Not to want DDs friend's in my bedroom?

[Jezabelle]

DDs are 5 and 3. I don't like the idea of their friends/ other family friend's children going into my room! I wouldn't mind with other 3 year olds so much, but the older the children get the more I object. I just feel like my room is private. Part of the reason is that it is usually a complete mess . I lurk on the babysteps goodhousekeeping book and am getting a bit better! I hate the thought of the children's parents going up to retrieve their child and having to walk into my messy bedroom. But even if it was tidy, I just wouldn't like the idea of other peoples kids in there.

I am happy for my own kids to play in there, but tell them that if their friends are round my room is out of bounds and if their friends go in there they're to tell them they're not allowed. I also tell DD1 that she mustn't go into her friends mummy and daddy's rooms when she goes to their house unless they say it is ok. Is this something others do or is it just a wierdism of mine?

thread, not book!

Nope, sounds normal to me :) It's your private space, so why should it be available for the world to see?

YANBU at all.

No, I am the same. We have put a lock on the outside of our bedroom door and lock it if DC have friends round. I often put their 'precious toys' in there as well.

Why don't you keep the door closed when the small people are there with a notice saying 'keep out'?

I don't let even my own kids in my room much! Other peoples are definitely not allowed. Its how I was brought up.

Same here, I keep the bedroom door shut when ds has friends over - no need to go in there at all.

keep out

YANBU - when I grew up my parents room was out of bounds no questions asked.

YANBU, my DC are 7 and 9 now and I have always had my and DH's bedroom as out of bounds (not always observed) and would be surprised if they came home from a friend's house saying they had had the run of the adult bedroom.

I don't even let my own kids in my bedroom very much. they have to ask me if they want to go in.

Its the only room in the house that is mine iyswim.

I also lock DC favourite/precious toys in my room when other kids come over

YANBU, when the DCs were little I didn't mind as we only had a tiny flat, but now they've got big bedrooms there's no reason for them to be in ours. The DCs know they are not to play in our room anymore.

Ds has to ask too simpson and knocks on the door if he gets up at night, I haven't told him to but I think he does it because I knock on his door before going in.

One of my friends DSs had a friend round (7ish) and she found him in her bed with his shoes on.

Thanks all! Glad to see I'm not a complete freak. I like the idea of knocking valium, I particularly like the idea that they might knock without being asked to! Think I'll try the knocking on their doors thing and see if it catches on!

I don't let dd in there at all - never mind her mates.

YANBU. No way are other kids allowed in my room. My own kids will always ask if they can go and lie on my bed to read or listen to music - they younger ones always ask if they can go into their big sisters room as well.

Yanbu, we were never allowed in our parents' room without permission, especially not with other children.

Bellowing 'GET OUTTA BY BEDROOM NOW PLEASE' up the stairs works wonders in the cheese household.

Parents can hardly argue can they ?

Not at all. In fact, I locked my room the other day.
Not that my room is messy , I just fear too much the mess they might make.

Ours used to like playing hide and seek with their friends. In our wardrobe. Hence the lock.

Yanbu- I don't mind dd coming in (she only does if we are there) but not other kids.
We have an issue as dds bedroom
Opposite . I would prefer that kids didnt play there . I don't mind if it was one kid who isnt too destructive but there have been one or two who have made a right mess (books thrown about etc) . So am considering no upstairs rule (we have play area downstairs).

Why don't parents tell visiting children to stay in the lounge/kitchen. At least they could have an eye on them. Upstairs - no.

Can't have a Nerf gun battle without going up and down the stairs though Mabel.