Ok after days of trying to get xmas prep done around a highly strung 9 yr old and a 10month old with a will of iron;i finally found the answer.Instead of trying to get them and dh to help tell him to take them out.
I was literally dancing around the room.
In the last half an hour i have washed the floors wrapped the rest of the pressies got the veg peeled and im now off for a bath before i fiddle with my balls and chipolatas
Happy farking Christmas.