yourself you can't understand.

FabbyChic · 10/01/2012 21:59

He should be out the house more, it would cost a fortune for child care if you both worked, Id suggest he smokes tobacco it cut my smoking costs by 2/3rds.

FabbyChic · 10/01/2012 21:59

Shit wrong thread.

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 22:00

Thank you MrsWhiskers I hve been in a genuinely dangerous situation once before too...and I reacted in a surprisingly cold, calculated and unafraid way....it was only afterwards that I thought...shit...most people would have screamed!

You never know how you might act in any stuation.

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PattiMayor · 10/01/2012 22:00

Two things: 1. I co-sleep with DS. Last night he was digging his fingernails into my arm and I said Ow and he said Sorry Mummy. He wasn't awake and I was barely conscious

When I was a teenager, I was unwell and took the day off school and went back to bed. I heard someone coming up the stairs, open my bedroom door and stand by my bed, breathing. When I eventually opened my eyes, absolutely fucking terrified, there was no one there and there hadn't been anyone there either.

Dreams can be very, very real

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 22:00

at Fabby! your response is however quite relevant anyway.

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ShineYourButtonsWithBrasso · 10/01/2012 22:20

Sounds very scary and I can understand why you wouldn't want to open your eyes.

Could you have dreamt the whole thing? Ie; your DD didn't actually say anything and you dreamt it all?

I used to have horrible nightmares about intruders when I was younger, but when i heard an intruder downstairs with our children asleep I shot up and scared the fuckers off by standing at the top of the stairs in just my knickers.
Boy did they run!

Solo · 10/01/2012 22:36

@ Shine

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