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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be very annoyed with dps reaction

61 replies

poloi · 26/12/2011 22:39

We had a christmas dinner with my parents and brother on Christmas day. My brother is back from uni and so has been staying over at our house. As a thank you this morning he cooked me bacon sandwichs in bed. Dps family came over for a meal today but my brother used the bacon we had intended to use for pigs in blanket. When we were preparing Dp noticed he'd done this and went mad calling my brother a thick cunt and saying how he was a moron who had ruined the meal.
AIBU to think that Dp was stupid (the fact we served sausages and no bacon had little difference on the meal) and completely out of order for speaking to my brother like that.

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squeakytoy · 26/12/2011 22:42

Your "d"p is a prick.

Your brother sounds like a nice bloke who appreciates you.

Dinner is hardly ruined if a sausage doesnt have a strip of bacon wrapped around it ffs...

Crosshair · 26/12/2011 22:42

I would be annoyed, sounds very rude and uncalled for.

WorraLiberty · 26/12/2011 22:43

Do your DP and your brother call each other cunts a lot?

I mean is that the general way they speak to each other?

pictish · 26/12/2011 22:43

Hmmm...I would not be pleased to find my bacon gone......BUT there's no way in Hell I would react like that!!
Your dp is rude and aggressive to behave like that.
How did your brother react?

fivegomadindorset · 26/12/2011 22:43

Yabu

fivegomadindorset · 26/12/2011 22:44

Sorry forgot the n Blush

SantasStrapon · 26/12/2011 22:44

I don't think it's your brother that's the thick cunt...

KarenMillenCoat · 26/12/2011 22:45

YANBU that sounds horrible, your poor brother was just trying to do something nice. How was he supposed to know what you had planned to serve for lunch?

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poloi · 26/12/2011 22:45

My brother was very apologetic and he is very non-confrontational so he didn't argue back

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BluddyMoFo · 26/12/2011 22:45

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ISayHolmes · 26/12/2011 22:47

That's nasty behaviour. I hope someone said something to him rather than letting it pass!

reelingintheyears · 26/12/2011 22:49

There were plenty of shops open today...

Could you not have just sent DB out for more bacon?

And your DP sounds like a cunt...

lopile · 26/12/2011 22:50

Does he normally fly off the handle over such minor issues?

pictish · 26/12/2011 22:51

Hmm...right. Well, I think going on instinct, that your dp is a rude bastard, who has no respect for others. He disrespected you by taling to your brother like that. Would you address a member of his family in such a manner? Bet you wouldn't.

What has he got to say for himself? Have you confronted him?

SquashedSquirrel · 26/12/2011 22:51

Its a bit pathetic to be honest. I would be upset with DP for reacting like a total twat. How was your DB to know, he was simply trying to help. He made a mistake in using the bacon but its hardly the end of the world is it!!

So no bacon wrapped round the sausages, so what! Sausages on their own are still lovely.

Feel sorry for your DB.

PreHeatedOven · 26/12/2011 22:51

Your poor DB Sad

veerlde · 26/12/2011 22:52

Where were you when this was going on because there is no way I would just allow my younger to be verbally abused in that manner

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poloi · 26/12/2011 22:54

I haven't spoken to him about it yet because we had his family over so I had to get things ready for that and I'm too tired to discuss it tonight but I will talk to him tomorrow.

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garlicnutcracker · 26/12/2011 22:55

My brother was very apologetic and he is very non-confrontational so he didn't argue back

Oh, dear. Are you like that, too?

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poloi · 26/12/2011 22:56

garlic- We are very similar yes

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poloi · 26/12/2011 22:57

But I wouldn't tolerate being spoken to like that

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pictish · 26/12/2011 22:57

I would put a lot of thought into how you are going to broach this.
Remain calm - remember, there is NO justification for how your partner behaved, so be confident that you are in the right. This will help you to stay calm.

pictish · 26/12/2011 22:58

Is your partner often verbally aggressive? To you, for example?

Pandemoniaa · 26/12/2011 22:59

Sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant and unwarranted incident. Shops are open today anyway but tbh, who really gives a fuck about something so trivial? Let alone suggest a meal had been ruined and especially when the use of the bacon was unintentional and for a treat like bacon sarnies.

Is that the way your dp routinely refers to people? Only you'd get very short shrift round here if an honest mistake ended up with the culprit being called a cunt.

Hopefully your dp has some redeeming qualities.

pictish · 26/12/2011 22:59

Ah cross posted. Sorry.

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