My best friend and I have known each other for seven years. She came out of a relationship and moved 100 miles back home but had nowhere to stay. I offered her my spare room as she said her friend was givibg her money or her first months rent and deposit on a flat and would only be with me a few weeks until she got a job.
That was two months ago. No job and not entitled to JSA as she left her last job voluntarily. She pays nothing yet has internet, food, alcohol etc free here and she gets to eat a takeaway when DP and I have one or a night at the pub where other people or I buy her a few drinks. DP and I have had more arguments since she's been here and he tries to make me see she's a scrounger and only conrributes occasionally to housework and has babysat for 8 hours in 2 months. He wants her gone.
Friend and I argued last night and she stayed with her brother 10 minutes away. Her brother is a single dad to two little girls, is on benefits, has their gambling dad living there and so she says she couldn't stay there.
AIBU to ask her to leave? DP and I don't feel comfortable in our own house anymore. She rarely gets up until mid afternoon and spends the majority of time in her room downloading and on Facebook. She's 25 FGS and I have a DP and two DD's on a small income. I can't afford this. She plans to 'pay off debt' when she gets her JSA, not contribute and instead of asking her brother for money for Christmas she asked (and got) comic books and Skyrim.
I'm fuming. I can't see her on the streets as she's been like a sister to me but I feel like a fucking mug.