Not to want DDs friend's in my bedroom?

[Jezabelle]

DDs are 5 and 3. I don't like the idea of their friends/ other family friend's children going into my room! I wouldn't mind with other 3 year olds so much, but the older the children get the more I object. I just feel like my room is private. Part of the reason is that it is usually a complete mess . I lurk on the babysteps goodhousekeeping book and am getting a bit better! I hate the thought of the children's parents going up to retrieve their child and having to walk into my messy bedroom. But even if it was tidy, I just wouldn't like the idea of other peoples kids in there.

I am happy for my own kids to play in there, but tell them that if their friends are round my room is out of bounds and if their friends go in there they're to tell them they're not allowed. I also tell DD1 that she mustn't go into her friends mummy and daddy's rooms when she goes to their house unless they say it is ok. Is this something others do or is it just a wierdism of mine?

YADNBU,
My dcs only come into my bedroom when i am there. They also have to knock before entering. My room is my sanctuary. However, i would feel uncomfortable if a child went home and told their parents that they were not allowed to enter my room as this could easily be misread. The parent may think that i don't want their dcs in my home.

The rule in our house is that the other sibling must be allowed to join in (unless they are being disruptive).

I find that those firends who come to play who have younger siblings at home are much happier with this. Those who are younger siblings, seem to prefer that they are not allowed to join in.

The same is true of my two children. Ds WH is older will happily let anyone join in. Dd (youngest) prefers to not have to associate with even younger children!

Someone I know had a special toy for her younger child that he was only allowed to play with when his older sister had friends around. I thought that was quite a good idea too.

Why would you want kids playing in your bedroom? The fewer rooms they can go in the less mess they can make.
My kids have always been able to exclude each other from their bedroom if they wish. I grew up with 2 sibs and was always glad that we all had our own rooms and that they were private space to an extent. Mum and dad could always come in, but knocked when door closed and teenagers.
If DD1's friends come over why should they have to play with DD2 just because she lives in the same house?
Invite more people over for DD2 or involve her in stuff. I bet DD1 doesn't spend her time trying to gatecrash DD2's events. If she does tell her to back off. Older sibs can get a poor deal if they never get time alone with friends and 2 years is a big gap at that age.
They'll probably have a better relationship when older if you don't force them on each other when young. Let them choose to play with each other, and learn to entertain themselves if the other isn't interested.

My kids aren't allowed to play in our bedroom. & Definately no one else's kids go in there. They knock before they enter (incase we're having some "special us time") & if they want to watch SKY TV there (we have multiroom) they can if they ask.

YANBU.