To think that people tend to find people their own age attractive and don't necessarily find younger people 'hotter'?

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When I was 18 I didn't find many men over 30 attractive, now I'm getting on a bit I do find men my own age attractive and am not generally attracted to men in their 20's... Do you think this works for men too? Anyone else find this or the opposite?

I can't speak for men, but it's true for me. Once I might have fancied Justin Bieber (well, maybe not, but you get the point I'm making) now I think George Clooney and Simon Cowell aren't too bad.

Once I wouldn't have considered them old.

I do wonder if I will one day find Alf Garnet attractive.

Maybe men always find women of about 30 attractive. I'm just guessing.

I find people with personality attractive. Cant really say about finding younger people more attractive, i am only 23 :). But i did used to like Justin timberlake and someone two years older than me. I ended up marrying my ex who was 9 years older, and now divorcing (was married at 17) x

I don't know about unreasonable. Daft maybe? Men will ALWAYS choose the young hottie over the woman their own age. It's evolutionary and the sensible way to protect the continuation of the species. It might not be the best or most sensible choice but their brains are hard wired. Watch old/ugly men trying to pick women to send messages to on internet dating. They won't be picking the women they can get - they'll be picking the hotties. Sad but true.

(OK so this is a sweeping generalisation but we seem to be in the territory of generalisations so it's OK IMHO)

Oh, I don't know. I would quite happy shag share a cup of tea with Matt Smith, or that bloke who was the vampire on Being Human.

And I am 48.

I've never found men my own age or younger attractive. Always older. Still do. I'm 26 and don't find anyone under 30 attractive at all.

Never found teenagers or 20's attractive. Never had a BF under 46 once I started work. Drunken, purile morons with no sense of ambition never floated my boat.

Happy with my own age group now.

Some people are just attractive, whatever their age. But Simon Cowell, eeeew!

Older men have always been my thing - from Harrison ford to Hugh Laurie
to clarkson

But DH is younger than me at 25. however he is rugged and looks to be forty when I met him he was 16 and I thought he was in his mid twenties! Lol

Men will ALWAYS choose the young hottie over the woman their own age.

Very broad sterotype there - My DH would kick Cherly Cole over anyday for Kylie

I think that like with all things, it can only be a personal response.
There are enough dribbling and lustful threads on here directed at people the same age as my children, or a little older. I have never really seen the appeal of a much younger man, I like a bit of interesting and informed conversation as well as sex.
I have nothing against eye-candy, beauty enhances the view. I just don't want to do anything other than admire.

I agree with Tiger, I don't like guys my own age, so that probably explains why my DH is 19 years older than me, I'm 28 and have been with him for 9 years. I lurve Bruce Willis, Jason Statham and Vin Diesel, and my odd one out is David Tenant as Dr Who, I'm sure all of them are older (well obv Brucie boy is by miles)

If I can join in your sweeping generalisation-fest radio helen, sometimes it does work out for the older wrinklier less attractive bloke going for a younger woman, in the immortal words of the lovely Mrs Merton to Debbie McGee 'So Debbie, what attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels...?'

trois and Kylie looks her age doesn't she

Botox and fillers to make her look younger... there's a reason for it.

I wonder at what age it stops, or when I'm 70 will I fancy 70 year old men?

And for myself, I'd always favour somone who knew their way about than some fumbling youngster

Younger men appeal to me far more than those near, at or above my own age. It's a pain because I am an older woman and the younger men (OMG at the plumber who arrived yesterday, v fit but obv v married) I fancy do not fancy me. Some men of my generation (no, not all, some have evident joie de vivre and are spirited and good fun) are still looking for someone to take care of their domestic arrangments. And, of course, there are some women who want a DIY expert or a financial adviser or a meal ticket. Plenty of us don't want any of this, we would like a give and take relationship with plenty of laughs, support, interests in common, sex, friendship etc etc. Have to confess, though, would far rather have that with someone younger than with someone my own age. The reality is that younger men dismiss me as I dismiss men of my own age or older. Guess that's life. Beware of knowing what you want...

When I was younger I used to fancy men who were older. I still find older men attractive and had a naughty dream about an older man the other night. Oddly enough, in this dream, when flirting with the attractive (think late 50's and I'm 30) man, I was wearing my scruffy old New Balance running shoes and an RAF outfit. Very weird. Apologies for this, I've had a few wines as the bambino settled down very early tonight!
I don't know about men though. I think my other half finds any attractive woman attractive as sometimes he refers to for example " the attractive other lady" at work....! Oooh, actually, I do find Zak Efron and Professor Green attractive. Hope that helps!!

I meant older rather than other!

Lynette! You are bad!

Ribeno - That made me chuckle!

Actually I reckon the older I get, the more I find younger men attractive. Not in a slightly creepy Caroline Paedophlack way tho- it's just now at my age, a bloke five years younger than me is still very definitely a fully-grown man.

Are women who've had their bodies hammered into shape by cosmetic procedures more or less attractive to men because of it?

To me, not looking at them in a sexually attractive way, it would depend on how noticable it was.

It's when everything has been 'done' I feel sorry they don't feel comfortable getting even a little bit old. I saw whatshername, the scottish 60s singer, did she do shout? doing the story on cbeebies, and she looks younger than me! But I know it doesn't add up and she must have had things done.

It screams her feeling insecure about it, and why would you want to advertise your insecurities?

When I was in my early 20s I was frequently attracted to men 15+ years older than me.

As I got older the ages slowly reduced, now I'm in my late 30s 39 I don't find men my own age attractive at all. I look a lot younger than my actual age whereas I find most men approaching 40 in RL look every day of it. Currently I tend to attract/be attracted to men in their early 30s.

What worries me slightly is if this continues in another 5-10 years I'm going to be some scary Janice Dickinson type cougar chasing after 20something guys...

AgentZigzag - Well put, I often think the same thing about lots of people in the public eye/celebrities, it must be a strange world to work in

I think that the men you're attracted to can change throughout your life. DP is the exact same age as me but when I was 32 I dated a 17 year old (I know... very wrong... but he was 6'3", blonde, blue eyes and played on the school rugby team!! )and later that year dated a 51 year old (who took me for lovely meals and trips to the theatre)

It's more about chemistry and attraction, rather than simply age, don't you think?