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about popping candy?

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GingerSnapsBack · 28/12/2011 00:35

My df and i were in Tesco today with my dcs and he said he'd buy them both a sweetie. This I have no problem with at all. I don't buy them sweets and we see him once a week when he always buys them one each. He took them to the sweet aisle and let them choose something. Ds wanted a wee packet of chocolate buttons. Fine. Dd wanted a flump. Again fine. Df then decides that they should both have a packet of popping candy each to which I said no as i don't think it is appropriate and is pretty disgusting imo. Df made a big hooha about it saying I was being stupid and mean not letting them have it and proceeded to buy it anyway and giving it to dcs while I was in the toilet. Aibu to think that a) I am their mother and if I say no that means no and b) I am not overreacting and being stupid to be selective in what my dcs eat. They are 3 and 4

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perplexedpirate · 28/12/2011 01:44

worra I need more information (and some popping candy).

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 28/12/2011 01:53

Ginger - Water off a ducks back just like everything else I tell him Grin I know what you mean, but I think you might find, in time, he wont bother taking them out or buying them things or doing things with them because it's just not worth 'getting it in the ear' off of Ginger. I've seen it so many times and it's sad. When people aren't around anymore you realise what's important and what isn't and you wish you hadn't got all stressy about the little things... just sayin'

Perplex - what more information do you need? Put the candy in your mouth and do the deed!! If you can manage a little candy and a little coca-cola all the better Grin Still prefer Bailey's myself - but there you go!

hippysair · 28/12/2011 02:08

Reading this has really made me want to buy some for ds, who's never tried it. Can't wait to see his face. And Btw, yes yabvu. It's a grandparents job, to get disapproval from their dc by giving dgc what is 'forbidden' my dp do it all the time, they actually enjoy my negative reactions too, so I don't react anymore. Ds only see's them about once as month anyhow. (Shrugs)

perplexedpirate · 28/12/2011 02:34

chipping thanks. I thought you might, you know, just sprinkle it on there.

yellowraincoat · 28/12/2011 03:00

ChippingIn's advice is really sensible. No, your dad shouldn't have overridden your wishes, but if you argue every little thing, he won't bother in the future. The relationship between him and the kids, and between you and him, will be worse off.

And honestly, you're worried they'll choke on popping candy? It dissolves! IT DISSOLVES!!

BertieBotts · 28/12/2011 09:20

Choking is silent and doesn't involve coughing, so although I appreciate it wasn't nice seeing your DN suffer like that and must have been distressing, it sounds like she wasn't at risk of death or anything awful. Still you're probably right to say wait until she's older if your DD gags easily, no point in upsetting her unnecessarily.

pigletmania · 28/12/2011 09:28

My god you need to get a pretty big grip, disgusting! inappropriate! Sweets in moderation is fine. They are kids fgs, there are going to be many opportunities where they are going to be offered sweets, are you going to helicopter them and snatch the offending articles off them Hmm

pigletmania · 28/12/2011 09:29

How can you choke on popping candy, it disolves in the mouth!

AlleycatD · 28/12/2011 09:30

I think popping candy is fine. It actually disolves quickly and so would be a much less chocking hazzard than a lot of other sweets.

ILoveSanta · 28/12/2011 09:34

I think YABU for not letting them have the popping candy in the first place, however YANBU for expecting your dad to listen to you when you say no.

My DS was refusing to eat dinner a couple of weekends ago and my mum wanted me to give him toast....... I said NO, that is his dinner, that's it. That or nothing else. And she was okay and left it. It would really have annoyed me if she'd gone and got him something else despite me saying no.

If it was behind. My back it wouldn't have bothered me so much, but if it was right in front of me I would have been really cross - GP can do the whole conspiratorial thing when they have the kids for the day, but when you are there, it is just undermining you!

SardineQueen · 28/12/2011 09:35

"Oh I want some popping candy now! Is it true that if you fill your mouth with popping candy and have a swig of coke it explodes?

Not sure but it certainly does add to the pleasure of oral sex"

For who?! I think if I tried to fit all that in my mouth there would be pretty serious repurcussions and a lot of bedding to wash!

CarefullyAirbrushedPotato · 28/12/2011 09:36

YANBU
anyone who went against what I had decided for my DC behind my back would not be allowed the opportunity to repeat offend.
If you had been suggesting that they should be locked in the coal hole he might've had cause to intercede, as it was he was being disrespectful of your wishes which is a clear no no.

Your children your choice. That it all.

kneesofnorks · 28/12/2011 09:37

This reminds me of the child of about 5 I saw having a tantrum after seeing Santa last week, mum was shouting, nay screaming at her how it was full of sugar and bad colours so she wasn't allowed it - referring to the lollipop Santa had given her, personally I couldn't understand why anyone would deprive their child of a special Lolly from Santa, after all it was 3 days before Xmas and a treat!

pigletmania · 28/12/2011 09:40

kneesofnorks Shock, what a horrid scrooge, poor child, that does sound like my mother though, needless to say, I love sweets and coke in adulthood.

Kayano · 28/12/2011 09:40

I got popping candy for Christmas from my mum and I am 26 lol Grin

It is fab!

Remember the raspberry wonks chocolate
Bars with popping candy in them? They were the BEST things ever!!!
(grew up living in sweet shop btw)

SquidgyBiscuits · 28/12/2011 09:41

OP do you know what choking is??

Admittedly I'm not a doctor but I doubt that a packet of popping candy could obstruct somebody's airways. I also don't see how it would make somebody gag when it is put on the tongue to pop?

You sound way over the top and need to get a grip. The fact that your dad waited until you'd gone to the toilet is very sad. He's probably just desperate for them to be normal children and sees how overbearing you are.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 28/12/2011 09:42

Personally i think there are way more important things to worry about in life than this!

I also think that, although buck stops with you as mum, you have to relax and allow your DF to be in charge now and again. Its his relationship with his grandchildren and its something that is very important for all of them.

That might mean that they end up doing stuff you wouldn't normally let them but that's what grandparents are for!

MilkNoSugarPlease · 28/12/2011 09:50

If your DB was coughing then she wasn't choking...she was coughing

CuriosityCola · 28/12/2011 10:05

Yanbu for wanting df to listen to you.

Yadbu for disliking popping candy. It's my all time favourite sweet. Packs in the cupboard have just been joined by a chocolate orange one....yum!

CuriosityCola · 28/12/2011 10:07

Yes, just like space dust Grin

StrandedUnderTheMisltoe · 28/12/2011 10:16

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MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 28/12/2011 10:21

oh I loved space dust!!!

Miette · 28/12/2011 17:52

Kayano have you tried one of these volcanic-popping-candy-chocolate-orange? I put one in my daughters' Xmas stockings and they are lovely.

valiumredhead · 28/12/2011 18:18

My dad gave my 4 month ds choc cake - I nearly had a fit. GP's are meant to be a bit bonkers ime Grin

Popping candy is FAB, I still remember the first time I ever tried it!

Panzee · 28/12/2011 18:22

Popping candy chocolate orange?

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