To think this was rude?

[Tonkaeverywhere]

I invited the mums from school round for coffee this morning. 8 from school showed up.

During the morning, one of the mothers verbally invited every child individually to a party this weekend, bar mine.

Now:
a) the children weren't there, so my dc has no knowledge of this or the party b) I do not expect my dc to be invited to every party
c) just because all 7 at the coffee morning this morning were invited does not mean it was a whole class party, it could just be those 7.

But AIBU to think this is a rude way to have gone about this. Handing out paper invites at my house would have been less rude in my opinion than verbally inviting everyone individually but excluding the host only?

YANBU, very rude. However YABU to invite all the mums round from school.

Very rude. I too would mention it!

She must have meant to invite your child, surely no one is that rude!!! I tend to give out paper invites for parties direct to the parent but not in front of tons of people and definitely not at other people's houses unless all present are invited.

Could one of the other mam's not ask her? I would be really embarressed and hurt so couldn't ask her myself. Next time invite the others for a coffee and leave her out, see how she likes it! (chil;dish I know)

Rude woman! Unbelievable!

aquashiv i reckon our mums did have this shit to deal with but prob werent as bothered as us. I know if i asked my mum about this dilemma she would have said 'so what - dont involve her again then - you wouldnt want your DC to go to her party anyway'

Me on the other hand; would be blardy furious and bitch about her to everyone!

Massively rude. Can only hope it's a misunderstanding...

Did you sort it out OP?

Was it a mis-understanding?

Sorted out, but they were really that rude.

Another mother asked casually whether we were going to the mum, and got the response, "oh no just a small party just selected few invited".

No problem with small party and selected few - but really had to do it my house in my presence with everyone else there invited???

Not very helpful of me to say but it sounds like she's got a problem and did it deliberately. Cah.

Well you know what to say when you invite the mums around for coffee again don't you, tell her sorry its just the SELECT few.

Cross her name off the next guest list then. What a rude old bitch lady.

"selected few" rude cow.

I agree with wornout.

Your 8 mums for coffee should become 7 mums for coffee.

The Select Few.

So rude, so so so rude.

But at least everyone else will have seen how rude she is.

Make sure your future coffee mornings are for a "selected few"!

It does not matter how it was done, that was plain rude to do this in your home, knowing your the only one not invited.

Don't invite her for coffee again, just the others if you like them.

No wonder she left early, too guilty to stay

That was rude. I find it rude when I'm with friends and they start discussing their own arrangements which don't include me.

I hope that other mum did a Cats Bum Face with that response!
Breathtakingly rude!

yeh invite them again, but her, see how she likes it! Only a 'select few'

Rude, stuck up cow! I'd have it out with her and tell her that her party etiquette is crap

YANBU

very rude of her indeed. Select Few! hmmf.

make your 8 for coffee now 7 for coffee.

Or, invite all of them round again in front of her, but don't invite her.

See how she feels being knowingly left out