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about popping candy?

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 00:35

My df and i were in Tesco today with my dcs and he said he'd buy them both a sweetie. This I have no problem with at all. I don't buy them sweets and we see him once a week when he always buys them one each. He took them to the sweet aisle and let them choose something. Ds wanted a wee packet of chocolate buttons. Fine. Dd wanted a flump. Again fine. Df then decides that they should both have a packet of popping candy each to which I said no as i don't think it is appropriate and is pretty disgusting imo. Df made a big hooha about it saying I was being stupid and mean not letting them have it and proceeded to buy it anyway and giving it to dcs while I was in the toilet. Aibu to think that a) I am their mother and if I say no that means no and b) I am not overreacting and being stupid to be selective in what my dcs eat. They are 3 and 4

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MeltedAdventCalendarChocolates · 28/12/2011 00:38

a) what you say should go but seriously? Get a grip....

YABVVU and totally overreacting.

PeaceofCakeAndGoodWineToAllMN · 28/12/2011 00:38

b) they are children. Stop overreacting and let them be children. Sorry.

Miette · 28/12/2011 00:39

Why is it unappropriate and disgusting? It is no worse for them than any other sweet and is a lot of fun at that age. Sweets once a week sounds fine. One type of sweet at a time is probably better, but at Christmas two types of sweets is ok. My youngest is 4 and has had plenty more than once type of sweet over Christmas, but come the new year we will be back to rationing sweets!

woahthere · 28/12/2011 00:40

popping candy is ace yabu

butterfliesinmytummy · 28/12/2011 00:41

Grandparents are there to spoil their grandchildren. Popping candy is a bit of fun, it won't do them any harm and they'll enjoy it - plus it's funny watching them try it for the first time. I think you're more upset about being overruled than your kids having a sweetie.

YABU

However, I don't think your DF should have let them have it while you were absent....

LordOfTheFlies · 28/12/2011 00:41

Sorry - DF is that your dad or DC dad?

I think- it's a bag of sweets.Popping candy is small, over in seconds and fun

But if he's over-ridden your wishes? That's different.
It sounds like your DC weren't bothered by the popping candy until he bought it.

Mine have flipping Popping Candy. I even bought some to go in their Christmas Eve Hamper.

But I won't let them have chewing gum or bubble gum.And they know (as do parents and In Laws) that I'll skin them if they buy iy.

ViviPrudolf · 28/12/2011 00:42

He IBU for going against your wishes in a sneaky way.

YABmassivelyU for thinking that you are the arbitrator of some kind of sweetie disgustingness hierarchy.

Rudolfsgottarednose · 28/12/2011 00:42

I don't see the difference in a flump and popping candy, tbh.

If your DF was letting them choose and they had made their choice, why did he want them to have something different or extra?

It was a stupid arguement that shouldn't be still going through your mind at this time in the morning.

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2011 00:43

OMG popping candy is fun!!

My kids gave me some of their popping candy chocolate orange yesterday and it was oddly nice Grin

Is there some sort of popping candy cult we're all unaware of OP...that's going to drag us in and take a 3rd of our monthly pay packets? Grin

BertieBotts · 28/12/2011 00:45

df - father, friend or fiance?

I don't get why popping candy is disgusting? Confused I think many of the things DS eats are disgusting, doesn't mean I ban him from having them...

LordOfTheFlies · 28/12/2011 00:48

Yes Worra it's called Mr Simms Old Fashioned Sweet Shop and it's like Nirvana for DCs.

Rather too much money passes over the counter. their pocket money!

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2011 00:53

That bastard Mr Simms told me it was safe to snort Hmm

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 00:55

I don't care too much about the actual sweet tbh but i am pissed off that my dad did the exact opposite of what I said. The reason I don't want them to have it is because my dn choked on some about a year ago which i did tell df. She was 3 at the time. Also my dd has gag problems and this is the kind of the thong that would cause hassle. I just think if i don't want my dcs to have something I should be listened to and not told I am stupid. Maaybe I am bu to be so upset but its been playing on my mind all night and I needed to vent. I had popping candy when I was a kid but a much older one and i do have a reason for them not to. Meh I don't even know anymore

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 00:55

Arg phone auto correct

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sparklytinselandthings · 28/12/2011 00:57

Oh blimey. It's only a pack of popping candy. Not crack cocaine. Yes, YABVU. This coming from the mother who rarely lets her kids eat sweets as well as they're full of crap.
However if you don't buy them sweets and he only does once a week then where is the problem?! It's hardly like they're getting them every day.
Besides, popping candy is brilliant! Grin
My 8 year old had a little bag on holiday this year and his face was a picture, he found it hilarious when it all popped and fizzed on his tongue!
So you are being unreasonable just to deny your kids of that perfect kids reaction. Smile
Oh and for denying yourself of the popping candy experience - I had some as well for the first time since I was about 9! )

HeadfirstForGabrielsHalo · 28/12/2011 00:58

Oh I want some popping candy now! Is it true that if you fill your mouth with popping candy and have a swig of coke it explodes? Xmas Grin

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2011 00:58

YANBU in the sense he should have listened to you no matter how neurotic you sound

But choking on popping candy would be no more severe than choking on chocolate button surely?

Actually it would melt way faster Confused

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2011 00:59

Oh I want some popping candy now! Is it true that if you fill your mouth with popping candy and have a swig of coke it explodes?

Not sure but it certainly does add to the pleasure of oral sex Blush

sparklytinselandthings · 28/12/2011 01:01

See, you didn't even mention anything about the choking bit in your original post. That changes things. Why didn't you say that in the first place?! Confused

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 01:02

Worra Shock naughty :o

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Miette · 28/12/2011 01:04

I assumed you meant your dear fiance.

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 01:09

Oh I don't know sparkly think I'm just tired. I know df was just trying to be nice I just wish he'd listen to me. I know I'm being a bit over-the-top but my dn choking was really scary and made me a bit wary of the stuff. I think it tastes disgusting btw like sweetener but that's just my taste I guess

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ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 28/12/2011 01:17

Ginger - YANBU that if you said you didn't want them to have something, he shouldn't have bought it, you are their Mum & he should respect that. However, he's brought you up and you survived so I think you need to give him a little credit!

Also - popping candy is not vile, it's a lot less vile that a lot of kids sweets!

I fail to see how your DN almost choked on it?! But it's a lot less likely to choke someone than pretty much any other sweet as there's nothing to it and it just dissolves quickly.

You need to pick your battles and not just say 'No' over things that aren't important or you will really hamper your DF & DC's relationship and there isn't much that's worth doing that over. Really there isn't.

PercyFilth · 28/12/2011 01:17

df

I hate all this bollix, why not just say "my Dad". Half the time I have no idea who people are on about on here.

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 01:33

I don't know how she choked exactly chipping i think it was popping at the back of her throat and it made her cough but it wasn't pleasant. I think by the time it had dissolved she was already coughing badly so she kept choking iyswim. My dad has a great relationshipwith the dcs and i didn't have a go in front of them just calmly told him what i thought and spoke to him properly later. He's not the type to let it cloud his relationship with them. Water off a ducks back just like everything else I tell him

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