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Original poster

To think that my well off Auntie could have bought me a house warmer as well

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 13:32

My niece has recently moved into her first house and my much well off auntie bought her some vouchers to spend as she wishes.
I moved house a alittle while before my niece I recieved some gifts off some of my family which was very nice.
Nothing off my auntie I was out with my auntie and other members of my family when my auntie bought the vouchers for my niece.
I feel quite hacked off about it tbh.
My mom my aunties sister said its because my auntie was invited for tea to my nieces house whereas my auntie has just been along for a look at my house and a cup of tea and cake.
My mom agrees though that its not really fair.

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BendyBob · 23/12/2011 13:56

Oh my!Shock. Don't you know that 'expecting a present' is in mumsnet's top 10 of deadly sins??Wink

(Reading the Daily Mail is no1 but if you post a 'sorry' next to your link you are excusedGrin)

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 13:58

I would prefer posts from sensible people without the swearing please. get ready for more slating craze

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Pancakeflipper · 23/12/2011 14:00

So Crazedupmum - do you have any inkling to why she didn't buy you vouchers for this house move? Does she disapprove of you? Does she not really have any contact with you?

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:01

she doesn,t have much contact with any of us as she is always quite busy. her doing tbh.

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fhdl34 · 23/12/2011 14:02

I think it's her money, her choice but I can see how you might not like being treated equally but she isn't obliged to give a gift. My father has given money to me and my siblings for various things at one point or another but he gives according to our need. None of us have a problem with it but that's how we were brought up, we don't really have rivalry/jealousy like that in our family.

WhereYouLeftIt · 23/12/2011 14:02

Is your niece your aunt's granddaughter?

Pancakeflipper · 23/12/2011 14:04

Well the only way to find out is to ask her.

For all you know though your niece might keep in contact with her more via emails, cards, etc... You might not have the full picture.

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:04

I know she sometimes disapproves of some members of my family who she has been quite generous with in the past and she never gets a phone call off them.
Not me for some reason I have always been left out of any generosity from her.

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:08

No my niece is my sisters dd. I am my aunties niece

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Pancakeflipper · 23/12/2011 14:09

I think you shrug this off. There will be some reason why you are not included in the generosity. It is probably trivial. But don't waste your time brooding on it. It is someone who doesn't really have a role in your life.

FunnysInTheGarden · 23/12/2011 14:09

she most likely hates you. It's the only reasonable explanation. Are you usually this easily offended?

StealthPolarBear · 23/12/2011 14:10

i imagined I giant knitted thing to entirely cover your house. Bit like a tea cosy but for houses

cheesesarnie · 23/12/2011 14:11

why should she?
she can do or not do whatever she wants with her money regardless of how well off she is.

how old are you 12?

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:11

I expect that I must be. Oh well I will never understand relatives

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LEttletownofBOFlehem · 23/12/2011 14:12

God, that's so upsetting- how awful for you, she sounds like a complete bitch. Are you able to access any counselling at all?

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:13

I think the better off people are the worse they are though

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usualsuspect · 23/12/2011 14:13

never mind

EssentialFattyAcid · 23/12/2011 14:14

YABU by taking this to heart - it doesn't matter, don't let it get to you

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:14

I won,t get counselling this side of christmas though will I. I will have to suffer in silence

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LEttletownofBOFlehem · 23/12/2011 14:15

Have you read that book about toxic families? She might have a personality disorder.

Pancakeflipper · 23/12/2011 14:15

No you won't therapy now, you'll just have to tough it out eh?

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crazedupmom · 23/12/2011 14:16

I think that many a person on here may think the same of me

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/12/2011 14:17

Oh you poor thing. You're how old again? I suggest you take that sense of entitlement and throw it at the silly old bitch. Next?

slavetofilofax · 23/12/2011 14:17

Maybe when your dd gets her first house your Aunt will buy her vouchers too. Until then, you won't know if it's unfiar, because you aren't the same generation as your niece.

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 23/12/2011 14:17

I don't know, Pancake- maybe if OP calls NHS Direct, they could assess whether an emergency psych referral is appropriate?