to be very annoyed with dps reaction

[poloi]

We had a christmas dinner with my parents and brother on Christmas day. My brother is back from uni and so has been staying over at our house. As a thank you this morning he cooked me bacon sandwichs in bed. Dps family came over for a meal today but my brother used the bacon we had intended to use for pigs in blanket. When we were preparing Dp noticed he'd done this and went mad calling my brother a thick cunt and saying how he was a moron who had ruined the meal.
AIBU to think that Dp was stupid (the fact we served sausages and no bacon had little difference on the meal) and completely out of order for speaking to my brother like that.

I suspect that your DP is jealous of your brother. Your brother did something nice for you, after a pleasant day with your family, and this is how he reacts? Did your DP go to university himself? Maybe that's an issue.

You absolutely can't let him get away with it, don't give in to bullying behaviour. Insist that he apologises.

I expect your lovely partner wouldn't pass the "waitress test"

Your dp thinks your brother is arrogant??

The words pot, kettle and black spring to mind.

YABVVU not to stick up for your brother. I can't believe you let your partner speak to him like that.

How long have you been with DP? How long have you been living together?

If not for very long, I'd be wondering if you are starting to see his true colours.

Total over-reaction on the part of your partner. Your brother did a nice thing for you, your partner should not have gone off on one like that, and certainly not been so abusive to him!

Your partner needs to apologise to your brother, not the other way around! hope you manage to make him do so.

AF, thank you for mentioning the waitress test

As a former waitress myself, I can attest to its reliability

so can I, db

a wonderful gauge of a person's position on the twatometer

How dare your "D"P speak to your brother like that. He apologised, hadn't done it intentionally, whilst trying to do something nice for you.

Your partner is WAY out of order here, I would be very ashamed of his behaviour.

And I say that as someone who generally doesn't get along very well with a large chunk of my family (very traditional and set in their ways, has caused a lot of heartache over the years) and in 99% of cases would back up my own DH about things.. so I'm not saying this from a "blood is thicker than water" perspective.

I'm saying it from a "your DP is a total prick" perspective.

Why do you allow your husband to talk to people like shit? If a partner of mine spoke to a sibling like that when he in fact was doing something nice Id fuck him right off out of my life.

Your husband is an ignorant, no good for nothing piece of shit for calling him that,and I bet you still fuck him stupid tonight.

I hope your kids didn't overhear such foul language!

Nobody, but nobody would dare behave like that in my home and if by some miraculous occurance they did there would have to be an AMAZING public apologyand a firm promise to NEVER ever do it again.

What did your partner do to thank you for cooking and hosting the family meals this year? If you were cooking for his family after an outburst like that I hope you fed everyone else a nice roast and served him up beans on toast! I don't sweat in the kitchen to feed ignorant sous sous with the manners of a pig.

I agree with the other posters your 'd'p is an ignorant pig who would by now be an ex dp. Your poor brother to be spoken to in such a way when he had done nothing wrong.