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AIBU?

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To think that DH was being a weirdo about what happened last night?

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 11:49

Ok....Woo warning...I was in bed with DD2 aged 3 last night...in Mine and Dhs room....he's broken his hip and sometimes sleeps on the futon in the spare room as he feels safer....(I'm a bit kicky)

SO....I was paranoid about not waking up to get DD1 off to school on time so had a restless night...when you keep wakng up in the small hours...

It must have been around 4.00am when heard CREEEEEEK like our door opening...it was very close...IN the room this creak...it was half dark and I thought "Oh the wind has pushed open the door" then DD went very stiff and said "What's that?"

So without opening my eyes I said "Just the wind" there was a pause and she said "I'm frightened" and I mumbled something like "No...it's fine...its just the wind opening the door"

And she said

"But someone black has walked into the room"

And I thought "EEK" so I said "Just Daddy checking on us!" but kept my eyes tight shut.

After a bit we both fell asleep again.

I told DH when we all gpt up and he shouted at me! He said I was stupid for not opening my eyes...and that I imagined it all anyway.

I never. I was awake. I know I was. Weird thing was that DH said our door was tight shut anyway....AND it doesn't creak! I tested it...tested them all tbh but I know what I heard. AIBU to think DH was scared of our creaky ghost...? And also to ask you all to explain away the "someone black" who walked in?

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redrubyshoes · 09/01/2012 12:23

Sounds like lucid dreaming, I used to regularly 'see' figures around my bed at night and freak out because they looked real to me. It always took me a while to calm down afterwards.

SesameSnapped · 09/01/2012 12:24

I used to experience this kind of thing a lot as a child and teenager. Everyone tried to convince me that I was just paranoid about intruders. In retrospect I think there was more to it. I'm now a big Toni Morrison fan. :D

Runoutofideas · 09/01/2012 12:25

No idea - but it sounds like a possible explanation to me - especially as you said in your half asleep state that it was "just Daddy". Maybe you knew that really but dd freaked you out a bit?

Shutupanddrive · 09/01/2012 12:25

I don't think morphine would make him wander in the night without knowing about it. Probably just your mind playing tricks on you when you were half asleep.

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 12:26

Good point Run I feel more sane now!

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ArtVandelay · 09/01/2012 12:27

Band I do allsorts when I'm asleep. Including the odd bit of ahem 'clutching' ask my DH!

IME children (and some adults) can be very taken over by dreams and sensations and can talk and move quite a lot when asleep.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 09/01/2012 12:28

everyone looks black in a dark room when you first open your eyes until they adjst to the light, I reckon it was DH on a walkabout. dunno about the creak though... his hip?

Runoutofideas · 09/01/2012 12:28

FWIW I have had full conversations with dd (age 4) in the middle of the night and in the morning she has no recollection of them and laughs if I tell her what she said, as it is often very random!

aldiwhore · 09/01/2012 12:32

I'm afraid I think YABU to have not even opened your eyes, or got up to check, switched on a light to show your dd there was nowt there etc.,

I mean, it probably wasn't a ghost, and they're less scary than actual intruders aren't they really? I woulod have had to make sure that someone wasn't roaming the house!

Maybe that was why your DH was pissed off? That you hid under the duvet with your dd rather than getting up and making sure everything was alright?

I do understand that its instinct to feel safe under a duvet, but if your child has said they saw someone how can you NOT get up and double check? What if it had been an intruder?

SimoneD · 09/01/2012 12:33

I think your DH probably shouted at you because there could have been an intruder in the house and you just ignored it and kept your eyes shut. They could have taken anything they wanted and been off by the time you eventually opened your eyes in the morning! If my dd had said this to me Id have turned the light on pronto.

Solo · 09/01/2012 12:55

What sort of book does Toni Morrison write then? SesameSnapped?

Catsdontcare · 09/01/2012 13:00

When the zombie apocalypse comes you're doomed bandofmothers!!

SesameSnapped · 09/01/2012 13:17

Solo Her most famous works are heavily influenced by the author's belief in the supernatural. 'Beloved' won the Pulitzer Prize in 1988.

hackmum · 09/01/2012 13:19

I used to suffer from sleep paralysis. What the OP describes doesn't sound quite the same, as her DD was involved. Maybe her DD was talking in her sleep? (People can occasionally have lucid conversations while asleep.) If the implication is that the DD had sleep paralysis, then I'm afraid she wouldn't have been able to talk - the reason it's called sleep paralysis is that you literally can't move a muscle, even to scream. It's bloody scary, I can tell you!

kreechergotstuckupthechimney · 09/01/2012 13:32

means it's a load of old bollocks.

Deflatedballoonbelly · 09/01/2012 13:35

Sleep paralysis. I suffer and its horrible

rosieposey · 09/01/2012 13:37

I agree with hackmum, OP's DD heard it too so it was unlikely they were both suffering from the same dream/hallucination?

FWIW i completely understand the not wanting to open your eyes bit. I lived in a house that was haunted (friends, family ect would not stay over - things happened all the time day and night to me and everyone else so there was just no doubt) and i was asleep with DD2 in my bed (XDH used to work away during the week) she sat bolt upright and screamed blue murder staring wildly at the door to the bedroom - i opened my eyes with great reluctance and looked at her looking at the door i just couldn't bear to look ...

I did realise that she was just having a (one off) night terror but given the history of the house i was shit bloody scared. My sister stayed over with her daughter once en route to my sisters house and said she woke up and saw the ghost in the doorway - just standing there, she dived under the covers and wouldn't come out again till the morning (when she promptly left at 7 am). I totally 'get' not wanting to look OP .

That said though it probably was just a creak outside or maybe your DH, if an isolated incedent then dont give it a second thought.

Solo · 09/01/2012 13:47

Thanks SS they sound like my kinda books!

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 13:51

I'd have had to get out of bed and PASS the "intruder" in order to put the light on! That's too bloody stupid...far better to be Ninja about it and lie still listening. If there was someone there...I would have heard more...footsteps etc...then he'd have gotten the full wrath.

I think rosie that I have been scared in the room before and DH once had a thing where he "saw" a figure by the window...he explained it away as being half asleep but ...not to drip feed...that was in my mind also.

I'm not that woo as a person...but I'm not concieted enough to think I know evrything that exists in the universe enough to have NO fear of anythng.

at DHs creaking hip!

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rosieposey · 09/01/2012 13:57

Im not woo either - in fact im much more likely to look for any other explanation that i can but there are some things that you just cant deny or explain away. People that scoff and call it bollocks are entitled to their opinion i just hope that something happens to them to at least give them a more broad minded outlook. In the 7 years since i left that house not a thing has happened again to me or any of my family.

Perhaps the thing your DH saw by the window was just him being half asleep - i would think that you would get a 'feeling' more often than not in your house accompanied by things you just cant explain. Seriously, i wouldn't worry and tell your DH you were scared as you were just woken up so no one can blame you for not wanting to open your eyes.

hiddenhome · 09/01/2012 14:09

When dh was on retreat at the monastery, he awoke to find someone standing in the room. It then came across and sat on the end of the bed. He actually felt the weight of it. He's not remotely woo and is very level headed.

His bedroom door was locked and it's wasn't a visiting cat either.

festi · 09/01/2012 14:09

I suffer sleep paralaysis and often convinced Im awake but in actual fact Im asleep, the fact you kept your eyes shut and fell back to sleep suggests to me you where not awake.

I have mastered the act of waking myself up. I go through the motions of screaming, but my screams are silent, in actuall fact I do not move when I think im screaming (i know this as I have asked a partner), these is something cognitive in me doing this and eventually the effort of forcing out a screaming and lunging forward gets rid of the paralysis untill IO wake up.

I used to work in a very old victorian building, where I would be on a 26hr duty and sleep there at night there where 2 staff bedrooms one on the top floor and one on the ground floor, If I slept upstairs I always had a recurring dream of a horseman coming to take me away in the dead of night, I was a child in the dream and I was hidden in the loft space by adults so I was not taken away and it was very very scary. may have been my imagination or some strange conection with the house I have no idea. These dreams got worse and eventually developed from this dream into a transluccent blach horseman ridding through the room swipping at my head. The noice and wind I relt was very very real, but Of course it was just a dream, but seemed so vivid every time.

I then went to work at another simiar place a little older and I began to dream of different horseman but the same situation transluccesnt riding at high speed through the room swiping at my head.

I later strated to reseach this and had no knowledge of the 4 horseman of the appocolypse prior, but the story resenated with the different horseman.

bloody scary, no longer work in either places now so dont have theose dreams. Now I just dream Im being electrocuted.

HipHopOpotomus · 09/01/2012 14:12

YABU not to have checked it out.

Next time, big breath, turn light on & check things out. Either there is nothing there and you save freaking yourself and your kids out, or there is something there and you can deal with it.

All part of being an adult/parent isn't it?

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 14:20

No Hippo...I won't....I would have to pass whatever it is and that's just fecking dumb! As I said before...better to listen and feign sleep. If I REALLY thought a person was in the room and I am sure I would know...then I wouldn't keep my frigging eyes shut!

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 14:22

festi at your dreams! I'd be a gibbering wreck!

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