MIL and her DP have recently gotten back into contact with us after a long estrangement caused by MIL's behaviour and attitude (long, long story spanning several years with a chunk of DH's childhood thrown in for good measure).
At the minute it's a case of let bygones be bygones and I won't mention it of you don't mention it. So it's an open relationship where no topic is off-limits . Still, early days and baby steps, eh?
We've had a DD during the estrangement, this partly contributed to the reunion. She's almost 4mo and MIL's DP, who I'm sure if lovely but is of no blood relation and has not had much to do with either of our children, keeps referring to her as sexy.
"Look at that smile! That's because she knows she's a sexy girl!", "whose a sexy girl?", "oh you're a sexy one, ain't ya?", "come here sexy!" and repeat.
There is nothing at all even remotely sexy about my baby daughter. She soils herself at least once a day, dribbles, wears shirts with ducks on them, sleeps 12+ hours out of any given 24, doesn't work, has no social life, and oh yeah, she's a fucking four month old baby!
Every time he does it I feel physically sick and I immediately take the baby away. I don't think he has an unhealthy interest in her (there is something about him creeps me out but it's entirely unfounded), I just think he's one of those people who overuses the word sexy even when it's not appropriate.
They're very easily offended and the mildest slight, whether real or imagined, can send them into a tizzy of scandalised self-righteous anger resulting in huffs, name-calling, and 14 month long estrangements ....
AIBU to request that they kindly fuck off with calling my baby sexy stop as I don't like it given that the relationship is still on fairly shaky ground and that they are always in the right all of the time and will therefore massively kick off if I say anything?