To cringe when my friend talks about her "expensive" tastes?

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We have been friends for about 3 years. In the past year or so she's becomes obsessed with "fashion" and basically spending shit loads of money on ridiculous items. She comes into work saying stuff like "oh I've seen the most gorgeous coat, it's £485 though" she then waits for the shock response and then adds "but I love it so much - my husband said he doesn't mind if I get it" she waits again for a response and then adds "but it's Soooo expensive" blah blah on and on. So she buys the bloody thing and then starts going on and on about some new boots she's seen for £500 - same thing again - "oh but they're so expensive - oh but I love them - oh I don't know what to do - I can't stop thinking about them" on and on and on.

But then the really cringe worthy bits come when she says things like "Oh I really want this Superdry jumper I've seen - I mean, when you wear superdry people KNOW it's expensive, that's why I want one" or "I prefer the brown boots to the black ones as they LOOK more expensive and people will notice how expensive they are"

To add - she then tells me they're struggling with mortgage payments

She's my friend and everything but aibu to find the whole "I want people to think I wear expensive stuff" a bit sad and tedious?

I mean - example of how ridiculous it is - our company was in trouble and there was talk of redundancies - we're all sat around moping and she sighs and says "oh I'm so stressed out" I'm about to agree with her and she adds "I can't make up my mind about those boots" ffs

sausage in grandads eye

I don't think she sounds depressed necessarily, or like her relationship is crap. Those could be true of course, but equally she could just be immensely superficial and boastful as well as having no social intelligence...

Just roll your eyes and have a laugh about it and bitch more on here :)

I like to add Ratatouille in the ribbon drawer.

I was in Bluewater yesterday and saw a queue of people waiting to go into Hollister. It was like a night club, there was a rope to keep people in line and a sort of bouncer at the entrance to keep the uncool out. All they seem to sell are T shirts with the word "Hollister" printed on them. They look the same as any other T shirt to me but full marks to their marketing department.

I quite agree Sue52. A year or two ago (perhaps 3) I remember queuing to get into Abercrombie and Fitch in the West End because the DC wanted tops when they were all the rage. It was the worst, the very worst shopping experience of my entire life.

The friend though, I think sounds as though she may be covering up quite complex problems in real life with this obsession about clothes and spending money she doesn't have. Or she just wants a champagne lifestyle (or what she thinks is a champagne lifestyle) on beer money.

She sounds as thought she is trying to project an image of being in control and wealthy when in fact financially they are struggling.

I would ignore her completely - she sounds deeply insecure.

Oh is that what Paul's Boutique is then? loads of twelve year old girls wearing jackets with it on in cardiff, thought they'd be lumbered into some crappy advertising campaign by a relative.

Looked shit.

My twelve year old boy however does not know what superdry is God bless 'im!

I dont' think either of my teenagers know what superdry is and I have never heard of it.

Agree OPs friend must have some ishoos.

Still unclear on the food in random places

She's trying to happy herself up. Have you tried talking to her? She's probably in a deep financial mess.