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To want to throttle my sis with her own intestines then slow boil her head ? << froths >>

61 replies

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 06/01/2012 19:43

Oh my bloody sis has a death wish I SWEAR. Spent today clearing my living room of all the christmas stuff, by my non existent standards it was immaculate, fireplace was cleared and polished, floor mopped and a bin bag full of shite binned. I even went through the magazine rack ffs AND all the bits like odds and ends of clothes, hair stuff etc were in there rightful place.

It was THAT tidy I even opened the blinds ffs AND I had candles lit, so it smelt nice.
( It also meant she couldn't do her usual 'what's that smell thing she does, making me feel uncomfortable in my own house )
SHE walked in ( she of the huge house with only her husband and no kids, SHE who makes us sit in the dining room when we visit, SHE who chased the kids with a sweeping brush when the silly string came out at dds party )

And she said ' what ave you been doing all day Jue ? i've been cleaning the house all day, you could do with getting in here sorted out you know.

'What's wrong with it ?' Says I. , icicles gathering on my eyeballs. 'What would you improve ?'

She stood there rabbit caught in the headlights stylee obviously thinking 'oh fuck'

'The skirting boards', she says, 'have you cleaned your skirting boards' ?

'Yes' I growl, 'I hoovered them, is there a problem with that ?'

'Oh, was just asking narky' says she. ( doing her usual thing she does after being an arse, putting it in the victims shoulders god forbid they react negatively )

There is fuck all wrong with my skirting boards.

That may sound like an overeaction, but believe me it's one of a million putdowns, grrrr, why do some people have to pick the tiniest fecking fault ?

I thank you

OP posts:
JarethTheGoblinKing · 06/01/2012 19:46

Sounds like you need to go to her house and rearrange everything, then scatter the contents of your hoover bag around her house.

Grin
IneedAbetterNicknameIn2012 · 06/01/2012 19:46

She should come to mine, its a tip right now!

YANBU. she sounds horrid :(

StewieGriffinsMom · 06/01/2012 19:48

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runningwilde · 06/01/2012 19:49

Nice one jareth! She sounds like A nightmare - ignore her, or tell her to go and have a good old shag to chill out (!)

Chundle · 06/01/2012 19:49

Oh toastie I sympathise I have a sis like this who has no kids who insists on telling me how to parent and how to clean etc which is why I now live 6 hrs away :)

tigana · 06/01/2012 19:50

There's a Tshirt slogan for you..."There's fuck all wrong with my skirting boards."

So, next time you visit her I take it you will be taping a single slice of bacon to the underside of her dining table while she is making a cup of tea...?

Jacksmania · 06/01/2012 19:51

YANBU at all.

Just wondering: if you felt able to do this, what do you think would happen if you said to her, "the next time you come in here and insult me and my house will be the last time you either come in or leave. I'm done with you insulting me."

HorribleDay · 06/01/2012 19:52

Cress seeds in a wet patch of carpet, or prawns in the curtain rail?

And you're welcome here anytime - I would give you tea / wine / vodka AND chocolates AND be very very grateful....

zumm · 06/01/2012 19:52

Chundle, but that's what people with no kids do. They also think all we do is drink coffee in Starbucks all day. (Ahem, not that I ever thought like that pre-kids, obviously. Oh no.)

Jacksmania · 06/01/2012 19:52

:o tigana
Or sewing prawns into her curtains!

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 06/01/2012 19:53

We can't all be bloody perfect.

She pissed me off at christmas as well, the boy was pestering to sleep at hers saying 'I don't want to go home, the house is a pigsty my kitchen is old ' ( in his defence he has severe ASD, socially he's about 3 although he's 10, he was just repeating phrases I use at times )

Which she found highly fucking amusing, and responded by howling with laughter and encouraging him to say it. I was surprised my lips didn't fracture such was the strength of my cats bum glare, at which point we made our excuses and left.

She wouldnt bloody have him staying there anyways, she's never looked after him on her own.

Cow.

OP posts:
HorribleDay · 06/01/2012 19:53

Totally misread ad thought you'd cleaned SIL's house! So cress seeds in her carpet / prawns in her curtain rail, not yours!

EatingLemonCheesecake · 06/01/2012 19:54

omg what a big cow! I dont know how you didnt peg one of the candles at her!

Jennyrosity · 06/01/2012 19:56

Next time, put a hand on her arm, give her a wide-eyed sympathetic look and say: "oh sweetheart. Your obsession with cleanliness is obviously your way of compensating for your massive sense of personal inadequacy and low self-esteem. Do you want to talk about it?"

RaPaPaPumPumBootyMum · 06/01/2012 19:56

I think she sounds envious of you...

Is it possible that all these critical comments are a way for her to even the playing field so to speak? An adult form of sibling rivalry?

You say she has a huge house with no children... Does she want to have children? Could she be envying you your child filled home, even if it does some with dusty skirting boards Grin

Or she could just be annoying and self righteous...

YANBU by the way.

tigana · 06/01/2012 19:56

She is not perfect though is she? She is a bitch.

tigana · 06/01/2012 19:57

I like jennyrosity's idea! (coupled with a slice of bacon).

Chundle · 06/01/2012 19:58

Zumm I agree totally. My sisters favourite is " but you don't work do you?" Nooooo I don't but dd2 has SN which is why I gave up my lucrative career and why my house looks like a bombs hit it!!
You can't choose ur family OP but u can tell them when they piss u off! I accidentally sent a txt to my sis that was meant to go to my mum totally slagging off my sis after a visit from her! She was ok to me for about a year after that! Maybe time for another txt....

AtYourCervix · 06/01/2012 20:00

next time you go to hers you need to run afinger along the surfaces and pictue frames and gasp a little. don't say anything. and sniff the air but don't say anything and bend over and pick fluff from the carpets without saying anything.

Chundle · 06/01/2012 20:01

What a bitch! Simply tell her "my house may not be spotless because I spend much more time enjoying my children whereas as you don't have kids you obviously have the time to clean skirting boards!"

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 06/01/2012 20:03

No, she can't have kids.

They chose not to bother trying IVF, fertility drugs etc, mainly because they came to the conclusion they enjoyed their childfree life and going on cruises at the drop of a hat.

Either ways, she's a bitch.

OP posts:
MilitaryWag · 06/01/2012 20:03

I would have given her a pair of rubber gloves anda cloth and said 'fill your boots then love' and sat down with a large G&T and a mag

Backtobedlam · 06/01/2012 20:09

YANBU houses are for living in. You're hardly going to look back on your life and think 'ah, if only I'd spent more time cleaning'. Id send the dc's round to hers for a baking or arts and crafts day.

Asinine · 06/01/2012 20:13

Has she any redeeming qualities?

Try 'say that again, only nicer this time...'

Or

'can you think of anything positive to say?'...

Backtobedlam · 06/01/2012 20:18

Xposted before-if she can't have kids it sounds like she's trying to convince herself of the negatives. Not necessary to put you down, but she's probably actually very envious of your life and this is how it comes across.