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To think that after 6 years of marriage my husband might know how I take my tea?

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designerbaby · 10/12/2011 00:32

Or even care about making a cup I would enjoy?

I like: strongish, one sugar, one sweetner.
He makes (on the rare occasion he makes me one): so weak it's barely tea, half a sugar - unstirred. For me, undrinkable. If I'm in the kitchen I go back, stick the tea bag back in (if he's left it in the ramekin we use for the purpose) add a sweetner etc. I might as well have made it myself. If I'm working 2 floors up it generally goes untouched.

I know, it's hardly assault and battery, but it makes me feel like he doesn't really know me or give a toss, y'know?

It's not as much if a problem ad it might be. His usual trick is to say - would you like a cup if tea? And then do nothing whatsoever about it. To the point that I think it's his way if saying "Would you like a cup if tea? Oh, good, you can make one for me while you're at it".

Oh, and he made HIS HALF if the bed yesterday. I mean, really?!

I probably am BU. But he's really getting on my tits just at the mo.

[Shuffles off to count blessings, through gritted teeth...]

db
xx

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Icameheretotroll · 10/12/2011 00:36

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WorraLiberty · 10/12/2011 00:37

Never mind the tea a minute (though I feel your pain!)

He made HIS HALF of the bed? Shock

It's not often words fail me but LMAO!!

TheSecondComing · 10/12/2011 00:43

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designerbaby · 10/12/2011 00:49

Marvellous aren't they? 12 hours after coming home after having a traumatic 51 hours of labour carnage with DD1, a 3rd degree tear and various other unmentionable injuries, DH popped out for four hours. Came back looking very pleased with himself because he'd bought me not one, but two presents.

A steamer and a slow cooker.

I cried. He didn't understand why...

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buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:02

Ask yourself why you value yourself so fucking little that you'd accept this shit.

Made his half of the bed?

That says it all. Don't expect him to change and don't fucking come crying to me in the interim.

FunkyChicken · 10/12/2011 01:07

OP - if it makes you feel any better we've had full rows started on this very topic. Sad but true. Its not the tea, its what it implies.

TheSecondComing · 10/12/2011 01:07

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buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:11

Do I?

It annoys me when women accept this level of 'I don't give a shitness' as normal. It's not normal.

Most guys will take the trouble to remember if their aunt takes sugar or not. Why not their wives?

TheSecondComing · 10/12/2011 01:22

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AgentZigzag · 10/12/2011 01:24

I'm sure your DH would be very bothered if you cared even half of what buzz seems to think you do OP Grin

Maybe he's not that bothered about how you take your tea? He doesn't have to drink it does he?

Get back to your student days (if you had them) and make yourself a fully laminated (so right posh) tea chart to stick behind the kettle (or on it if he's that bad) Smile

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:29

Can you not see that making half the bed is funking weird?

If I was making a drink for myself, I'd make one for my dh (that he'd like, automatically) - is that strange? And vice versa.

WorraLiberty · 10/12/2011 01:30

That says it all. Don't expect him to change and don't fucking come crying to me in the interim

In over 20 years of using the internet, I think that has to be one of the funniest posts I've ever read!!

Unless of course the OP is PMing buzz and crying in her inbox? LOL

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:31

I must be mad. Confused

NeuromanticisedVisionsofXmas · 10/12/2011 01:31

My husband makes my tea perfectly. However we have recently separated, so its not a perfect correlation for happiness.

You drink weird tea though, maybe he's just telling you that?

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:32

It was OTT {grin]

WorraLiberty · 10/12/2011 01:34

LOL just a tad OTT but it did make me laugh Grin

I like my tea so strong you can stand a spoon in it and I don't take sugar...therefore I just tell DH or the kids to leave my teabag in.

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:35

I'd like to point out it's the not making his half of the bed, that makes it serious and stupid from my pov. Grin

It's not the tea-making or lack, thereof.

It's the not thinking of the his partner. Not knowing what she likes. The fact we have people posting here whose parners don't even seem to know what a clitoris is.

WeThreeKingsOfMardyBra · 10/12/2011 01:36

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buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:37

I am drunk Grin

WeThreeKingsOfMardyBra · 10/12/2011 01:37

That was a useful contribution. Hmm. Back in a minute.

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:41

I think it's shit to not tell how we feel. I think it's shit to expect the men to miraculously understand. I totaly uderstand how we accept things we shouldn't because we need to feel love or acceptance.

AgentZigzag · 10/12/2011 01:41

Grin at you drunken posting buzz, my favorite.

Are you drunk and gone off to spew Mardy? Grin

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:45

Look in the beginning of this thread, designerbaby was asking if her partner remembering what kind of brew she liked was unreasonable? To anyone who is not a idiot, the answer is no.

FUCK YOU.

buzzswellington · 10/12/2011 01:46

[GRIN] Not at you, zig.

AgentZigzag · 10/12/2011 01:46

Was that verbal vomit aimed at me buzz?

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