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AIBU to be fed up with facebook?

62 replies

newmum953 · 31/12/2011 21:26

I just got a friend request from someone who used to bully me in school. Haven't every seen or spoken to her since then so more than likely she just wants to be a lifestyle spy - grrrr! Yes, I know I can refuse but why do some people think they can do on facebook what they wouldn't do in real life? Anyone else had frustrating experiences with facebook? Ex partners stalking you etc. Feel free to rant. (just a vent topic, I know it's not really the fault of facebook but a few lame users)

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DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 21:28

FB is the work of the devil, made to make you feel shit. Make your NY resolution to be good to yourself, doing things that are positive makes yu feel better.

Honestly - the idiots who freind request me - seriously!!!

baubleybobbityhat · 31/12/2011 21:30

I've totally ignored lots of people who've made friend requests to me. Is that wrong?

Infact, I only have 30 "friends" and that suits me just fine!

happydotcom · 31/12/2011 21:31

I had a friend request from a horrible woman who used to make my life hell in primary school.
I accepted her request and sent her a PM saying it was unexpected to hear from her and why did she think I wanted to be her friend.............she deleted me!

1Catherine1 · 31/12/2011 21:33

Had a girl like that add me. I messaged her and asked her why and giving her my honest opinion of her. Blush she messaged me back telling me she was never a bully, just loud. not how i remember it. she then blocked me, apparently i seemed to have upset her. Ahh well, shit happens. YANBU

OriginalJamie · 31/12/2011 21:34

baubley - I only went on it so I could look at some pics someone put up of me (I asked them to take them down). I have 1 friend and have ignored all requests. Do you think people will think I'm rude?

MaisyMooCow · 31/12/2011 21:35

I hate FB, I hope the whole concept burns out soon. Unfortunately I don't think it will!

baubleybobbityhat · 31/12/2011 21:36

Heh heh heh OriginalJamie.

You are not my rl friend initials DA by any chance??

OriginalJamie · 31/12/2011 21:38

nooooo baubley. Do you talk about her behind her back though ?

Pocksrule · 31/12/2011 21:44

Do you think it might be replaced by Twitter (never been on that, just as bad). Myspace has pretty much gone now. Please let facebook disappear before my dd reaches 13. I frigging hate it.

EmmaBemma · 31/12/2011 21:49

Just ignore! Or, if you feel able, send a message briefly explaining why you don't want to be facebook chums.

PoppyDoolally · 31/12/2011 21:50

I'm not on facebook.

FrizzyFrazzled · 31/12/2011 21:51

I'm hooked on it but seriously thinking of deleting my account. I am finding it hard to bite the bullet and do so though, which in itself is a bit scary! Was going to put up a message that I am deleting account and for those who want to stay in touch to inbox me their email addresses.
I spend far too much time on it, mostly getting annoyed at other people! It seems to have turned into a really negative/boasting/bullying thing, or a way to get very ignorant political beliefs "out there".

secretary · 31/12/2011 21:52

I love FB. But yeah, I got a request from my school bully too. I ignored it. She requested again. I ignored it again. Felt quite good actually. Didn't bother to tell her that I was refusing to let her in on my witty updates on the grounds of her cutting a chunk out of my hair in 1992 amongst other humiliating behaviour. That's for her and her conscience to deal with.

justasmallglass · 31/12/2011 21:55

It should be called brag book, it's utter rubbish and I have just about had enough of the Christmas and New Year reflection statuses you perhaps know the sort.."it's been a great year for us, little X born, wonderful holiday in 2012.." vomit enducing!

PoppyDoolally · 31/12/2011 22:03

Do it frizzy!!!!!

I sometimes feel a little left out Sad but then remind myself that so many friends get upset by seeing pics of ex and new gf on holiday, or the bully from school friend requesting them, or mean/thoughtless comments on their wall. Wink

I used to liken it to going to the pub. At first you go because your best mate was going. Then it became a great night out with your mates. Then it became a crazy night with extended groups of friends. THEN SOMEONE LET EVERY EX BOYFRIEND AND MEAN FUCKER AND BITCH YOU'VE TRIED TO FORGET FOR 20 YEARS IN. and you feel 17 again and not in a good way.

I've even had people friend request my sister asking why I'm not on Facebook.

I don't want to go to that virtual pub. I don want to be subjected to bragging. I don't want people looking at my photos. I dont want people as Facebook friends who I wouldn't give the time of day to in te street. I dot want companies or businesses trying to use Facebook to sell me stuff.

Get out while you still can.

usualsuspect · 31/12/2011 22:05

I don't hate fb, In fact I quite like it

I do hate the moaning about fb threads on MN though

goldbow · 31/12/2011 22:20

I do hate it, people go on there to boast, gossip and causes loads of trouble.

usualsuspect · 31/12/2011 22:21

Yes, thats what I do

FrizzyFrazzled · 31/12/2011 22:30

Poppy, you are very sensible! I know exactly what you mean about the hellish night out - or high school reunion - that's exactly what it is like. Horrible. My days on FB are numbered I think.

FrizzyFrazzled · 31/12/2011 22:33

Have just posted message telling people to inbox me if I dont have their details and they want to stay in touch, as will be signing off shortly.... inspired by this thread! So thanks, newmum :)

aquashiv · 31/12/2011 22:41

There is some satisfaction to be had seeing that the chain smoking bully, who took pleasure in launching the nice girls down the stairs on the school bus home now has a face like a wizened baboons arse.
Face fucked indeed. Grin.

usualsuspect · 31/12/2011 22:41

The secret of fb is ...only add people you like

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 31/12/2011 22:42

justasmallglass I loathe those statuses too. Yuck!

OP, I don't like it either. Lots of falseness and friendship politics. If it wasn't for my magnificent farmville farm I'd have deleted my account yonks ago Grin

PoppyDoolally · 31/12/2011 22:45

Usual. That may well work in principle. But it really doesn't seem to work out that way- it's the dilemmas when you get a request. It's the hurt if turned down. It's the feeling totally exposed even to people you 'like'. It's the surrendering of privacy. The changing status. Divorces and criminal proceedings are increasingly sourcing Facebook.

Dying only add people you like is equivalent of saying yes, walk into that pub, but keep your eyes closed.

PoppyDoolally · 31/12/2011 22:46

I mean by only. Not dying.