AIBU to be fed up with facebook?

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I just got a friend request from someone who used to bully me in school. Haven't every seen or spoken to her since then so more than likely she just wants to be a lifestyle spy - grrrr! Yes, I know I can refuse but why do some people think they can do on facebook what they wouldn't do in real life? Anyone else had frustrating experiences with facebook? Ex partners stalking you etc. Feel free to rant. (just a vent topic, I know it's not really the fault of facebook but a few lame users)

Ah, now this thread reminded me of my bully.

Am now 43 and remember, very well, how this then girl behaved towards me. She was vile. So, I have looked her up on FB and sent her a request and she accepted me straight away.

I was lucky and got away from the area we grew up in. I have had a different life but, after all the years I festered have held her bullying in my heart, I have just looked at her wall and she has a very sick child in hospital.

Susan, I hope your child fights on and you all go on to live a happy life.

I only have about 40 friends on fb , non of their statuses annoy me ,in fact I quite like reading them

I have no dilemmas I would just ignore a request if I didn't want the add ,no drama really

There is also an option to not be searchable ,people need to learn the security settings really

I've had two weird FB friending things. A girl I went traveling with sent me a request even though it was a nightmare, she never spoke to me again and am pretty sure she hates me.

The other was a friend from an old workplace who had gender reassignment, deleted her 'girl' profile then wouldn't accept my friend request as a boy. Sniff.

I have loads of family overseas and it's great to see the pictures etc.

I think people my ancient age seem to use it more sensibly than young uns!

Even if you delete your account it seems your information stays, does anyone know how to get round this? I was thinking if I change my name and profile picture to Jeremy Paxman then ask everyone to report me,would they delete it then? We could do that,Jeremy Paxman takes over Facebook!

Fiolondon I don't know how you stop yourself appearing on people you may know , but I ignore all them anyway tbh

But I don't use a profile picture of me ,and have no info on my profile

Yup, I was on Facebook from long before it was that popular and I haven't been on it at all for a month now, not even for a peek (god I feel like a proper ex addict!). So many things irritate me on it and yet I still couldnt stop going on it. However, I have found the longer I've been off it the less I miss it. Glad to be away from it!

I once had a friend request from a girl who randomly walked past me in class and stabbed me in the head with a compass! (went to a really rough school as well!). I messaged her reminding her of what she had done and saying I thought it was weird she requested me! She just ignored it. I kinda felt like I would have had a bit of closure on the whole experience though if she had at least said she was sorry and 'young and stupid' or whatever

Don't miss fb now, it's evil!!

i'm a 3rd year medical student, and in our 1st year we told to join fb so to prove ourselves as 'responsible professionals'. lots of the younger ones were already on there. i only put my group on there, family members and a few friends who are abroad. as someone who had no previous interest in it, i definately found a positive use for it. for example, we live all over the county, so it was great support while writing essays, and getting our results. i have become addicted, and get loads of information about my chosen career on there. unfortunately, just as we are finishing, a group of girls have began to be quite nasty to others in the class. i decided to quietly unfriend 2 of the girls, because i didn't want to read their spiteful posts, to be treated like i had committed murder. fb canbecome a dangerous place overnight.

YABU to ever have used it in the first place.

I left Facebook on 29/12/11 after almost three years. didnt like the timeline idea and i also felt that some of the stuff people put on there was just childish.

What is the timeline thing?

I think it's about how you have it set up, I think. I have family and friends all over the country and overseas besides and I find it invaluable in order to be able to keep up with what they're all up to. I have quite close friendships with people I wouldn't otherwise be able to if it weren't for facebook. I don't have friends who brag or whine on my page - and the rare person who has pissed me off on there has had their statuses blocked by me so they don't appear in my feed. I have my privacy settings set so that people can't randomly search me out, they have to know a friend of mine to friend me - and I don't hesitate to reject friend requests from people I have no interest in knowing or communicating with. I find Facebook an enjoyable thing to use, and if I didn't - I'd deactivate my account. Shrug.

yanbu

you dont have to use it though

or accept her then block her so she will get an acceptance email, pop on to check fb and see she has been blocked

I have just recently erased all my 'friends' that I know only friended me to be nosy. Now I only have a family on there. Most of which are in Argentina, and (god bless them) are young and seem to be on it all day. But it's a invaluable way to keep in touch. But as I get older I find myself disliking FB more and more

I think in a few years time we will all look back on the FB years and wonder "why?"

I deactivated my account in September. I did have a good reason in the a family member was very unwell and I didn't want it to be discussed in such a public way. I was a big user of FB, I admit. It was strange the first couple of weeks without it (!) but now I don't miss it at all. Friends were telling me they missed me on it and decided to re-activate it mid December. 24 hours later I deactivated it again. What a load of mindless rubbish, bragging and just a complete waste of time.

Life is better without FB!

I don't even have my surname on there. I changed my surname so that I don't come up under searches. Good point Fiolondon, how do you stop coming up in other people's friend list? Is there anyway to make that private?

I am the only person I know who is not on FB, and never has been. Can't stand the thought of folk flicking thro pictures of me. I also know that I could not be mean enough to ignore friend requests and so would end up with every person I've ever met in my life on there!

I'm kind of private really and was freaked out last year when a girl from school came over to me in the pub and congratulated me on the birth of my DS. She knew his name. I couldn't remember hers. She found out via FB. Weird.

lol, I love the fact that my parents bought me up with a different surname than to what it is on my Birth Certificate (I dont know how they got away with it either, but they did) so everyone I went to school with can't find me as they dont know my real name!

How do they know if they've been blocked?

I just ignore request from people I don't want to have anything to do with. I love FB - it lets me stay in touch with family and friends who are all over the world. I don't get involved in any drama and have happily blocked people who annoy me. It's all in how you use it.

It also gives me great insight into my teens and their friends etc. I am an unabashed stalker that way.