To think that people tend to find people their own age attractive and don't necessarily find younger people 'hotter'?

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When I was 18 I didn't find many men over 30 attractive, now I'm getting on a bit I do find men my own age attractive and am not generally attracted to men in their 20's... Do you think this works for men too? Anyone else find this or the opposite?

I agree with the OP. Now I am sliding into middle age (mid thirties) guys who are less than 30 leave me cold. There are some young very handsome guys at work but I find older and less conventionally attractive guys much more interesting.

Could also be a reflection though on how I feel about myself. 2 pregnancies have taken their toll on my body and I wouldn't feel comfortable with some buff 22 yo.

Agree with hatessponge. I've sort of leapfrogged the age I find attractive. And I find I don't now think that men age better than women, not normal men anyway.

Was the Being Human vampire Aiden something? He was Dante Rossetti as well? He shockingly good looking

Im 46 men my age turn me off, Im only attracted to those in the 35 to 40 age bracket most of the time. Never older or the same age.

Hate sponge made me think of Benjamin button lol

Always fancied men around my own age.. but never gone for pretty boy looks. always preferred the more "lived in look" My ex looked like he had squatters

Oh dear. I think I may be some sort of Mrs Robinson. I was 21 the last time I went out with someone my own age or older. All my boyfriends have been at least 2 years younger than me. OH is 5 years younger. Maybe because I am immature?! :)

hmmm my eldest ds father ran of with a 16 year old when he was in his late 20's.

I do find younger men quite attractive. I'm in my mid 30's now and find myself fancying men 10 years younger than me.

older men no, strangely. Ive never gone for the older older man, they have always been same age or younger.

I can admire young, firm, toned bodies.

But the really sexy part of the man is the brain, and that definitely improves with age. I can imagine all sorts of difficulties trying to really connect to someone much younger. I mean, who wants to be reminded, when reminiscing about high moments in your life, that they were still in nappies then?

Oh, but I wasn't thinking of connection. I can do all that with a nice older chap. I was thinking of wild, energetic, filthy sex.

mmm let me think

average 45 year old man, losing his hair, out of shape and set in his ways

average 25 year old man, still has his hair, looks after himself and still has a lust for life

but i am not just attracted to looks and hair i am not that shallow but when i am out and about yes younger men tend to catch my eye more than more mature men (unless i am in spain the older men there are so attractive lots of jose mourinho types)

When I was 21 I had a brief liaison with a man in his late 40s (albeit looked at least 10 years younger). 18 years on I wouldn't look twice at anyone over 40 45. Weird...

I am in my late thirties and don't find men over 30 attractive.

i have never found older men attractive
as i get older i still find younger men more appealing - most men my age look it

I'm mid 30s. I would say I look for a mischievous glint of the eye and an unconventional air in a man.

That can come at any age.

However, with men younger than me I tend to recognise that I would have fancied them when they were younger rather than finding them attractive now.

when I was younger. Obviously. They are younger.

SwedishEdith - Aiden Turner. He is yummy!

Unfortunately I got a bit of the old belly flip at the very young verging on illegal Taylor Lautner in Twilight - flame away - but then realised he is only a few years older than DSS1 and felt rather ill and icky. Having said that, I also have a crush on the fella that plays Bella's dad and fancy the pants off Johnny Depp so I feel a bit less like a dirty old woman

I am 37, I find early/late 20s men attractive in the sense I can appreciate they are handsome BUT I don't find them sexually appealing. For them to be handsome in the way I find sexual they tend to be 30+.
If any of that makes sense.

That makes complete sense to me Queen. That's exactly how I would describe it. With, of course, the glint!

I'm the other way, so to speak. When I was in my 20's I found men my own age attractive. In my late 20's/early 30's it was men slightly younger. Now, they tend to be older, but really the age has nothing to do with it, it is the personality that attracts me.

average 45 year old man, losing his hair, out of shape and set in his ways
average 25 year old man, still has his hair, looks after himself and still has a lust for life

Hmm Slipper just shows how we interpre the word average differently! To view your generalisations from a different perspective:

For me, average 45 year old man (or preferably older!) been around the block a few times, independent, no longer thinks getting drunk is funny, can string a few words together, looks after himself, may or may not have hair but is comfortable in himself, doesn't think a daily shower or several is for sissies; lateral thinker.

Average 25 year old, quite possibly (through no fault of his own) still living with parents, quite likely heavily into computer games as opposed to, say, books or newspapers, no stranger to being three sheets to the wind, sleeps ridiculously long hours, no real memory of the world before 1990, thinks the landry fairy washes and irons his clothes, tends to think what his mates think.

Bit of a no-brainer for me too!

Hmm when I was a bit younger, men five years younger than me looked like boys but now they are all very definitely grown men and very nice to look at.

Men will always look at young women too although I think most people looking for companionship rather than sex and capable of using their brains would look for someone of at least a similar age - who wants to be reminded that they are old?!

SAdly men are more likely to fancy younger and younger women, go to Asia or poor Europe to see for yourself.

I have never been out with a man older than me! My DH is 3 yrs younger than me but looks young for his age so could be 30. I am early 40s. If I were single I would go out with men as young as 18 but I wouldn't expect a relationship at that age. And I guess I would struggle to attract a man that young now. But I'm never attracted to older men. My friend is married to a man 10 yrs older. At first it didn't seem to matter. But now he's over 50 he seems old and set in his ways and so do alot of his friends. She now seems too young for him at 40! She doesn't seem to mind but I wouldn't like it.

I generally fancy blokes who are around 30 - which is over 10 years younger than I am